Ekuphileni kwethu, kunenkathazo enkulu eyenzekayo, encane futhi hhayi kakhulu, iqoqa, ilahlekelwe intukuthelo, iphoqele ukuba ihlukane nabayeni babo futhi imemezele ekati eliye laphenduka ngaphansi kwezinyawo. Khona-ke kufika isikhathi sezidakamizwa, esizigwinyayo, siqalekisa amazwi okugcina wokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo. Futhi ngalesi sikhathi asicabangi ngalokhu ngaphandle kokuthuthumela okwesaba umuntu ngeke nje akwazi ukusinda. Ake sibone lokho okucindezelayo okudingeka sikwesabe, futhi yiziphi okufanele sibonge ngethuba lokuthuthukisa.
Umqondo wokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka kwengqondo
Kuyini ukucindezeleka ? Kusukela ekubukeni komuntu oyedwa, lezi yizimpikiswano eziphazamisayo ezisiholela ekuphumeni, ngakho-ke kufanele zigweme. Kodwa umdlandla uphinde ucindezeleke, ngakho-ke kuthiwani ngokuyeka uthando, ukuhamba nomculo omuhle ukuze ungalahlekelwa ukuthula kwakho kwengqondo okuyigugu? Ngokusobala, lo mcabango wawubuye uvakashele izingqondo ososayensi, futhi ngenxa yocwaningo bafika esiphethweni sokuthi akuzona zonke izingcindezi ezilimazayo ngendlela efanayo. Ngesihlandlo sokuqala lo mbono waqala ngomkhuba wesayensi nguHans Hansye ngo-1936, futhi wawuchaza njengengxabano ephendukela kunoma yisiphi isidingo. Okokuthi, ukucindezeleka kuyindlela yokusabela yemvelo, evumela umuntu ukuba azivumelanise nezimo zokuphila eziguqukayo. Kuvela ukuthi akudingekile ukulwa nalolu daba, kungenjalo - ukufa kusuka ekushintsheni okuncane emlandweni weqiniso. Kodwa-ke kungaba kanjani ukukhathazeka okwedlulele ngokweqile okuholela emiphumeleni ehlukahlukene engajabulisayo? U-Selye wakwazi ukuthola impendulo yalo mbuzo, ehlukanisa izinhlobo ezimbili zokucindezeleka: eustress nokucindezeleka. Esikhathini sokuqala, sikhuluma ngesenzo sokuphila esivela kithi ngokwemvelo ukuze siphile. Kodwa usizi luyinto efana neyodwa eyenzeka ngaphansi kwethonya lemithwalo engathandeki kakhulu.
I-psychology yanamuhla isandise kakhulu umqondo wokucindezeleka nokucindezeleka, ukuze kunqunywe isikhathi lapho ukusabela okuwusizo kuguqula isimo esibi. Izazi zezokwelapha zaseMelika zenze isixazululo esikhulu sezimo ezicindezelayo, lapho umcimbi ngamunye obalulekile uthola khona amaphuzu. Uma ngonyaka inani lamaphoyinti lifinyelela ku-300, khona-ke singakhuluma ngokuvela kokusongela impilo yethu. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ngalesi sikali, izenzakalo ezijabulisayo zinesisindo esikhulu, isibonelo, umshado kanye nokuzalwa komntwana kulinganiselwa emazingeni angu-50 no-39 ngokulandelana. Ngakho-ke, noma ngabe unyaka usuqedile kakhulu ngezenzakalo ezijabulisayo, izinga lokushayisana kwemizwa lizoqala ukuhamba. Okusho ukuthi, ukuzama ukuzola phansi ngemuva kokuphazamiseka okukhulu ngokomzwelo, ungakhohlwa mayelana nentuthuko enhle.