Ngeshwa, abesifazane abaningi bahlushwa ezinkimbinkimbi ezahlukene. Abanye abantu bazicabangela ukuthi bangabonakali ngokwanele, omunye umuntu unesifuba esincane, omunye uzicabangela njengomama omubi noma inkosikazi, kanti omunye ucabanga ukuthi akahlakaniphile kakhulu. Ungaba kanjani owesifazane onokwethenjelwa futhi ulahle lezi zinkimbinkimbi ezinzima , futhi uthole ukuzethemba? Ake sizame ukuphula le nkinga enzima kakhulu emisebenzini eminingana.
Indlela yokuzethemba ngokwakho owesifazane?
Okokuqala, zama ukuthola imbangela yokungaqiniseki kwakho. Mhlawumbe leli yizwi eliyisimemezelo lomama noma umkhwekazi, noma mhlawumbe owayengumngcwaba omdala? Ingabe amagama afanelekile kufanele athembeke, futhi, mhlawumbe, kukhona ithuba lokuba othembekile nokuzethemba ngokwethembeka kakhulu? Mhlawumbe, amagama anomsindo, okuthinta kakhulu ukuzethemba kwakho, akunasisekelo ngempela? Ake senze uhlu lwezinhlamba ezenzelwe wena. Futhi udala inqwaba yokuphikisana. Ingabe usolwa ngokungahambi kahle? Bhala ukuthi nini futhi nini lapho ujikeleza khona. Ungumsizi ombi? Bhala uhlu lwezingubo zakho ozithandayo. Ucabanga ukuthi uyisibi? Vakashela umculi wokwenza uphinde wenze isithombe esinqabile sithombe.
Manje vala amehlo akho futhi udwebe ingqondo yomuntu othembekile. Ezincwadini eziningi ezikhethekile, i-psychology yomuntu iyabonakaliswa ngokugcwele, ngakho-ke bayosiza ukuxazulula umbuzo wokuthi ungazethemba kanjani futhi ungayeki ukungabaza. Ngakho-ke, ungacabanga ngomuntu odumile, ojwayelene naye noma nje isithombe esitholile. Hlaziya umdwebo wakhe, izibonakaliso zakhe zomzimba nesimo sobuso. Yima phambi kwesibuko,
Esinye isici esibalulekile esizokutshela indlela yokukhanga futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuzethemba - ungaziqhathanisi nomunye umuntu. Kuzohlale kube khona umuntu ozobe ehle kakhulu, ehlakaniphile, ecebile noma ejabule. Kodwa, okokuqala, le ndlela ayikho ekupheleleni komuntu siqu, futhi, okwesibili, sibona kuphela igobolondo yangaphandle futhi angazi ukuthi umuntu ngamunye ujabule kangakanani futhi uyazethemba.