Umsebenzi nokungacabangi yizici ezimbili ezimbi kakhulu zokuziphatha kwabantu. Kuvunywa ukuthi umsebenzi uhlale ulungile, futhi ukungabi nomusa kuhlale kunomthelela futhi kubangela ukulahlwa kwabanye abantu. Kodwa ku-psychoanalysis, umsebenzi, ohlotshaniswa nesimiso sesilisa, uhambisana nokuhlukunyezwa, okungeke kuthathwe njengesibonakaliso esihle. Futhi, ukungahambi kahle akuyona njalo into engalungile, ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kuwukuphela kokuziphatha okulungile.
Kuyini ukungahambi kahle?
Ukungahambi kahle kwengqondo ekuqondeni kwengqondo kubonakala njengokungabi nokuziphatha, ukuziphatha okuphambene nesitayela sokuziphatha esisebenzayo. Ukungahambi kahle kungenziwa ngenhloso nangenhloso.
Ngezinye izikhathi sikhetha ngamabomu isikhundla esinqunyiwe - ngenxa yobuvila noma ukwesaba ukuba phakathi kwezehlakalo. Kodwa ukungabi nomusa kungabuye kungalindelekile:
- kanye nokukhona okukanye ngesikhathi okukhuthazayo okukhuthaza izenzo ezihlukile;
- ngokukhubazeka okujwayelekile komzimba ngenxa yokugula, ukusebenza ngokweqile, ukukhathala;
- Ukushaqeka okubangelwa imizwelo eqinile;
- nezinkinga zokuziphatha ezibuhlungu.
Ukungahambisani nokuziphatha okungavumelekile kokuziphatha kuyindlela yokuzivikela yokuzivikela yomzimba ukucindezeleka, ngakho-ke ayikwazi ukulahlwa. Kodwa uma ukuziphatha okungahambi kahle kuyindlela yokuphila, lokhu kuyinkinga ebalulekile edinga ukuxazululwa.
Ukungahambi kahle ebuhlotsheni
Mhlawumbe, wonke owesifazane ufuna okhethiwe ukuba alalele umbono wakhe. Kodwa uma umuntu engakwazi ukwenza lutho ngaphandle kokukhahlela okuhle, akekho ozokuthanda. Yini okufanele uyenze lapha? Abanye bazama ukumlungisa lo muntu, bamcasule ngamazwi njalo kanye nokuhlambalaza. Kulula ukuqonda ukuthi akukho okuhle okungavela kuwo. Uma indoda engafuni ukwenza okuthile, cishe, inkinga yesisusa. Futhi-ke ungamnika nje lokhu okugqugquzelayo noma ukuvumelanisa nendima yekhanda eliphelele lomndeni. Okubi nakakhulu isimo lapho umuntu engaboni ngokweqile embhedeni - ukungabi namuntu ubulili ngeke kumjabulise noma ubani. Kulokhu, udinga ukuthola ukuthi lesi simo sengqondo sivela kuphi, mhlawumbe ngemuva kosuku olunzima udinga umsebenzi, kulokhu i-log ethi "ilogi" ilungile kakhulu. Kanti futhi, ukuqubuka kwesifiso emva kweminyaka eminingana yokuhlala ndawonye kuyinto evamile, kodwa ungakwazi ukulungisa lesi simo, kunezindlela eziningi zokufaka umlenze ovuthayo. Kuyinto embi uma noma yimiphi imizamo yakho ingenzi umphumela, lapha noma kunjalo ubuvila obukhulu noma ukungabi nentshisekelo kuwe.
Ukungahambisani nomphakathi
Muva nje, igama elithi "ukungezwani komphakathi" kuvame ukuzwa, ikakhulukazi ngokuqondene nabantu abasha. Ngokuvamile ungazwa izitatimende ukuthi abantu abasha abadingi lutho empilweni ngaphandle kokuzijabulisa. Kodwa lokhu akulona iqiniso ngempela, imiphumela yokucwaninga kwezenhlalo ibonisa ukuthi abantu abasha, kanye nesifiso sokwakha umsebenzi nokudala umndeni, banesifiso sokuphumelela empilweni yomphakathi. Ngakho-ke isifiso sokushintsha okuthile okungcono (ngaphakathi kokuhlanganisana, idolobha, izwe, izwe), enye into, ukuthi cishe akunakwenzeka ukuba uqaphele lezi zifiso, futhi ngokushesha uzokhathala ngokudiliza izindonga zekhonkrithi.
Ukungasebenzi Kwezingqondo
Ngombono wokungahlali komphakathi, umqondo wokungahambi kahle kwengqondo kuhlangene kakhulu, esimweni lapho lokhu kungenxa yokugqugquzela ngokwanele. Ukungahambisani nomqondo nakho kungenxa yemvelo engafundiwe yezindlela zomsebenzi wengqondo, kodwa lokhu kusebenza kubantu abaphambene nokuthuthukiswa. Ukukhathazeka komunye uhlobo kubonakala kuyo yonke indawo - phakathi kwabafundi nabafundi abafuna ukuthola idokhumenti ngemfundo, hhayi ulwazi, kubantu abadala abakhumbula ukuthi ubuchopho banikezwa ukuhlaziywa okuzimele kwamaqiniso, hhayi ukholo olungenalutho lwesikhulumi esithandekayo. Inkinga lapha, njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, ngesisusa - akudingeki ukutadisha, emsebenzini wakho "amahlanu" awunasithakazelo kunoma ubani, ulwazi olujulile aludingeki, lonke ulwazi oludingekayo "gouge" kwizifundo ezimbili zeviki, ube yisazi ebhizinisini lakho ngolwazi olunzulu akudingekile - umholo wabo uvame ukuhlala
Indlela yokubhekana nokungabi namuntu?
Uma ufuna ukulahla ubuningi bamantombazane amorphous, kufanele uqale wena. Izindlela zokuqwashisa - okuyinhloko kukunikeza ukuthi uqale ukuhlela impilo yakho, funda ukunikeza 100% kunoma yiliphi ibhizinisi. Kodwa zonke izindlela zokulwa nokungabi namandla ngeke zibe usizo lapho kungekho khona isisusa. Ngakho-ke, indlela esemqoka yokulwa ukuqonda ukuthi yini oyifunayo ekuphileni. Ukuziqonda, ubona ukuthi yiziphi izenzo ozodinga ukuthatha - mhlawumbe okwenzayo, amabanga kuphela ukusuka emgomweni, ngakho-ke ukungahambi kahle, nokungafuni ukwenza okuthile.