Indlela yokusinda ukukhashelwa komyeni wakhe?

Omunye osanda kufunga ubuqotho nothando lwaphakade angakhipha indaba yengoma ibe yingoma edabukisayo yenhliziyo ephukile. Kuyacaca ukuthi akuwona wonke owesifazane okwazi ukubhekana nalokhu okwenzekile futhi athole amandla okuthethelela ukukhishwa komyeni wakhe, kodwa namanje anqobe intukuthelo, aqonde imizwelo yakhe - lena yindlela efanele yokubuyisela ubudlelwane, okuyinto kuphela owesifazane wangempela, oqinile futhi ohlakaniphile ongakwazi.

Ukulungiswa kwesinyathelo ngezinyathelo ngemuva kokwedluliswa kwamadoda

1. Isenzo esibaluleke kunazo zonke nesokuqala sowesifazane owake wafunda mayelana nokukhashelwa nokukhashelwa komyeni wakhe ukuthukuthela ngokomzwelo. Ukukhamuluka, ukukhala, ama-hysteric kukhona into engokwemvelo futhi angakuvumela ukuba uphume ebuhlungu obuphakathi, ngaleyo ndlela kulula futhi usinde ekukhawuleni komuntu. Ukuzinakekela wena, ulinde usuku lapho zonke izinto zizonqamuka futhi zizolile futhi zijabule, akuzona neze ezilungile ngokuqondene nawe.
2. Kubalulekile ukuthola umuntu ozobe eseduze nalesi sikhathi. Kungaba omunye wabangane noma izihlobo. Bayosiza ukuphazamiseka inkinga, futhi futhi ekukhulumisaneni okuhlangene nabo, kuyokwazi ukuthola impendulo hhayi kuphela ukuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani ukukhwabanisa komyeni, kodwa kanjani nokuthi yini, nokuthi yikuphi ngempela, kuzodingeka ukuthi ishintshwe ebuhlotsheni obuseduze.
3. Ukuvakashela isazi sengqondo kusebenza futhi ekulwa nokukhohlisa kwabantu. Umbono womuntu ongekho ngaphandle kwesimo esivele kuvela akufanele nje kube ngumuntu oseduze, ngoba lokhu kuzokwenza ukuhlola okuphelele okuphelele.
4. Ukuxhumana nomyeni wakhe kufanele kube khona njalo, kuqale ngisho nangesikhathi esaziwayo ngokuhlukumezeka, kodwa ukuthethelela ngokufanele ukukhonjwa komyeni wakhe akugcini nje ukukhumbula icala, kubalulekile ukukhumbula njalo izikhathi ezijabulisayo zobudlelwane bomshado. Kuyadingeka okokuqala ukukhulumisana kuphela uma kunesidingo futhi emva kwesikhathi esithile kudinga ukuzwakala izikhalo zabo ngokuzwakalayo, bathi omunye nomunye.
5. Ukwakhiwa kwempilo emisha kuyisiteji sokuthi ekuqaleni kwakubonakala kungokoqobo nokuthi yiziphi abesifazane abangazicabangi ngisho, ngoba imizwelo eyayinabantu abaningi ngaleso sikhathi ivame ukuhloswa ngokuthi ingaphila emva kokukhashelwa komyeni, okungukuthi yedwa. Kodwa lokhu kuyisinqumo esingalungile. Le nkinga idinga ukunqotshwa ndawonye, ​​ngisho nangaphandle kokuxhumana nomunye, kuphela ngokuhlala ndawonye. Ngokushesha le ndlela yokuzivumelanisa nezimo izongena esixazululweni esifanele senkinga.

Izakhamuzi eziningi zengqondo phakathi nalesi sikhathi zeluleka imizwelo yabo emibi, intukuthelo yabo yokuqondisa ngendlela ehlukile. Ukunakekelwa, ukunakekelwa, intshiseko yimuphi umsebenzi noma ukucwiliswa okugcwele emsebenzini yilokho okusiza ukuvumelanisa nokubukeka empilweni yakho. Isilwane, njengesidakamizwa sokucindezeleka, sisiza izihlobo, abangane, izihlobo. Ukuzibophezela, ukuzivikela ezweni langaphandle akusizi, kodwa kukhulisa kuphela isimo sangaphakathi. Naphezu kokuthi izibalo zisho ukuthi cishe yonke imindeni yesihlanu ibhekene nenkani, izazi zengqondo zithi ukuhlubuka komuntu kuyinto evamile, okuyinto kubo akuyona into ebalulekile, ngokungafani nowesifazane. Kuyacaca ukuthi isitatimende esinjalo akuyona induduzo, kepha ngisho kulo mzuzu omuhle weqiniso lokuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kuyinto evamile, kusenza ucabange ngokuthethelelwa komyeni wakho, ngaleyo ndlela ube namandla nokuhlakanipha.

Khumbula ukuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kukhona ubunzima bokuphila, kufanele uhlale uthola amandla okuhamba endleleni yokuphila.