Ngaphambi kokunikeza incazelo yezocwaningo lwezobulili, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ubulili - ubulili bobulili abuyinto ehambelanako nezokwelapha kwengqondo, futhi ezweni lanamuhla kunezinhlobo ezingamatshumi ayisishiyagalombili eziyinhloko.
Ngingubani?
Into yukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu olungele ukwamukela ukubizwa ngokwemvelo kweyabo "Mina", eyanikezwa yona ekuzalweni, futhi ukuzisiza kwabo okuhlukile kuhluke kakhulu. Kodwa, ngandlela-thile, noma ubani ozizwa ngokwakhe, uyilungu lomphakathi okumelwe asebenze ngalo. Futhi lokhu ubuhlobo bakhe nomphakathi, indima nemisebenzi ayenzayo kuye ngokuhambisana nokuzikhethela kwengqondo ngokobulili futhi usebenza ngokuqondene nokucwaninga ngokobulili.
Ngaphansi kokusebenzisana ngokobulili, abaningi ngokuphambene basho ubudlelwane kuphela ezindaweni ezihlukene phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Eqinisweni, ububanzi bobuhlobo obunjalo bubanzi futhi abubandakanyi nje kuphela umsebenzi ohlanganyelwe ngabanye abamele abalingani bobulili obuhlukile, kodwa futhi nezinhlobo ezahlukene zokuxhumana phakathi kobulili, kanye nokubambisana nabantu namanye amaqembu obulili.
I-Patriarchate noma ...?
Ngamunye wethu unendima okufanele ayenze kulokhu kuphila komphakathi futhi awufaki nje kuphela ngezinto eziphilayo eziphathelene nalokhu noma ngokobulili, kodwa nangomlando wamasiko nezamasiko weqembu lomphakathi esikulo.
Kuze kube yamuva, umphakathi wawuyi-80% wezinzalamizi, okungukuthi, imisebenzi yamadoda nabesifazane yayichazwe ngokucacile kuwo. Namuhla isithombe siyashintsha futhi ikakhulukazi emazweni aseNtshonalanga, imingcele yobuchwepheshe bezobulili bobuholi cishe ayibonakali. Umuntu unenkululeko yokuthola ukuthi yikuphi okwakamukelwa ngokuvamile ngenxa yezocansi zakhe eziphilayo ezithatha yena ngokwakhe, futhi kungenzani. Lokhu kusebenza kuzo zonke izindawo zemisebenzi yakhe, kusukela ochwepheshe kuya kobudlelwane bomndeni. Kunezibonelo eziningi lapho owesifazane ethatha indima "yokudla" emndenini, futhi wonke umuntu uyazinikela ekukhuliseni izingane nokugcina indlu.
Ngayo yonke inhlobonhlobo ebonakalayo yobulili bezenhlalakahle ezweni lanamuhla, ingqondo yezobulili ayifani ngempela. Noma kunjalo, ilawulwa yizici ezimbili zendabuko: owesilisa nowesifazane, bavele bahlanganise ngokuhlukahluka okuhlukahlukene. Izinga lokuba ngokocansi oluthile lokubambisana lithathwa yiwo wonke umuntu, futhi lokhu kukhetha kufinyelela ngisho nasezimpikweni ezinjalo ezizimele njengokubonakala nokuziphatha.
Iningi labantu emhlabeni jikelele lizihlanganisa ngokugcwele nobulili abaluthola ngesikhathi sokuzalwa futhi ziziphatha ngokuvumelana nezindima ezazinikezwa emphakathini. Labo abazizwa bevaliwe "emzimbeni wesinye isizwe" bakhululekile ukuwuguqula, futhi izinga lokuguqulwa kwezinguquko ezinjalo lingase lihluke: umuntu ulinganiselwe ezintweni zokuboya izinwele nokugqoka, kanti omunye ulungele ukulala phansi komsizi wesigqila. Kodwa ekugcineni, lowo muntu uzobe ephethe izibonakaliso zomunye wesilisa. Ngempela, imvelo ayizange idale ingxenye yesithathu. Ngisho nase-hermaphrodites, kuphela ukubumbana kwalezi zici ezimbili kubonakala. Ngakho-ke, umehluko wobulili, empeleni, hhayi kakhulu futhi ochwepheshe bahlanganyela kakhulu ekutadisheni izici ezivamile zabameleli bamaqembu ahlukene ngokocansi.
Shuma, wesifazane!
Naphezu kwenkululeko yentando yeningi yezwe lanamuhla, elikhuthaza amalungelo omuntu, noma kunjalo, amacala okubandlululwa ngokobulili awavamile, futhi lokhu kukhulunywa ngokukhethekile emkhakheni wezobuchwepheshe. I-gender psychology yamadoda inzima kangangokuthi bayabheka ukuthi owesifazane ulingana naye ngenxa yokungafani kokuphila kwakhe kanye nenhloso yemvelo yokubeletha nokubeletha izingane, okuvela kumbono wesilisa kuholela ezinkingeni eziningi, njengekhefu lokubeletha noma impilo engekho ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Futhi ngenxa yalokho, ukuqhutshwa komsebenzi kufanele kulungiswe ngokufanele, okungamukelekile kakhulu ngabaqashi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile
Amasiko nendlela yokuphila eyakhiwe ngamakhulu eminyaka ayinakuguqulwa phakathi nobusuku, ngoba akunakwenzeka ukuphoqelela bonke abantu ukuba bathande nomakhelwane babo kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangubani bobulili, kodwa ukuzama ukuthola ukungathandabuzi ebuhlotsheni, akungabazeki ukuthi kuyadingeka nokuthi ngabe kuyotholakala yini, ngezindlela eziningi kuxhomeke ekuthuthukisweni komphakathi wonke.