Umbono wezinxabano

Isenzakalo esinjengokungqubuzana (ngomqondo obanzi) yingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yenhlangano yokuphila. Akukhathazi nje kuphela ukuphila kwezilwane eziphilayo. Ukungqubuzana kwabantu, izilwane nezitshalo - isimo semvelo sokuthuthukiswa kwazo. Emphakathini wesintu, ukungqubuzana kuyisisusa sokuthuthukiswa komphakathi.

Njengamanje, izingxabano zicutshungulwa yizesayensi ezinjengezenhlalo nezengqondo . Ngokuyinhloko, kungase kudingeke ukuthi i-conflictology isanda kuvela njengeyisayensi ehlukile, okwamanje, engeke ithathwe njengengxenye eyaziwayo yolwazi.

Uhlangothi lwesayense lombuzo

Emcabangweni wezesayensi waseNtshonalanga YaseYurophu, izinkolelo eziningi zesimanje nezengokwenhlalo zengxabano zenziwa. Ososayensi abamele izindawo ezihlukahlukene zefilosofi, izinkomba ezihlukahlukene ezengqondo kanye nemiphakathi yezenhlalo, babe nemaphuzu okubuka okuhlukile futhi banikele umbono wabo kanye nokuchazwa kwalesi simo, kanye nezindlela zokuxazulula izingxabano.

Esikhathini sezifundo zokuziphatha kwezihloko ezimpikiswaneni, amaphethini wokuziphatha ajwayelekile abonakala. Kulezi zizathu, enye yezinkambiso zanamuhla zokuziphatha komuntu kule mpikiswano yavela (kubonakala sengathi umbono ohlongozwayo usondele kakhulu eqinisweni).

Ngokuziphatha ezimweni zokuphikisana

Kungenzeka ukuhlukanisa izibonelo eziyisisekelo zokuziphatha komuntu kule mpikiswano.

1. Ukwakha . Lesi sihloko sibonisa ukuthakazelelwa kumphikisana, ukuvuleka futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukukhuthazela nokuzithiba, uzama ukuxazulula (ukuxazulula) impikiswano; laconic futhi enembile ezenzweni nezitatimende.
2. Ukubhubhisa . Lesi sihloko sizama ukukhulisa impikiswano, ngakho-ke siyakuphikisana njalo nomlingani, sihlolisise umphikisi; ibonisa ukusola kumphikisi, ayihambisani nemithetho yokuziphatha, evamile kulo mphakathi.
3. I-Conformist . Isihloko sibonisa ukungasebenzi, ukungahambisani nokuthambekela kokwenza izivumelwano; ekuhlolweni, ekwahluleleni, ekuziphatheni, kukhona nokuntuleka kokuvumelana; uzama ukugwema izinkinga ezinkulu.

Indlela yokuziphatha?

Yiqiniso, ngayinye yalezi zindlela zokuziphatha okukhulunywa ngazo empikiswaneni ishintshwe yilokho okushiwo ingxabano, uhlobo lwesimo, ukubaluleka kobudlelwane bomuntu siqu, kanye nokuqondiswa komuntu ngamunye okwezingqondo nezokuziphatha kwabahlanganyeli. Ngokwezinga elithile, amaphethini wokuziphatha abahlanganyeli abonisa izilungiselelo ezithile zesifundo ngasinye.

Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi imodeli yokuziphatha yokuphumelela kunazo zonke (ngisho nasendaweni yokubuka ye pragmatic) iyakha.

Ingozi yokubonisa Isimo se-conformist kule mpikiswano siwukuthi singakwazi ukufaka isandla ekwandiseni ukuhlukunyezwa komphikisi, futhi kwezinye izimo - ukuvusa ukuhlukunyezwa. Yilokho, empeleni, isikhundla sokuvumelana singabhekwa njengokulimaza. Ihluke ekubhubhiseni kuphela. Kodwa-ke, hhayi bonke futhi hhayi njalo njalo ngokungavumelani, isikhundla sokuvumelana ngokufanayo singaba nendima enhle uma ukuphikisana lapho kuvela khona ukungqubuzana akubalulekile.

Kusukela emibhalweni yokuphikisana kwabantu, okujulile futhi okuthakazelisayo yi-psychoanalysis (kuzo zonke izindlela zayo zanamuhla), Psychological analysis and psychology gestalt.