Uma ungathandi iminyaka yakho epasipoti, ungakwazi kalula ukuqiniseka ukuthi okubonakalayo akulona iqiniso. Kuwe esitokisini, ngaphandle kokulandelana kwesikhathi ("ipasipoti") yonke iminyaka emithathu:
- i-biological;
- inhlalo;
- kwengqondo.
Ubudala bezinto eziphilayo kuyisimo sokuthuthukiswa kwemvelo. Iqembu ngalinye leminyaka linemigomo yayo yokuthuthukiswa . Ngakho-ke, uma lokho okuzokwakhiwa kungakabi khona, iminyaka yakho yobudala ihamba ngemuva kwesikhathi sokulandelana. Uma kukhona okuthuthukile okungafanele kube khona - ngokwezinto eziphilayo (noma physiologically), usemdala kunokubhalwa epasipoti.
Iminyaka yobudala yindlela futhi sibonakala ngayo kwabanye. Lesi sibonakaliso singase sihluke ngokungafani nokuthi singabheka kanjani futhi sibheka bani.
Umusho owedlule ukhuluma ngeminyaka yengqondo yomuntu. Lowo esizizwa ngathi.
Isikhathi sengqondo - imithetho ejwayelekile yokuguga "nokuvuselela"
Umqondo wengqondo yengqondo - into engazinzile. Lokhu noma leso senzakalo empilweni singakwenza ube "owesifazane osemusha" noma "owesifazane osekhulile". Okokuqala, iminyaka yethu yangaphakathi ixhomeke kulokho esikumelelayo, izinkolelo eziphathelene neqembu lesikhathi esikulo ngokulandelana kwazo.
Ngakho-ke, abantu abasha abaneminyaka engu-20 bavame ukunyusa ngokweqile iminyaka yabo yengqondo. Bazizwa benesibopho, benqume, benamandla - balawula izimpilo zabo (yilokho abakucabangayo).
Iminyaka engu-25 yisikhathi lapho iminyaka yangaphakathi yengqondo ihambisana nokulandelana kwesikhathi.
Kusukela kuneminyaka engama-30, abantu, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngokwengqondo "bayakhula" ngokwabo futhi lokhu kungaqhubeka kuze kube sekugugeni.
Kodwa, zonke izinkomba zizodwa, zikhona izibalo kuphela.
Ingane, intsha, umuntu omdala
Iminyaka yobuchopho bomuntu yombono wezwe kanye nobuhlobo nabantu abakuzungezile. Isikhathi sangaphakathi sakhiwe kusukela ku-isilinganiso (ukuvumelana noma ukuphazamiseka) kwengane - intombazane - umuntu omdala.
Uma konke kuqhathaniswa - iminyaka yengqondo ayifani nokulandelana kwesikhathi. Uma kukhona ukuphazanyiswa (enye ye "I" ikhona), umehluko kumanani uzomangaza.
Ingane ibangela injabulo, amaphupho, ilukuluku, ikhono lokufunda nokujabula.
Intombazane inesizathu sokucabanga okudala, ngokuziphikisa emhlabeni wonke.
Umuntu omdala uyisiyalo, umthwalo wemfanelo, ukulawula nokuhlaziya konke okwenzekayo.
Uma unesithakazelo sokuthi wazi kanjani iminyaka yakho yengqondo, kunezindlela ezimbili zokuyinquma:
- ngokuqondile (uzokwazi iminyaka yakho yangaphakathi eminyakeni ehambisana nenhlalakahle yakho yengqondo) - ukudlula ukuhlolwa ;
- okungalungile (uzokwazi ukuthi yikuphi okushiwo "Mina" okubusayo) - bheka incazelo yengane, intsha nomdala ngezansi.
Ingane
Ngokwengqondo, abantu abanezingane eziqhamukayo babizwa ngokuthi abathwali be-Peter Pen syndrome. Umuntu onjalo udonsela abanye ngothando lwakhe nokunganaki. "UPeter Pen" uyaqiniseka ukuthi izwe lizungezile futhi wonke umuntu kufanele aphumelele. I-egocentric "Mina" engafuni ukuzwa ngomthwalo wemfanelo, umsebenzi, amaholo.
Intsha
Lolu hlobo lomuntu aluqedile ukuvuthwa kwakhe. Uyesaba izwe elikhulu, kodwa unzima ngokumelene nalo. Unesizotha esincane, kodwa uyasibuyisela lokhu ngenxa yemvelo yakhe.
Umuntu omdala
Abantu abanjalo bathanda ukugxeka wonke umuntu nakho konke, ukwakha izinhlelo zesikhathi eside bese uzama ukuzilandela. Abajabuli, abaphumuli - abangekho kuwo.
Into enhle kunazo zonke kubo impilo yokuthula, ephephile, ngaphandle kokushintsha.
Uma ingane kanye nentombazane igxiliwe kumuntu, iba njengendoda endala.