Isimo sokudumazeka ngaso sonke isikhathi sishiya ubuhlungu bokungabi nalutho - ngaleyo ngxenye yokuqaphela lapho imibono yethu, amathemba namaphupho agcinwa ngayo, ngokungazelelwe kufakwe indawo lapho ukuthuka, imizwelo yokungabi nasizi nokuphelelwa ithemba kuphelile. Ukudumazeka okujulile kuvame ukuhambisana nokucindezeleka, okuhlobene nokuthi asizizwa njengabaphathi bezimpilo zethu.
Ake sicabange ukuthi yikuphi ukudumazeka okusho kubantu: kumngani noma kubangane, izihlobo, abasebenza nabo, njll. Lokhu kusho ukuthi othile akazange aphile kuze kube yilokho okulindelwe. Omunye umuntu, njengoba kuvele, akanalo izimfanelo zesifundo esizinike zona. Cabanga ngalokho okuyisihluthulelo kule ncazelo. Ngokulungile: "sithemba", "sicabanga ukuthi", "silindele". Futhi sadumazeka. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuthi ungeze ebuhlungu bokukhungatheka, khumbula ukuthi umuntu othukuthelele akanazo izimfanelo noma izinhloso ozifaka kuye. Ukudumazeka okukhulu kungukuthi, njengomthetho, izinkolelo zethu ezingalungile kakhulu. Ngamaphupho, sikhuphuka kakhulu, futhi ngokuqinisekile kuyabuhlungu ukuwa.
Yiqiniso, ukuqaphela lokhu, kunesilingo esikhulu sokuqala ukuzibeka icala: ngokuzithemba ngokweqile, ukuphupha nokuhleleka. Kodwa khumbula amazwi kaSarah Churchill: "Uma usakwazi ukudumazeka kubantu, usencane." Ungalokothi uzisole: sonke singabantwana nje kuleli zwe, futhi sonke sinelungelo lokwenza iphutha.
Indlela yokubhekana nokukhungatheka kwabantu?
- Yeka ukuqondisa abantu nemicimbi. Iningi lokudumazeka lisuka kulo mkhuba.
- Thatha umthwalo wakho konke okwenzeka kuwe. Njalo umzuzu kanye nokuguquka kwezenzakalo kuwumphumela wezenzo zakho nendlela yokucabanga. Thatha ngendlela efanele, futhi ungabeki icala kwabanye, ngaleyo ndlela uzibeke emandleni akho angenamkhawulo.
- Khuluma futhi ulalele. Ukudumazeka okungakanani kubantu kubangelwa ukuthi asikwazi ukukhuluma futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuzwa. Hlonipha imicabango nemizwa yabanye, khuluma ngalokho okulindele kubo, futhi ulalele ngokucophelela impendulo yabo. Ungaphenduli izimpendulo zabo ngalawo masethingi asevele ekhanda lakho. Lalela futhi ngeke udumale.
- Ukushiya ilungelo lokuthi abanye bahluke kuwe. Qaphela ukuthi enye indlela yokucabanga "ayiphutha." Ukuthatha ithuba lokuba khona kwamaphuzu okubuka ahlukene, futhi ungahlukanisi umhlaba ube mnyama nomhlophe, ukwandisa kakhulu imingcele yolwazi lwakho bese ubhala umbala impilo yakho ngemibala ehlukahlukene.
- Ungavumeli imizwa yakho. Uma uzizwa ukhungathekile, ulimele futhi ulimele, wamukele. Ungabi namahloni ngemizwelo emibi, kakade ikhona, futhi kulesi sigaba sokuphila lokhu kuvamile. Lesi isifundo esidinga ukudluliselwa, futhi okuzokuvumela ukuba ube ngcono kunento ethile. Esikhundleni sokuhlala emicabangweni emibi, cabanga ngalokho okusemandleni akho.
- Ukudumazeka okuphelele kuphethwe ukucindezeleka okujulile. Ziphazamise ngokwakha imigomo namathuba amasha. Kulokhu, futhi, ukuhlaziywa kwemicabango yakho kuzokusiza. Isibonelo, ukuqaphela lokho
udumala kumngane wakho, ungafaki umzwelo ngomqondo wobungane ngokujwayelekile. Funa isizathu sokuzifakazela wena, ukuxhumana nabanye abangani futhi ube umngane wangempela kwabanye. - Themba abantu nokuphila. Uma ufuna okuthile, ungalindeli kwabanye, kodwa uthembele kubo. Ukuzivimbela ukuthembela, wenza impilo yakho ibe mpofu.
- Faka esikhundleni sokuzihawukela othandweni. Le mizwa emibili ayikho into efanayo, owokuqala - ekunciphisa amandla, kanti okwesibili kwenza inkosikazi yakho. Uma uzithanda ngobuqotho, bese uyeka ukubeka ithemba eliningi kwabanye.