Ngezinye izikhathi umuntu uhlale ecabanga ukuthi akaphumelelanga empilweni: akukho lutho oluphuma, izinto zihamba kabi. Ngokuvamile abantu bangase bazizwe bencike kwabanye abantu, kumlingani. Ukuze ube umuntu ophumelelayo, umuntu kumele akholelwe kuwe. Ukuphumelela kufinyelelwa yibo abaqhubekela phambili ngaphandle kokuyeka ubunzima nokuhluleka. Ungakuyeka kanjani ukuba yisisulu ebuhlotsheni futhi ufunde ukuthi ungamelana kanjani futhi uzuze ukuzethemba-le mibuzo neminye iphendulwa yisayensi ye-psychology.
Psychology of the victim - kungabi kanjani?
Nazi ezinye amathiphu alula kubantu abafuna ukushintsha izimpilo zabo:
- Yeka ukuthi ungaba kanjani isisulu ebuhlotsheni . Ungakhathazeki ngalokho abanye abantu abangakucabanga ngakho. Uma umuntu efuna ukujabulela injabulo, kufanele azame ukuyeka ukucabanga ngendlela abanye abantu abayosabela ngayo ezenzweni zakhe. Awukwazi ukujabulisa wonke umuntu futhi, uma uzama ukwenza lokhu, umuntu uba yisisulu sombono wabanye abantu. Yiqiniso, ubudlelwane nabantu abaseduze kudinga ukuyekethisa nokuvuma, kepha umuntu kufanele azicabange njalo ngaye, ngezifiso zakhe, imigomo kanye namaphupho. Umuntu okhuthele futhi onokwethenjelwa uyathandeka kwabanye, futhi bayobheka ngemibono yakhe. Kufanelekile ukuhlaziya labo abakhathazekile kakhulu ukuthi bayakufanelekela yini lokho okuhlangenwe nakho nokuzidela.
- Yeka ukuthi ungaba kanjani isisulu emshadweni . Izikhalo eziqhubekayo mayelana nakho konke okuzungezile futhi ukucinga okujulile kokungaboni kahle kuthinta izinzwa zomngane womshado futhi kwenza isisulu sizizwe singathandeki nakakhulu. Kumuntu ofuna ukuba umuntu ojabulayo, ufuna injabulo ebuhlotsheni, kuyadingeka ngokuphelele ukuqeda ukuzethemba kanye nezikhalazo njalo. Yiqiniso, wonke umuntu ekuphileni kunenkinga nezimo ezinzima, kodwa kuyathandeka kakhulu ukugcina isimo sengqondo esihle nokukholelwa okuhle kakhulu.
- Siphila izikhathi ezinhle . Ngokuvamile kanye nokuzimela, izinkinga emsebenzini nasemndenini zicindezela umuntu. Ukukhathala okuvela kwi-monotony yokuphila kufanele kukhishwe ngezikhathi ezithile. Ungacabangi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngezinkinga, ngezinye izikhathi kufanele uzitshele ukuthi "yimisa" futhi uhlele ukuphumula komphefumulo nomzimba. Lokhu akudingi imali enkulu yemali noma isikhathi esiningi kakhulu. Ungahlala uthatha isikhathi sokwenza okuthile. Ungabheka izizathu, uma sicabanga ukuthi singabeka kanjani isisulu, kufanele senze okuthile!
- Imihlangano nabangani . Kubantu abaningi, injabulo yabantu iyisimo sokungcebeleka esimnandi enkampanini yabantu abahle. Ngakho-ke, kuyadingeka ukuzungezile nalabo abakuqonda kahle,
futhi uzizwa ukhululekile naye. Ngisho noma iqembu elincane labantu abaningana. Asikho isidingo sokuzama ukujabulisa wonke umuntu oseduze. Inombolo yabangane nayo ayibonakali lutho. - Ungathokozi ngokuhluleka . Abantu abaningi bacindezeleke kanzima ukuhluleka nezinkinga. I-streak engaphumeleli izophela futhi kufanelekile ukuyidlulisa ngesithunzi.
- Zisebenze ngokwakho . Umuntu ngamunye, eba ngcono, uyaba nokuzethemba ngokwengeziwe. Umsebenzi oqhubekayo uqobo lwakho kukusiza ukuba ukholelwe kuwe, amandla akho futhi ususe inkimbinkimbi yesisulu.