Ukwehlisa umuntu kusho ukuqinisekiswa komuntu. Sonke, ngendlela eyodwa noma enye, sithanda ukunqoba. Noma ngabe yikuphi umsebenzi esizibekela wona, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuthola imvume, shintsha isimo sengqondo somuntu, ukwenza impumelelo-isinqumo sincike ekutheni amandla ethu okuthonya angakanani. Njengoba sithembele ekutholakaleni kwale khono, kudingeka sithole ubuciko bokukholelwa.
Ulwazi oluningi
Ukusikisela nokukholisa yizinye zezindlela ezivame kakhulu zethonya lokucabanga kwengqondo kumuntu. Ngokungafani nenkolelo, ukusikisela kuyahluka ngenombolo encane yezimpikiswano. I-interlocutor, njengombuso, ukholelwa ukuthi izimpikiswano azikho ubufakazi. Konke kuncike ekubaluleke kangakanani mayelana nokuphikisana kwakho, ngezinga lokuzimisela ukukholwa nokwamukela ulwazi. Ngenxa yalokho, ukusikisela kuba yisimo sangaphakathi somuntu, okuyinto kamuva esiyibona njengeyakhe. Isigqila, abantu ababuthakathaka kalula banqotshwa kokubili ukusikisela nokuqiniseka. Noma kunjalo, lo mdlalo udinga umzamo omkhulu.
Inqubo yokukholelwa isekelwe kumaqiniso. Izitatimende zakho kufanele zicatshangwe futhi ziqondwe ngokucacile. Qinisekisa, njengomthetho, labo bantu abangazinikeli isiphakamiso esilula, babe nephuzu elihlukile lokubuka esihlokweni esixoxwa ngaso. Abantu abanjalo badinga ulwazi oluthe xaxa. Bakudinga nobufakazi bokuthembeka kwawo.
Lowo onolwazi - ungumnikazi wezwe. Ngakho-ke, ukuze uzuze impikiswano, kulula ukukholisa abantu futhi ube yi-interlocutor ezithakazelisayo, umuntu kufanele abe nokuthuthukiswa okuqhubekayo, "ugcwalise" yena, udla ngolwazi olusha futhi unesithakazelo kulokho okukuzungezile.
Imithetho namasu
Ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi indlela yokukholisa ayitholi izinto ezibudlova futhi ingathathi uhlobo lokuphoqelela, kubalulekile ukukhumbula imithetho ethile:
- qaphela ukuhlelwa kwezimpikiswano ezinikeziwe. Sebenzisa uhlelo olulandelayo: izimpikiswano eziqinile - izingqinamba zamandla aphakathi - eyodwa, kodwa ezinamandla kakhulu;
- ukuze uthole impendulo enhle kumbuzo obaluleke kunazo zonke ukuze uyibeke endaweni yesithathu. Buza i-interlocutor yakho imibuzo emibili elula futhi elula, lapho angaphendula khona kalula "Yebo." Lezi yizici zengqondo yomuntu. Ngavumelana nawe kabili - owesithathu "Yebo" uthola "kumshini";
- Nikeza ithuba kumxhumanisi "ukusindisa ubuso". Ungamthuki noma uhlazise umuntu;
- vumela ukuveza umbono wakho futhi ukwazi ukulalela;
- ube umngane ojabulisayo;
- efuna ukukholisa umuntu, qala ngalokho okuvumelana naye;
- gxilisa izikhathi ezinhle ze-interlocutor yakho bese uzama ukunciphisa ukubonakaliswa kwayo okungalungile.
Amasu angenhla azokusiza enkambweni yokwehlisa umphikisi wakho. Idumela lakho, isithombe nokuzithemba kungabasizi abakhulu kule nkinga enzima. Inhlanhla!