Ukuvela kwenkinga emndenini ngamunye kungenakugwema. Ngokushesha noma kamuva, abashadile baqala ukungaqondi, bazizwa bebandayo futhi bekude. Amaphuzu okuguqula ebuhlotsheni abanjelwa izici ezihlukahlukene - ukuzalwa kwengane, ukuhoxiswa kwengane emndenini, izinguquko emkhakheni womsebenzi womunye womlingani, njll. Izinkathi ezibucayi ezinzima zizosiza isimo sengqondo esifanele , ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabo ngabanye bomshado, umbono obanele wezinguquko ekupheleni.
Iyini inkinga ebuhlotsheni?
Inkinga ebuhlotsheni eyenzeka ngesikhathi kwenziwa umndeni, isb. ngonyaka wokuqala womshado. Lapho inyanga yothando iphela, impilo yansuku zonke nemithwalo yemfanelo ibonakala emkhayeni womndeni. Abanye abasanda kushada abalungele ukuguqulwa okunjalo, ngoba ukuphupha ngomshado (isembatho somshado omuhle, ulwandle lwe-roses, njll.) Into eyodwa, futhi ukuma nsuku zonke esitofu kungenye. Ngonyaka wokuqala womshado, abashadile kufanele bashintshe imikhuba yabo, bafunde ukusiza omunye nomunye ukubhekana nemisebenzi yasekhaya. Akuyona yonke imibhangqwana eyaphumelela ukudlulisa le nkinga "ngokungenabuhlungu", okokuqala kukhona ukunganeliseki, khona-ke izingxabano nezisulu, abashade bayeka ukuqonda.
Inkinga ebuhlotsheni bomshado iqala ekuzalweni kwezibulo. Lapho kubonakala umntwana, abesifazane abaningi baqala ukugxila kulo lonke ingane futhi "bakhohlwe" ngomyeni. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kubonakala sengathi umyeni ukuthi umnakekeli omncane uyamnakekela kancane kancane, ungakhathazeki kangako, akaguquli indlela yakhe yokuphila, njengoba yena, isibonelo, engavuki nengane ebusuku, njll.
Umlingani naye, uzwa sengathi umfazi uye wasuka, akasasazi. Amanye amadoda abuye aqaphele ukuthi aphunga ubisi futhi azizwe enyanya. Ngokungezansi kokungaboni kahle, ukungabi nesikhathi sokukhululeka nokubonakala kwendodana noma indodakazi yokuqala, abashadile bavame ukubhekana nokungavumelani okukhulu.
"Ukuhamba kwesidleke sokugcina esivela esidlekeni" nakho kuholela enkingeni, okungukuthi, lapho ingane yokugcina iqala umndeni wayo futhi ishiya ikhaya lomzali, lo mbhangqwana uzizwa ungenalutho, yonke indlela evamile ishintsha.
Indlela yokusinda kule nkinga ebuhlotsheni?
Usizo lokusinda zonke izinkathazo zobudlelwane bomndeni kuzosiza ukuhlolwa okwanele kokuziphatha kwabo. Phela, abaningi abashadile baqala ukusola bese bekhohlwa ngokuphelele ngamaphutha abo. Ngesikhathi sokuvuthwa kwehlazo, kufanele ubheke zonke izinkinga ngaphakathi kwakho, zama ukuhamba kusuka ku- "I". Eqinisweni, izazi zengqondo zithi kunoma yikuphi ukuxabana kokubili kuyisola - umuntu wenze okungalungile,
Uma ufunda ukubekezela nokuqonda, khona-ke uzwe amaphuzu okuphenduka ngokunciphisa "ukulahlekelwa" okungezansi ngobuhlobo. Inkohlakalo ngayinye "iyabulala" uthando, ukuhlambalaza okuphezulu kakhulu, ngokushesha imizwa iya. Ngezinye izikhathi amahora ambalwa okuvimbela angagcina ukukhanya nokuthembeka kobudlelwano bobudlelwane phakathi kweminyaka eminingi ezayo.
Ukuxazulula lo mbuzo - ukuthi ungayinqoba kanjani inkinga ebuhlotsheni, funda ukuthi ungathembeki engxenyeni yakho, bese ungayikusola "kuzo zonke izinto ezingathí sina." Ngenxa yokulindela okungenabulungisa, ukuzalwa nentukuthelo kuzalwa, okuyinto ngisho nobuhlobo obukhulu kunabo bonke.