O, abathandani abesifazane abanamandla, abathandi ama-whims abesifazane! Yebo, ukuthi amadoda ngokwawo ahlelekile noma yini, ayinayo izimfanelo ezimbi? Kukhona, hhayi okumbalwa! Ngakho-ke manje sonke sifunda ngokushiyeka kwamadoda, futhi ake bavele bazame ukusitshengisa izikhalazo mayelana nenkulumo efonini, sizobe sinento yokuphendula.
Ukungalungi kwamadoda mayelana nemikhuba yabo
Omunye wemaphuzu ebaluleke kunazo zonke yamadoda kuthiwa yi-slovenliness. Lo mkhuba oyingozi wokuphonsa amasokisi noma, nakakhulu nakakhulu, ukukhohlwa ukuwashintsha. Ukwesaba okwesabisa ukukhishwa kwezinsuku zansuku zonke nokungafuni ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nge-razor. Ukungabi nomqondo wenkambiso yokukhuluma ngemithetho yokuziphatha etafuleni nokunye nokunye, njalonjalo. Amakhosikazi angashayela eminye imikhuba engu-1001 yabathandekayo babo, ebacasulayo. Kodwa cabanga, mhlawumbe, konke akukwesabeki kakhulu, umuntu angachaza ukunyanyeka kweminye imikhuba yakhe. Futhi sidinga abafana ababoshwe kuzo zonke izindawo, ukuthi ukuhlunga kwabo kungcono kunokwethu? Sizoqala ngomona kusuka engqondweni.
Ukungalungi kwamadoda mayelana nokuziphatha kwabo emphakathini
Ake sibuke izimfanelo ezilandelayo ezingavamile ukuthi wonke umuntu wesibili uhlupheke.
- Uthanda ukubonisa, "uphonsa," kusho okuningi, futhi kaningi ngaye, akazi ukuthi (noma angafuni) ukulalela abanye. Njengoba kunesiphambeko esinjalo, kunzima ukulwa, kodwa ungakwazi. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka okwanele ukuchazela othandekayo ukuthi akabukeke epholile, kodwa kumnandi. Futhi kungenangqondo ukumesaba cishe bonke abafana.
- Indlela yokukhulumisana engahlelekile, ngezinye izikhathi ingenangqondo, futhi ayinalo ulwazi mayelana nokucabangela. Yebo, kukhona abantu abanjalo, ngokuvamile akusizi ngalutho ukuphinde ufundise - imiqondo yezinkambiso zokuziphatha ihlelwe ebuntwaneni, uma lokhu kungenzeki, kunzima ukufundisa umuntu omdala imikhuba emihle. Mhlawumbe uzogcwalisa izimfuno zakho, kodwa hhayi isikhathi eside futhi ngaphandle kokuzijabulisa. Noma kunjalo, awuqiniseki ngokuzikhethela? Awulindele ukuthi uzothintwa nawe ngokulandelayo okungahambi kahle futhi aphephe ngokuphindaphindiwe?
- Ayikwazi ukuma abangani bakho futhi (oh, horror) ayifuni ukuzikhethela ukuthi ungathanda. Ngakho-ke? Yebo, ngingathanda ukuba abangane bakhe bakujabulise, futhi eyakho kwakumnandi kuye. Kodwa kukhona okunye kulokhu - wonke umuntu unendawo yakhe siqu, lapho ungaziphazanyisa khona, futhi ukhononda ngehora, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuthi uzokwaziwa ngohlobo lwabahlobo.
Izici zobuntu ezingalungile zamadoda
Imikhuba emibi, ukukhushulwa okuyizinengiso, lezi yizinto zonke ongazama ukuzilungisa noma ekugcineni uzithole zingaboni kakhulu. Kodwa izimfanelo ezingalungile eziphathelene nomuntu wendoda, ungaziboleki ekushintsheni - ngubani ozophula ubuntu - kodwa, futhi akunakwenzeka ukuthwala. Yiqiniso, abanye besifazane bahluleka ukuhlupheka lokhu, kodwa kuphela uma ukwehluleka kwamadoda kungaphezu kwemali futhi kukhokhwa ngemfanelo yabo efanayo. Ngakho yikuphi ukungalungi kwamadoda okwenza owesifazane agijime ngangokunokwenzeka?
- I-Egoism, i-narcissism, ukulungele ukubeka izikhumbuzo ezihlotshisiwe ngokushiswa okuphakade kuzo zonke izigcawu zomuzi. Amadoda anjalo awaqapheli ukwehluleka kwawo, abone ngokucacile amaphutha omngane. Ngakho-ke akubona nje kuphela ukuthi bayabona, baphinde bakhulume, kepha thina (abangenabongi, inkosi yazinaka) ngesizathu esithile siyathukuthela. Abesifazane bezinhlobo ezinjalo ngokuvamile babona njengabantu abathandekayo babo. Phila neNarcissus enjalo
ukukhathaza nokuhlazisa. - Umhawu, futhi kubo bonke abesilisa phakathi kweminyaka engu-12 kuya kweyengu-100, izintombi zakho, emsebenzini wakho, ezenzweni zakho zokuzilibazisa, kukho konke okunikeza isikhathi ngaphandle kwakhe. Futhi-ke, uma zizibonakalisa ngezikhathi ezithile, ngakho-ke zonke izinsuku ukuphenywa nokulutha, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngezintambo. Akuveli indlu, kodwa igatsha lesiteshi samaphoyisa. Akumangalisi ukuthi u-Othello ufuna ukushiya lokhu ngokushesha.
- Ukuhaha komuntu omthandayo, naye. Kusobala ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu onganikeza abathandekayo bakhe impilo enhle, kodwa ukuhaha kuxhaphaza yonke imali, ukunciphisa kokubili izidingo zabesifazane kanye nezabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abahahayo ngeke basindise imali engenayo nje kuphela, kodwa nangokwakho, isabelomali kuyinto into efanayo emndenini.