"Umuntu ongenakho ukuhleka usulu kunqunywe okungaphezu nje kokuzijabulisa," kusho uMark Twain, okungekho muntu ozobe esolwa ngokuntula ukuhleka kwemizwa.
Futhi, eqinisweni, kulungile. Phela, umuntu onokuzijabulisa angathola indlela yokuphuma kunoma yisiphi isimo - akasithathi kalula. Uma kukhona okungajabulisi okwenzekayo, yiqiniso, ufuna ukucasuka kakhulu, ngisho, mhlawumbe, ukukhala, udangele. Ukungabi namandla kwabantu (okungokoqobo noma okubonakalayo), njengokungathi, kubuyela ebuntwaneni, lapho kwakungenakwenzeka ukuthonya iqiniso ngenxa yobudala, kodwa kwavela kuphela ukukhala, ukufuna isihawu kubadala. Kodwa manje akekho ozozisola, iminyaka yobudala ayifani, futhi abantu abadala sebezizwele bezwele izingane zabo. Lokhu kwenza kube kubi kakhulu, futhi umuntu unenkinga yokucindezeleka.
Kuyini umuzwa wokuhlekisa?
Yebo, ukuhleka kwemizwa kuyisici somlingiswa esikuvumela ukuba uphathe lesi simo kusukela ekuqaleni ngokuhlukile. Umuntu onokuzijabulisa angakwazi ukuphakama ngaphezu kweso simo, ukuqaphela nokuhleka kwakhe, ngisho noma kungukuhleka kwamahlaya. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi ukufa komuntu noma ukugula okungathí sina akusona isizathu sokuzijabulisa, kodwa akusiwo amacala anjalo, kodwa izenzakalo ezincane ezithandekayo: wawela ngaphansi kwenkontileka emsebenzini, walahlekelwa ipasipoti yakhe, omakhelwane abakhukhulayo, waphula imoto, waphonsa othandekayo ... Yebo, lokhu, mhlawumbe, yiyona nhlekelele yezo zonke izinto. Kodwa lokhu akuyona yonke impilo. Okuhle kuzoba khona. Kodwa lokhu akuchazi kumuntu okwamanje onzima kangaka. Ukuzijabulisa okuhle kuphela kusiza umuntu ukuba angaziqondi kahle ezinkingeni, azibeke engqondweni yakhe bese ebheka isimo ngokuhlekisa.
Ngokuqondene nokuthi kunjani ukuhlekisa, akukho mqondo ovamile phakathi kososayensi noma abantu abavamile. Izincazelo eziningana ezikhona zingacatshangwa.
Umdlalo wokuhleka usulu kuyisivivinyo. Kuyasiza ukudlulisa okulukhuni kakhulu, cishe okungenakubekezelelwa. Empini, baqamba ama-anecdotes, ngaphandle kwalokho ngeke usinde!
Ngakho-ke, uma ufuna ukukhuthazelela ukucindezeleka, udinga ukuhleka usulu. Ungazivumeli ugobe olwandle lokucindezeleka . Ukuhleka ngezinyembezi. Kulandela ukuthi abantu abangenakho ukuzijabulisa bahlala kanzima kunelabo abanomqondo wokuhlekisa.
Ukuhleka kwemizwa kuyisibonakaliso sokuhlakanipha. Futhi labo abanokuthuthukiswa okunengqondo, okucabangayo nokuzihlanganisa, banomqondo onamandla kunazo zonke.
Kodwa ikhono lokuhleka incike emfundweni. Ulwazi nolwazi luvumela umuntu ukuba asungule ihlaya elihle, elicashile nelingahle likhonjiswe, kanti abantu abangafundile ngezinye izikhathi bavele baxolise lokho okwakucatshangwa ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokuthi bayihloniphekile nokuthi ngabe kukhona umuntu ocasulekile ngalezo zihlaya. Cha, yena ngokwakhe uthola "icala lokujabula nokuzizwa kahle", futhi bonke abanye bazohlupheka. Okusho ukuthi, umuntu onobugovu, ongobugovu nowenhlonipho. Kodwa lokhu kuhleka futhi, futhi indoda "ekhohlisayo" yathinta ngesikhathi somkhosi womkakhe ukuthi yayinamafutha, njengendlovu: ukubukeka kwe-trunk kuyokhula, kubonakala kunobungqabavu kunezivakashi ezingazange zihlehle le nhlaya.
Okokugcina, umuntu ohlakaniphile, akasoze avumela ukuthi asho ukuthi uyisiphukuphuku noma uhlambalazi, amahlaya akhe amnandi futhi aletha injabulo kubo bonke, akulimazi muntu.
Inkomba yokucindezeleka. Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka, umuntu onjalo futhi ubona ukuthi amahlaya akhe aphelile, kodwa akakwazi ukuyeka. Lena yinkinga eyenziwe ngomumo yokucindezeleka. Kubalulekile ukuphatha izinto ezinjalo ngokuzijabulisa, njengokungathi othile ujabulele ukukhwehlela, kepha akaphumi. Futhi-ke, ungaqapheli izinto ezinjalo: khona-ke yena uzakuba namahloni.
Ngokuvamile, ososayensi bahlanganisa ukuhleka nokuhleka. Kungenzeka ukuthi kunjalo, ngoba ihlaya elihle aliyona i-blash ye-bile, kodwa isenzo sokudala.
Vumela empilweni yethu kube khona amahlaya amahle kuphela, angeke ahlukumeze ngokuba "ephilayo", kodwa nje aletha injabulo futhi ijabule.