Ukuze usinde ekufeni kwesilwane, ikakhulukazi ikati, okungenani kunzima njengokulahlekelwa othandekayo. Lesi silwane esine-fluffy siqondisisa ngokuphelele abanikazi bayo, kungenxa yabo isiphululi, isazi se-psychotherapist, nomngane.
Indlela yokusinda ekufeni kwekati?
Kungani amakati ahamba ngaphambi kokufa, naphezu kokunamathiselwe kubantu? Amakati ayizilwane eziziqhenya kakhulu, azifihla ukuhlupheka kwabo bonke abantu, ngisho nakubantu abathandekayo babo. Futhi bonke abantu bazwa usizi ngezindlela ezahlukene. Omunye ugcina konke ngaphakathi kwakhe, abanye kube lula emva kwengxoxo nomuntu othandekayo. Ayikho iresiphi yonke yokuqeda ubuhlungu obungokwengqondo, iseluleko sakho esikhulu yinhliziyo yakho, okuzokutshela ukuthi ungaphila kanjani.
Emva kokufa kwekati, ungase uzizwe ukubhujiswa, isizungu , ukudangala, inecala. Lezi yizona zonke izingxenye zezinto ezihlangenwe nakho okwemvelo ngalesi sikhathi. Kunzima kunayo yonke inyanga yokuqala, ngakho-ke umqondo ozwakalayo wecala nokulahlekelwa kuzophelelwa yisikhathi. Kuphela lesi sikhathi odinga ukusinda.
Yini eyokunciphisa usizi lwakho?
Ukuze unciphise ubuhlungu futhi avume ukufa kwekati, umuntu akufanele afihle imizwelo yakhe futhi avimbe izinyembezi - okuhlangenwe nakho kulokhu kulungile ngempela. Izindlela ezinjalo zobuciko-zokwelapha ezifana nokudweba, ukubhala kwezindaba kanye nezinkondlo kuzosiza ekubuyiseleni. Ungakha idayari lapho uchaza khona izinkumbulo zakho zesilwane sakho ozithandayo.
Uma isikhathi sokudabuka okukhulu sizodlula, ukusinda ekufeni kwekati lakho othandekayo kuzosiza izinguquko ezinhle empilweni yakho. Ungasiza futhi izinhlangano zezinhlalakahle zezilwane noma izindawo zokukhosela zezilwane ezilahlekile.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukuvumelanisa nokufa kwekati kusiza isilwane esisha. Lokhu angeke kuthathwe njengokungcatshwa kwesilwane esilufile, ngokuphambene nalokho - kuyisiko kumuntu owayeyithande kakhulu kuwe. Noma kunjalo, ukuqala elinye ikati kuphela uma ekhanga ngezici zakhe futhi ungamboni njengengxenye yesilwane.