Wonke umuntu empilweni yakhe wayesaba futhi wazi kahle ukuthi lo mzwelo okhukhumezayo ungakuvimbela kanjani ukucabanga ngokuzwakalayo ngesikhathi sengozi futhi uthatha izinqumo ezifanele ezidingekayo esimweni esibucayi, esheshayo futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ngokwemvelo, ukwesaba kuklanyelwe ukusivikela ezinsongweni ezihlukahlukene, kodwa kunezikhathi lapho kubalulekile ukunqoba khona, ngakho-ke sonke sidinga ukuthi sibe namasu amakhono angokwengqondo nolwazi oluthile ukuze siqonde ukuthi singazibulala kanjani, esabizwa ngokuthi "ngesikhathi sokuthula" .
Ukunqoba i-Dragon
Kunezindlela eziningi zokusiza ukubhekana nale "drako", kusukela ekuzindleni nasekulawuleni ukuphefumula, ezindleleni eziqine kakhulu eziphoqelela umuntu ukuba angene ngamabomu endaweni engasondelene nengozi yangempela. Lezi zinsuku zivame ukusetshenziselwa ekuqeqeshweni kwabasebenzi abasebenzisa umthetho.
Kodwa, yiqiniso, kukhona futhi okuthiwa indlela yokuveza, evumela ukuqonda indlela yokubulala ukwesaba, ngokuqondile ngesikhathi somungozi. Okokuqala udinga ukuvala ingqondo. Kusobala ukuthi ukwenza lokhu uma ukhukhumeza esikhumbeni sakho futhi inhliziyo yakho ishaya njengokungathi ugijimise imarathon kunzima kakhulu. Into yokuqala okufanele ukwenze ukuguqula ukunakwa kwakho. Zama ukugxila eminye imininingwana encane, isibonelo ngokuqhekeka kodonga noma iphethini lehembe lakho. Imizuzwana embalwa ucabanga nje ngesimo nombala we "into" oyikhethile. Cabanga ngalokhu ngokuningiliziwe. Uyomangala, kodwa ngokuvamile isebenza, ngakho-ke uma ubuyela "esimweni esibuhlungu" ngezikhathi ezimbalwa, uzothola ukuthi uyakwazi ukuhlola isimo ngokucophelela.
Enye indlela yokukhubaza ukuzwa ukwesaba ukuphefumula. Cabanga ukuthi ubheka konke okuvela phezulu noma okuvela ngaphandle, nokuthi umuntu oshona manje okwesabisa akusiwe, kodwa omunye umuntu ohlala okwesikhashana emzimbeni wakho. Wena, ekuphepheni okuphelele esimweni esingenakuhlanjululwa, ungabheka okwenzekayo ngokuthula kweBuddha futhi ubone indlela yokuphuma kwimeko yamanje. Uma nje uqonde ukuthi yini okudingeka yenziwe, "buyela emzimbeni" futhi uthathe izinkalo zikahulumeni ezandleni zakho. Ukuqeda ukwesaba akulona kunzima kangaka, kufanele nje ubheke amehlo akhe. Emva kwalokho, ingqondo iyabanda, impulane iyinto evamile, futhi imicabango iyabonakala ngokucacile.
Kunokulwa?
Kodwa kuthiwani uma ukwesaba kukukhathaza ngisho nalapho kungekho usongo? Indlela yokuqeda ukwesaba okweqile ekuphathweni kwengqondo ezibhaliwe ngokuphelele. Ezigaba zokuqala, uma i- phobia ingakaze ibe yi-paranoia ye-neurotic, kungenzeka ukuthi ukwazi ukubhekana nale nhlekelele eyedwa. Zama ukukhipha ukwesaba kwakho "izikrini nezikrini." Futhi akukhathaleki ukuthi kungabe ukwesaba ukugwinya, noma ukuthi ama-hooligans angaba kanjani eduze kwakho kuzo zonke izingcingo. Phendula umbuzo: yini oyikhathazayo ngempela? Yeka ukuthi kuyingozi kangakanani ngempela? Yini ongayiphikisa engxenyeni yakho? Uma ngabe unikezwa ukukhethwa kwezikhali zokuzivikela, ungakhetha ini? Futhi ngokuhlaselwa? Kukuphi isimo somzimba kungcono ukuyisebenzisa? Pheqa ngekhanda izinketho eziningana "zempi." Uyabona, usuvele ucabangela uhlelo lokulwa nokuhlasela, ngakho-ke usuphendukele ebusweni "besitha" futhi ukwesaba kuhamba kancane kancane, ukunikeza imicabango emihle. Maduzane uzobona ukuthi ingozi mhlawumbe inganekwane futhi uma ikhula ibe yingozi yangempela, uzobe ulungele kakhulu ukuthi uzobhekana nazo zonke "izilo" ngaphandle kokushaya ijwabu leso.
Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuxazulula le nkinga ngokwakho, uxhumane nochwepheshe oqeqeshiwe futhi uyokukhetha indlela eyodwa ezokusiza ukuthi uqonde ukuthi ungaqeda kanjani ukwesaba kwangaphakathi. Imiphumela emihle ilethwa yi-hypnotherapy, futhi kwezinye izimo isebenza
I-psychology yendlela yokuqeda ukwesaba iningi. Futhi ngempela ingasiza, kodwa kuphela uma ufuna futhi wenze isinyathelo sokuqala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, njengoba bekusho, indaba yobuchwepheshe futhi emva kwesikhashana ukwesaba kwakho kuzoqala ukwesaba wena.