Uphi ukuthola abangane?

Ezweni lethu elikhulu nelingenalutho, ekuphishekeleni imali kanye nezinye izinto ezibonakalayo, abantu ngezinye izikhathi babheka nxazonke futhi bayaqaphela ukuthi bodwa bodwa. Naphezu kwamafoni, i-Intanethi kanye nokunye ukuthuthuka kwezobuchwepheshe, umbuzo wokuthi ungatholaphi abangane usuvulekile. Kodwa-ke, uma ungahlali ejele futhi wenze umzamo, ngeke kube nzima ukuthola abangane.

Ngingatholaphi abangane?

Ngokujwayelekile sithola abangane lapho, lapho sihamba njalo: esikoleni, enyuvesi, emsebenzini noma ngezifundo ezengeziwe. Uma ungabona umuntu ofanelekile kulezi zindawo eziseduze, ungangabazi ukungena naye. Buza mayelana nezindaba zakhe, uthole okufanayo phakathi kwakho, unike usizo noma ucele usizo. Uma uzohlale unobungane, uzwela futhi unenhlalo, ngeke kube yinkinga ukuthi ungathola kanjani abangane.

Noma kunjalo, kungcono ukuzama ukuthola abangane ngezifiso. Ukuze wenze lokhu, thola izintshisekelo zakho bese ubhalisela izifundo ezifanele. Kungaba ushayela isikole, isikole sesithombe, umdanso noma ukufaneleka, izifundo zolimi lwangaphandle noma ukuthunga nokuthunga. Khetha okunye lapho kunabantu abaningi abangaba nobulili bakho kanye nezithakazelo ezifanayo. Kulesi simo, kuzoba lula kuwe ukwenza abangane, ngoba kukhona njalo indaba ejwayelekile. Lena yindlela enhle yokuthola abangani abaningi kunoma yimiphi iminyaka.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungathola abangane bokuxhumana ngokuqondile endaweni ohlala kuyo, ikakhulukazi uma ungahlali emkhakheni wangasese, kodwa esakhiweni sefulethini. Unganqikazi ukujwayele omakhelwane futhi ubingelele njalo lapho uhlangana. Uma ubonisa isithakazelo kumuntu, khona-ke kungenzeka ukuthi ube nesithakazelo kuwe.

Amanethiwekhi omphakathi kanye namaforamu ase-Inthanethi anika isikhala esiningi ukuze athole abangane ngokuxhumana. Indlela elula yokwenza lokhu yilapho abantu bafuna iseluleko noma basize: ngokuphakamisa ngempumelelo umuntu, uzothola kuye ukubonga nokwethakazela kwakho, futhi Umphumela ungaqhubeka ngokugcwele ukuxhumana. Kukhona amawebhusayithi akhethekile lapho ungathola khona umngane wangaphandle ngokuxhumana. Ngakho uthole izinzuzo ezimbili komunye: futhi uxoxe, futhi uthuthukise ulwazi lwakho!

Ungathola kanjani umngane omkhulu?

Inkinga eyodwa kule ndawo ihlale ivulekile. Ngeke uze uqagele ukuthi uzohlangana nobani ozoba umngane wakho omkhulu, ukweseka nokwesekwa. Futhi, njengoba kunzima ukuqagela ukuthi ungathola kanjani abangane bangempela. Konke lokhu kungenzeka kuphela ngokulingwa nephutha. Futhi uma othile engekho - qhubeka nje.