Ukwesaba ubulili

Ukwabelana ngocansi kusiza abantu ukuba basondelane, bajabule futhi bayinikeze kumlingani wabo. Ukubambisana okubaluleke nakakhulu kusekuphileni komzimba. Phela, akuyona imfihlo kunoma ubani ukuthi ukuphila ngemva komshado kude nezinganekwane esiye sajwayele ukubona emidwebo kusukela ebuntwaneni. Kubalulekile ukugcina isifiso nokuqonda phakathi kwalabo abashadile abangenalo ukuxhumana kocansi kunzima kakhulu ukukwenza. Kungani kukhona ukwesaba ubulili (ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi) isihloko sesixoxiswano sethu namuhla.

"Angifuni, ngeke ngibe"

Ukwesaba ubulili bokuqala kungenxa yokungaziwa. Izici zezinkolelo azikwazi ukufakazela isipiliyoni esiwusizo. Owokuqala kusuka kulezi zinsuku angahluka kakhulu. Ungakwazi ngobulili konke, kodwa uma kufika ngokuqondile kwezocansi, owesifazane (ezimweni eziningi) anganqotshwa ukwesaba. Izizathu zingase zilandele lokhu:

• Ukungafuni ukungena esiteshini sokuziphatha. Le ntombazane, mhlawumbe, yaphuthuma ngesinqumo. Lapho lo mcimbi uqala ukuya ocansini, ngokungazelelwe wabona ukuthi "usengakulungele." Kulesi simo, kubalulekile ukulinda isikhathi eside;
• ukuzethemba. Izinkathazo, ukuzethemba okuphansi, ukunganeliseki - konke lokhu kukuvimbela ekukhululweni nasekuzinikeleni ngokuphelele "kwinqubo";
• ukungabaza ngomlingani wokuqala. Kubonakala sengathi ukulungele, kodwa lo muntu uyathandabuza. Ukungathembeki komlingani kungenye yezithiyo ezibaluleke kakhulu. Uma ungabaza, kungani konke lokhu? Ngeke yini kube nengqondo ukuthola umuntu ozobe efanelwe ukuba ngowokuqala?

Okuhlangenwe nakho kobudlelwane bokuqala obuseduze kudlala indima ebalulekile ekuphileni kokulala ngokobulili kowesifazane. Ukuzizwa okunjalo njengokumesaba ubulili kungavela emva kokuhlangenwe nakho okungaphumeleli kobulili bokuqala, futhi esikhathini esizayo kuzoletha izinkinga ekuphileni kwakho komuntu siqu.

Ukwesaba ubulili kungagcinwa esikhathini sokubeletha kwabesifazane. Ukukhulelwa, ukubeletha nokubeletha - ukucindezeleka okuqine kakhulu komzimba kanye nesimo sengqondo. Uma kwenzeka ukubeletha kunzima, owesifazane wesaba okwesikhashana hhayi kuphela ukuzala futhi, kodwa futhi anikezwe ukuthanda injabulo. Angase angakhululeki emcabangweni wokulala ocansini wedwa. Lokhu konke, yiqiniso, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kudlula. Kuphela isikhathi esidingekayo - konke kuzoba njengangaphambili.

Futhi isizathu esisodwa esibaluleke kakhulu, ngenxa yokuthi kukhona ukwesaba ukulala ocansini, isifo esithathelisiwe, esandulele ngokocansi. Imiphumela engajabulisayo, ukuphola isikhathi eside nesindayo sempilo kungaholela ekuziphatheni ngokocansi. Uthando nokholo kumlingani wakho kuzokusiza ukuqeda.