Ukugxila kokunakwa yikhono lokugcina ukunakwa okufanayo. I-psychology yokunaka ibonisa ukuthi ukuhlushwa kungenye yezakhiwo zayo eziyisisekelo, futhi ikakhulukazi inquma izinga lokusebenza kahle nokuphumelela ekuxazululeni izinkinga ezihlukahlukene.
Izinqubo eziningi zidinga ukuhlushwa okuqhubekayo kithi, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukulondoloza, ngoba lokhu kudinga ukungathí sina kwengqondo futhi ngokushesha kuholele ekukhatheni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kukhona ukwephulwa okukhethekile kokugxila, okuyinto eyenza kube nzima kakhulu futhi cishe akunakwenzeka.
Ukuphazanyiswa kokuhlushwa
Ukungaqapheli kungenziwa ngezinhlobo eziningana:
- Ukungabi khona kwengqondo kweqiniso kungesimo lapho umuntu anakeka ngokukhululekile ngaphandle kokuyeka into ethize. Ngezinye izikhathi kuthiwa yi-prostration, uma kungumbuzo wokungabikho kwengqondo emqondweni omubi futhi uhambisana nokunciphisa amandla, ukungabi nentshisekelo kulokho okukwenzekayo, isithukuthezi, njll. Kungenzeka uma kwenzeka ngokweqile, ukungabikho ukulala, impilo embi noma ukusebenza isikhathi eside somsebenzi wokuzidela.
- Ukungabikho kokucabanga okungabonakali kubonakala uma umuntu engakwazi ukusabalalisa ngeso lengqondo phakathi kwemvelo yangaphandle nemicabango yakhe. Isizathu siwukugxila emzimbeni ongaphakathi.
- Ukufundisa kuyinto ephezulu kakhulu ukushintsha.
- Ukungalaleli okudala kungukushintshwa okubi kokunakwa.
- Ukwehluleka kokubangela ukungabi namandla - ukungabikho kokugxila, ukunqanda ngokucophelela imicabango mayelana nezinto ezithile, ukunganakwa kwazo.
- Ukungabikho okukhethiwe - ukukhipha izinto ezijwayelekile, isibonelo, ukushaya kwenhliziyo okujwayelekile akusikali ukunaka kwethu, njengendlela yokuphefumula, nokukhipha iwashi ekamelweni lakho.
Izindlela zokugxila
Ukunakekelwa kungaba ngokuzikhethela noma kungenakuzibandakanya, ngokulandelana, ukugxila okukwenziwa kwenziwa kokubili ngokuzikhandla kwentando futhi ngokwayo, kungashiwo, ngokuzithandela, ngokusekelwe entshisekelo yomuntu siqu kule nto. Akudingeki ukuthi, esimweni sokuqala, kukhona amandla amaningi adingekayo ekunakekeleni isikhathi eside. Kungabangela ukukhathala, futhi kunalokho kunqunyelwe ngesikhathi. Ukugxila, okusekelwe entshisekelo kulokhu kuyinto engathandekayo, futhi kunomthelela wokukhiqiza okukhulu. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza izinto oyithandayo futhi ubangele isithakazelo sangempela.
Indlela yokuhlakulela ukunakwa?
Ikhono lokugxila ezintweni ezithile likhula ngobudala. Kunzima izingane ukuba zigxile isikhathi eside, kodwa kakade ezinganeni zasesikoleni samabanga aphansi, njengomthetho, zingaba lula izifundo futhi ngaleyo ndlela zithole ikhono lokufunda. Uma kungenjalo, kungase kube khona ukukhuluma ngokungahambisani nokunye ukwephulwa.
Ukuqwashisa okuqakathekileko kutholakala enkambweni yokufunda. Ingane kufanele igxile enkambweni eyodwa isikhathi eside, kancane kancane ijwayele ukuthwala imithwalo enjalo futhi ihlangane nabo kalula. Ngesikhathi sokuphothula iziqu, umuntu ukhululekile ukunakwa ngokukhululekile, okuvumela ukuba ahlanganyele emisebenzini yobuchwepheshe. Uma uzibheka njengomuntu ophazamisekile, uphazamiseka ngaso sonke isikhathi ekusebenzeni imisebenzi yangaphandle kanye nemicabango yakho, okuvimbela umsebenzi ophumelelayo futhi ukhulule ezinye izinkinga, ungazama ukusebenzisa amasu akhethekile ukuze ugxile ukunakwa kwakho, zama ukukhulisa isithakazelo (isibonelo, usungule isisusa esengeziwe).
Kunezivivinyo ezihlukahlukene zokugxilisa ukunakwa:
- imiqondo yobuchopho. Thatha iphepha kanye nepensile, qala ukudweba umugqa, ugxilise konke ukunakwa kwakho ependeni. Njalo ukunakekelwa okuphazamisayo, ukudweba i-zigzag, bese uqhubeka ugxila emgqeni oshayelayo. Lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba ulinganise ukuthi ungahlala unake isikhathi esingakanani, kancane kancane izikhala zizoba isikhathi eside;
- maphakathi nendawo yonke. Indlela enhle yokuchitha isikhathi nokuzuza ezokuthutha zomphakathi noma emgqeni. Khetha into, isibonelo, iphosta yokukhangisa. Zikhethele isikhathi esithile futhi ugxile entweni, cabanga nje ngakho, kuze kube yisikhathi sokuphuma.
Khulisa kancane kancane igebe; - ukubala. Uma, ngenkathi ufunda incwadi, uqaphele ukuthi awukwazi ukubamba ukunaka, phawula ama-margins njalo uma uphazamiseka. Buyela endaweni lapho okuqukethwe kwakho okukhumbulayo bese uqala ukufunda khona. Ekupheleni kwekhasi, isikhathi ngasinye, khumbula ngokwengqondo amaphuzu aphambili. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, inani lamanothi kufanele linciphise.
Uma izinkinga zokunakekelwa zingakwazi ukuxazululwa ngokuzimela, kungase kuzuze ukubona udokotela ozosiza ukuthola indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma futhi anike amavithamini okuhlushwa.