Muva nje, isihloko sabafazi abanamandla sithandwa kakhulu, njalo umzuzwana uzama ukufakazela ukuthi angenza konke okutholakala kumadoda. Kuphela manje, akubona wonke umuntu owazi ukuthi abe ngowesifazane onamandla ngempela, onokuqiniseka ukuthi ngenxa yalokhu kubalulekile ukubhekana nomsebenzi onzima kakhulu. Ngokwemvelo, indlela enjalo ayifuni okuhle, umzimba wesifazane awuklanyelwe imithwalo enjalo. Ngakho-ke, sizokhuluma ngendlela yokuqina emoyeni, indlela yokuhlakulela isimilo somuntu, esikhundleni sokunqoba ubuchwepheshe bokugcina "besilisa" kusukela ocansini obunamandla.
Ungaba kanjani owesifazane oqinile?
Ungacabangi ukuthi konke okuyisisekelo, ukuze uqine kuyodingeka usebenze okuningi. Kodwa umphumela uyabaluleka, ngoba uma uphatha ukuqina ngokwendlela yokuziphatha, izinkinga eziningi ekuphileni kwakho komuntu siqu nezomsebenzi zizophela ukufaneleka. Ngokwemvelo, awukwazi ukushintsha ngokushesha, uzothola kancane kancane imikhuba ewusizo ezoba yisisekelo samandla akho kamuva.
- Amantombazane amaningi awaqondi ukuthi angabe eqine kangakanani, ecabanga ukuthi ngeke abe nomoya okwanele wokuthatha isinyathelo esinqumayo. Kodwa akukho lutho ongakwenza ukuze uqine, kufanele unqobe izitha zakho zangaphakathi, ezaziwa kuwo wonke umuntu - ubuvila, ukwesaba, ukuziqhenya, inkani nenhloni. Ukuthola ukuthi ungazinqoba kanjani, ungaba uhlamvu olunamandla.
- Qaphela izinto ezincane, ungazitholi ngokushesha umklamo wokuphila kwakho. Isibonelo, unquma ukushintsha isimiso sosuku nosuku, yenza uhlelo losuku, uqale ukwenza ukuzivocavoca. Ngaso leso sikhathi akudingekile ukuba uye ekunqobeni umhlaba.
- Ufuna indlela yokuba ngowesifazane onamandla, bheka labo abaye baphumelela kakade. Bahlukile, kodwa bonke bayazi ukuthi bacabange kanjani. Kunzima ngempela, kodwa kuwufanele ukufunda, ngaphandle kombono wakhe waleso simo, akukho mbuzo wamandla omlingiswa. Ngakho-ke, funda ukuqonda amaqiniso, ubuze noma yiluphi ulwazi nolwazi lonke, ungaqhubeki mayelana negunya - nabo bantu, futhi bayaphutha. Kungcono ukuvumela ukungalingani kwakho kunokuphindaphinda omunye umuntu.
- Thatha umkhuba wokuletha wonke amacala ekugcineni, ungaqapheli ukuphonsa noma iyiphi ingxenye.
Ungavumeli nonke uphumelele ngesikhathi esisodwa, uthathe izinyathelo ezincane nsuku zonke, uqhubeke nokuya emgomweni. - Indlela yokuqina emoyeni, ungazi ukuthi ungayilawula kanjani imizwelo yakho? Ngokulungile, ngaphandle kokukwazi ukuqoqa nokubuka isimo ngomoya ohlanzekile ngaphandle kwemizwelo engadingekile, akukho lutho oluzovela kulo. Ngakho-ke, funda ukuzilawula, gcina ukukhuthazela nokuzinza lapho wenza izinqumo.
- Amandla omlingiswa asho isibindi, ngakho ungaba namahloni ukusekela izinkolelo zakho siqu, hhayi ukunakekelwa kokungathandwa kwabo. Ungavumeli ukugijimela - kudingeka ulalele izimpendulo zabanye abantu, futhi uhlole ukulingana kwabo, uzame ukulingana.
Akulula ukuqeqesha umlingisi, ngakho-ke zisiza, usethe imisebenzi, lapho "ungadonsela khona" izimfanelo ezingakhiwe kahle. Phonsa imicabango yokuhluleka, kholelwa empumelelweni, kodwa hlola izimpumelelo zakho ngokugxilile.