Emphakathini wanamuhla, kusetshenziswe amagama nemigomo eminingi ehlukene, okuyinto abantu abaningi abayibona ngokungalungile noma bahlale bengaziwa ngokuphelele. Kulesi simo, siphakamisa ukuthi siqonde ukuthi ngubani ongumshushisi nokuthi umuntu uba kanjani.
Abantu abaningi, behlangana nokuphila ngezithiyo ezihlukahlukene, bazakhela ezinye izithiyo ezingabhekwa futhi zenzeke. Namuhla, umshushisi ngumuntu olahla izimiso zokuziphatha nokuziphatha, futhi akakholelwa ekutheni imicabango yabantu ilungile. Isizathu salokhu kuhlubuka kungaba, kokubili isimo somuntu siqu, nokudumazeka ezinkambweni zenhlalo. Kubonakala ngokuzihlukanisa, ukunganeliseki nokudumazeka.
Kuyini okushiwo yi-cynic?
Ama-cynics abhekwa njengengqondo, ngoba abona imicimbi njengoba engabaniki umbala omuhle noma omubi.
Izici eziyinhloko:
- Njengoba badumala empilweni, babhekene nokuqina nokuhlakanipha.
- Kubantu abazingelayo nxazonke kukhona izinto ezibonakalayo, futhi ezingenakuzithokozeka, njengoba wazi, azikho, futhi lokhu kusebenza kubantu.
- Ukuze uqonde lokho okushiwo yi-cynic, kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi abantu abanjalo banombono wezwe owenziwe kahle futhi uhlelo lwabo lwamaxabiso alufani nefomu lendabuko.
- Abantu bezinkolelo bayaqiniseka ukuthi konke okusemhlabeni kunenani lentengo, futhi izimfanelo zokuziphatha nezingokomoya zakhiwe ngabantu ukudala ukuphila okunethezeka.
- Ababambeli ezindabeni zabo futhi abesabi ukubonakala bengalungile, ngakho bavame ukucasula abantu, okugcina ekuholela ekubeni nesizungu .
- Izindinganiso nezici ze-cynic nazo zingabhekwa nesifiso sakhe sokufeza okufunwa yinoma yikuphi, ngisho nezindlela zokuziphatha okubi.
- Abantu abanjalo bayamangalisa futhi baqhaqhazela.
Izimfanelo ezinhle
Ukuqonda ukuthi ubani owenza umculi, umuntu akakwazi kodwa ukuphawula ukuthi kukhona izimfanelo ezinhle. Okokuqala, kufanele kubone ukuzola kwakhe, okungukuthi, ngeke athukuthele ngenxa yokuhluleka, kodwa akazweli injabulo yezenzakalo ezinhle. Ezimweni ezinhle eziwusizo ezweni lanamuhla, umuntu angabonisa ukuba khona kokubanda okubanda, okungukuthi, emsebenzini nangeminye imisebenzi abaphazamiseki ukuhlangenwe nakho ngokomzwelo okuphazamisa umqondo oyisisekelo.
Ungaba kanjani umshini wama-cynic?
Abantu abaningi abaye babhekana nokudumazeka okuningi, kokubili kubantu nasekuphileni kwabo bonke, bazama ukuzivikela, ngakho-ke bazama ukuba yizinkolelo. Kunezimiso eziningana eziyisisekelo ezikhethekile kubantu abanjalo:
- Yiba wena bese uyeka ukuzivumelanisa nezimo zokuphila. Ama-Cynics enza njalo noma yini ayifunayo, ngaphandle kokucabangela lokho abanye abantu abakucabangayo. Kubo, nginguye obaluleke kakhulu.
- Iya emgomweni wakho kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini. Ama-Cynics, ngaphandle kokungabaza, awela phezu kwamakhanda abanye abantu, ngobuqili, afake abanye esikhundleni, ngokujwayelekile, basebenzise zonke izindlela zokuthola lokho abakufunayo. Ukubala okubandayo kanye necebo elenzelwe kahle labo elibalulekile.
- Khumbula ukuthi ama-cynics awaphendulanga, okungukuthi, imizwelo ayifinyelele kubo, ngakho ukhohlwe ngenjabulo, ukuzisola, ububele, njll. Noma imiphi imicimbi kufanele ibhekwe njengeqiniso.
- Ungesabi ukukhuluma umbono wakho ngokubodwa, bese ukhetha amagama ukuze kungabikho muntu okhubazekile. Abantu abanobuciko, bebazi ubuthakathaka bomuntu, ngokuqinisekile bayobacindezela ukuze bathole inzuzo.
- Yenza "ukuhlanza" phakathi kwabantu abakuzungezile, nakuba abantu abaningi ababaziyo bazoshabalala empilweni yakho uma uqala ukusebenzisa imithetho yokuphila yabanamahloni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umsizi omkhulu unesizungu ongazethemba ngokuphelele yena ngokwakhe.
- Ungaziphiki lutho, ngoba into ebaluleke kakhulu ukujabulisa, hhayi kuye ngokuthi izifiso zabanye abantu.