Ngezinye izikhathi impilo ayinakulinganiswa futhi, ngokudlala kwethu, ngokungalindelekile kithi, ishintsha isakhiwo sezinhlamvu eziyinhloko. Kubonakala sengathi yilolu daba indoda yakho ethandekayo ikubuka ngokwethembeka, ithembisa ukuthanda zonke izinsuku zayo, kodwa ungakhohlwa manje ukuthi ungowesifazane olahliwe. Kungenzeka ukuthi manje awuqondi ukuthi ungatholaphi amandla, ukuqhubeka uphila, ukudala futhi ukuthanda umuntu. Futhi into eyinkimbinkimbi ukuyiqonda yikho okudingeka yenziwe ukukhohlwa indoda eningi okuxhumeke kuyo.
Ukuphila kuqhubeka
Kuwubuwula ukuphikisa ukuthi ukulahlekelwa uthando, ukuhlukanisana nomuntu othandekayo, kuhlasela kakhulu isimo sengqondo somuntu. Iyakwazi isikhathi eside, izinyanga, iminyaka ukunciphisa imizwa yenjabulo, uthando, ucingo oluvela emibala ekhanyayo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kukhona uhlelo olusiza ekubhekaneni nenhlekelele yokuhlukanisa. Siyakwamukela iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo ozokusiza ukuvula umoya wakho wesibili, futhi uzoqonda ukuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani indoda yakho ethandekayo.
- UFrud wabhala ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu "ukuqeda amandla angokwengqondo kusuka othandekayo, kodwa manje into elahlekile." Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuphuma ocean of disappointments kanye usizi, ngaphandle kokuzinikela kuze amagagasi amahlaya. Ngakho-ke, uMthetho # 1 endleleni eya empilweni engcono ngaphandle kwakhe, umthandi wakho, ukuzivumela ukuba udabuke, usizi, ukhumbule okusemandleni kakhulu futhi okubi kakhulu phakathi kwakho. Khumbula konke ababefuna ukukusho, kodwa abazange baqaphe. Ngikholelwa, kungcono ukukhulula imizwelo yakho kunokuzifihla endaweni ethile ekujuleni kwakho. Ngokushesha bazozizwa bezwa, kepha kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kubukeka ngeke kube ngesikhathi.
- "Ungakhohlwa kanjani indoda ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, ikakhulukazi uma imizwa engazange ikhuphule kuye?" - lo mbuzo ubeka inani elikhulu labesifazane. Kodwa kukhona njalo ukukhanya ekupheleni komhubhe, kuzo zonke izimo kukhona ukuphuma. Ngakho-ke, lapho ubuciko bokuqala bokulahlekelwa yento ethandwayo, beba nesihluku futhi uzikhulule kuzo zonke lezo zithombe, izinto ezazingezakhe. Uma ngokuyinhloko isandla asivuki ukubhubhisa konke lokhu, ukupakisha bese uyithumela konke kulowo owaqeda ubuhlobo bakho. Zitshele ukuthi uye emakhasini akhe omphakathi. Gwema ukuxhumana nabantu obajwayele nabo. Asikho isiqinisekiso sokuthi lokhu kuzonikezwa kalula. Kodwa, kholwa mina, lapho ukuxhumeka kwezinto ezibonakalayo zememori yakho mayelana nomthandi wangaphambili kudlula, uzobe ulungele ukuqhubeka nokuphila ngendlela entsha.
- Izazi zengqondo zibhekisela esiteji sesithathu sokukhulula emiphakathini endala nemizwelo, isigaba sokuthi "Ukuhlukana." Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi kusukela manje kuya engqondweni yakho kukhona imifudlana emibili yokuphila - eyodwa eyayinayo owuthandayo futhi okwamanje, ngaphandle kwayo. Kanye ngesinye isikhathi wena, ngokumangalisa ngokwakho, uzoqonda ukuthi ungakwazi ngaphandle kobuhlungu enhliziyweni yakho, ubuke emuva. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, awusayikuba yiqhawe eliyinhloko langaphambilini, kodwa kuphela umbukeli, umgcini wezinkumbulo. Kodwa asisekho.
- Akukwenziwe ukuthi uzocubungula izinketho ezifana nokuthi "Futhi uma ngimbiza ngokuthi?". Phonsa "uma-kungazelelwe." Balekela kude nabo. Ungalokothi ubone.
Qhubeka phambili ngaphandle kokubuyela emuva.
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi izazi zengqondo zincoma ngokuqinile, ngemva kokulahlekelwa okunzima, ukuhlukanisa ukungakheli ubudlelwane obusha nomgomo wokuguqula umlingani wakho, asho ukuthi, "ukhonsa" lwesilonda sakho sengqondo. Lezi zihlobo ngeke ziphele ngokujabula. Uzokwazi ukukhohlwa ngokushesha umuntu ozithandayo, kodwa ngokushesha nje uma uvumela umphefumulo ukuba uphumule, cabanga kabusha okwenzekile, thola ulwazi futhi uqinise. Konke kuthatha isikhathi. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi umuntu ngamunye udinga isikhathi esithile sesikhathi ngasinye: omunye umuntu izinyanga ezimbalwa, futhi omunye kuphela ngonyaka uzozizwa njengomuntu ovuselelwe.