Indlela yokukhululwa?

Yiqiniso, ukuthobeka ukuhlobisa kwale ntombazane. Kodwa kukho konke udinga ukwazi umkhawulo. Kubonakala ngokucacile ukuthi uqaphele umehluko phakathi kokuthobeka kanye ne-zazhatosti, ukuvalwa. Ngokuvamile abantu badonseleka kulabo bantu abakhululwa ekukhulumisaneni , abesabi okuthile okusha, okushoyo, bashisa ngomlilo wokuphila. Abantu abanjalo, njengomlilo, eduze nalokho ongafudumala khona. Kungaba kanjani umuntu onjalo? Indlela yokukhululwa, uma ukuzithoba kwakho noma ezinye izingqinamba ezingokomqondo akuvumeli ukuba uhambe ngaphezu kwezikhombisi ozidalwa wena?

Indlela yokukhululwa ekukhulumisaneni?

Okokuqala kudingekile ukuba ukhulume ngokuthi ungaba kanjani okhululekile kakhulu ekuphileni okuvamile, kwansuku zonke. Okokuqala, njengoba besabona izingubo, kubalulekile ukuqapha ukubukeka kwabo. Intombazane ekhululekile, enesiqiniseko ngeke ihambe ngezinyawo ze-baggy jeans kanye ne-T-shirt elula. Ukubukeka kufanele kubonise isimo sangaphakathi nesimo sengqondo. Lokhu kufanele kucatshangelwe uma ukhetha ikhabethe lakho. Kubalulekile futhi ukuqonda ukuthi zonke izithiyo ezisenhloko. Uma kukhona ukwesaba umphakathi, ngaphambi kokunaka umphakathi, kuyadingeka ukuba silwe nalokhu kwesaba. Njengoba uyazi, umgodla ugoqa umcengezi. Kancane kancane, ukwesaba kuzophela futhi ukukhululwa kuzovela. Into esemqoka: ukuzivumela ukuba uhambe ngaphesheya, ukukhokhela okuncane kancane, ngenkathi, ngokuqinisekile, ugcina umkhawulo wokuziphatha.

Indlela yokukhululeka embhedeni?

Okubalulekile futhi okuphuthumayo kumantombazane amaningi kungumbuzo wokuthi ungasindiswa kanjani ocansini. Ngokuvamile ikakhulukazi ngenkinga yokwenza amahloni noma uhlobo oluthile lwama-zazhatosti ngesikhathi socansi, lawo maantombazane aqala ukuhlala ocansini. Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke ukuthembela kumlingani wakho. Uma kunjalo, ingxenye yengonyama yecala isivele yenziwe. Kuzo zonke izinto kuncike ekutheni uphumule futhi ujabule. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucacile ukuthi ubulili akuyona into ehlazozayo noma ephansi-kubonisa imizwa, kanye nokulethwa nokwamukela izinzwa ezimnandi, ukushaja ngamandla.

Ukuze kukhululwe ngesikhathi socansi, kuyadingeka nokuba ukwazi ukuqonda. Akudingeki ucabange embhedeni ngalokho okufanele upheke emini kusasa noma lapho uhlala phansi ukuloba lowo mbiko. Zonke lezi zinkinga ezijwayelekile zingalinda eceleni. Kubalulekile ukuthi uvumele ukucabanga futhi ungesabi ukuhlolwa. Ukuzama into entsha, uhlukanisa impilo yakho yezocansi, futhi kancane kancane ulahle yonke imininingwane yakho.