Ukuzibonakalisa nokuzibonakalisa komzimba kubonisa imizwa ejulile nemicabango yomuntu, ofuna ukuyivimba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukugcizelela kungase kungabi yi-unmasker yakho kuphela, kodwa futhi nekhalenda. Uma ufunda ngokucophelela ukuqapha, futhi uqeqesha ezinye izici, ungakwazi ukudala ngempumelelo umbono oqondile kubantu. Isibonelo, ukuqhutshwa kwamashiya aphakanyisiwe, okuyinto ethandwa kakhulu kwi-psychology yokuthinta, kufanele isetshenziswe ekujwayeleni ukwakha umqondo omuhle.
Ukuqamba amanga nokuqamba amanga
Okuthandwa kakhulu kwi-psychology yokuthinta, yiqiniso, ukubalwa kwamanga. Sifuna ukwazi ukukhuluma amanga futhi singabanjwa lapho kushisa, futhi sibonakalise kakhulu labo abazama ukufaka ama-noodle ezindlebeni zethu.
Uma singakholelwa ngempela i-interlocutor, sithinta ngokungathinteki i-lobes ezindlebeni (hlola ukuthi i-noodle efanayo ixhomeke yini?)
Futhi abaqambimanga bathinta intanyeni, izinkinobho ezingabonakali, ikholomu yekhola. Ngokuvamile bathinta i-dimple phezu kwezindebe kanye nephuzu lempumu.
Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile, ingqondo yezinto zomuntu nezenzo zobuso akuyona nje indaba yokubheka amehlo nomlomo. Ngokuvamile okuphambene kuyiqiniso, futhi amanga, kunalokho, kufanele kubalwe ngezenzo ezisesimweni esibucayi nesimo sobuso. Isibonelo:
- ukugxila okungazelelwe ngesikhathi sokuqamba amanga;
- ukusheshisa noma ukukhulumisana kwenkulumo ngokulinganayo.
Uzwela nokuphikisana
Kanti futhi nasengqondweni yezenzo zomuntu, ukunakwa okuningi kubhalwa ngesihawu nokuphikisana, okungukuthi, ukubala kokuthembeka kwemizwa ye-interlocutor.
Ngokwengqondo, lezi zenzo ezilandelayo zothando ziyaziwa:
- ukuxosha isandla ngokuqinile;
- imilenze ehlukanisiwe kakhulu, amasokisi abukeka ngapha nangapha kwe-interlocutor;
- ukulingisa ngezenzo, amagama, ubuso obuso;
- ukuthambekela okuncane komzimba phambili;
- izintende ezivulekile.
Izenzo zokungabi nandaba (ukukhwabanisa, ukucasuka, ukuhlukumezeka):
- ukuxhaphaza kalula;
- wawela izingalo nemilenze;
- Izindwangu ezivaliwe ngezithupha ezivulayo;
- ukuhlukumeza amahlombe;
- i-zev;
- izandla ezinqulwini;
- izandla emaphaketheni;
- ukuguqula isihlalo emuva, isibonelo, ukuhamba kude ne-interlocutor;
- ukubuka okushelelayo.
Izenzo zomuntu
Abesifazane, njengalokhu njalo, banesithakazelo kumbuzo okhungathekile kakhulu: "ukuthandwa noma ukungathandi." Isibalo se-MCH esingaba khona sizosiza ukunquma ukuphathwa kwengqondo kwemisebenzi yabantu.
Uma ethanda wena, lo muntu uzonikezwa ukuthinta okulandelayo:
- imilenze ehlukanisiwe kakhulu endaweni ehlezi noma emile;
- umdlalo ngemisipha: ukusika, ukuhlanekezela ngemuva, ukufudumala kwezandla;
- umuntu uhamba phezulu naphansi, njengesilwane esibonisa ubuhle bakhe;
- Akabheki ngqo emehlweni akhe, kodwa amehlo akhe ahamba emzimbeni wakhe wonke;
- abafundi bahlanjululwa;
- owesilisa nowesifazane bazwelana, banikeze ikhophi yezenzo (izinwele ezithintekayo, i-pose "ngezinyawo ngezinyawo").