Emphakathini emakhulwini eminyaka kukholwa ukuthi indoda kumele ibe namandla. Ngempela, kubangela ukuthi abesifazane babe njengamadoda aqinile, futhi wonke umuntu ufuna ukubona umuntu oseduze nawe, ukuze ukwazi ukuthembela kuye ngokuphelele, ukhohlwe zonke izinsizi nokukhathazeka futhi nje uphumule, uncike ehlombe lomuntu othembekile nonamandla.
Indoda eqinile yangempela izimisele, isebenza futhi iphikelela. Kuye ungesabi lutho futhi ube owesifazane obuthakathaka. Sekuyiminyaka eminingi indoda enomuntu ocansini enhle iyenza ibe necala labantwana kanye nabashadile, isibindi ekuxazululeni izimo ezinzima kanye namandla okusebenza.
Namuhla, iningi lemibhangqwana eshadile ingahlukaniswa yaba izinhlobo ezimbili zezinyunyana:
- owesifazane oqinile nomuntu onamandla. Kukhona inketho enjalo engavamile kakhulu, ngoba abameleli bobulili obunamandla ngokuvamile bavame ukuzigwema bona besifazane. Abaholi ababili ngeke bahlukanise insimu ngokulinganayo futhi bayohlala bekulwela ukuphakama. Kodwa lapho kwenzeka owesifazane, nakuba ngezinye izikhathi edlala indima ebuthakathaka, inyunyana ingaba yimpumelelo enkulu;
- indoda enamandla nowesifazane obuthakathaka. Amaqembu anjalo ahambisana kakhulu. Owesifazane oholayo akazenzisi ukuhola, futhi oshade naye uqobo, uzizwa eyona indoda enamandla kunabo bonke.
Eqinisweni, ukuphila namadoda anamandla akude nefu. Futhi banesiphambeko esikhulu lapho owesifazane kufanele abeke khona, okubonakala sengathi uyathandana ngenkathi eshada, angadumala empilweni ndawonye.
Izinkinga zamadoda aqinile
- Indoda enamandla uzizwa eyinhloko yomndeni kanye nendlebe yakhe, ngakho umzamo wokuziqhenya ubhekwa njengokungathi umfazi akakholelwa kuye. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umfazi kancane kancane unqatshelwe ithuba lokusebenza, ukufunda, ukuhlangabezana nezintombi, ukuzijabulisa ngaphandle komlingani.
- Kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ayikucabangi ukuthi lowo oshade naye usebenza, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uyaphakamisa ukubaluleka komsebenzi wakhe, ecabanga ukuthi umsebenzi ongeyona into nje yokudlala owesifazane ohluphekayo.
- Futhi kukhona abaphelele - uhlobo olukhethekile lwamadoda aqinile. Uzama ngazo zonke izindlela ukwenza umkakhe abe yinto enhle: uphoqa umkakhe ukuba asebenze futhi afunde lapho kuphela, ngokubona kwakhe, ehloniphekile ukuthi uhlangabezana nezimiso zakhe, futhi angaziqhayisa phakathi kwabalingani bakhe nabangani bakhe. Owesifazane uhlukanisiwe nomhlaba nezifiso zakhe. Uzizwa ekhululekile, encike ngokuphelele, esimweni esibi kunazo zonke ogula futhi ecindezelekile. Ukuhlushwa kwengqondo okunjalo kungaba nengxenye ekuthuthukiseni izifo zangempela. Ukuntuleka kwenkululeko nokuzivocavoca kunomthelela ekwenzeni izinsizwa, ukucindezeleka, ukugula. Kuvela ukuthi owesifazane unikeza inkululeko yakhe ithuba lokuba buthakathaka.
- Ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo nokuzibophezela komuntu onamandla ukuthi uzinqumela konke okwenzela umkakhe futhi, uyazi kuphela nokuthi kufanele enze kanjani ngendlela efanele, nokufezekisa umphumela oyifunayo, konke kufanele kube ngaphansi kokulawula, okuyinto ngezinye izikhathi okunamandla kakhulu futhi kungena i-despotism. Owesifazane uzizwa ethembele kumlingani wakhe, waphukisa ukuthi izifiso zakhe nemibono yakhe ayicabangi.
- Ikhono lokuzivikela liphendukile libe yinto ephikisanayo nokuphikisana, futhi noma yisiphi isitatimende sombono womuntu singabangela ukuhlaselwa. Le ndoda iyona eyinhloko futhi lokhu akukhulunywe ngakho.
Ngokuvamile abesifazane abazi ukuxhumana nomuntu onamandla ukuze basindise ubuhlobo futhi bangalahlekelwa yibo. Okokuqala, udinga ukuzithoba okuphelele, ngokubambisana nokunakekela nokuvikela. Kodwa-ke, njengoba sekufinyelele ukuzithoba, indoda ilahlekelwa inzalo nokuhlonipha owesifazane. Lapho intombazane encane iphikisa futhi inselele ithonya lomyeni wayo,
Abesifazane nabo abahambisani nalokhu: bafuna ukuba buthakathaka futhi bancike kumuntu, kodwa abathandi ukuhlala esimweni esiphezulu futhi bamlalele. Ngifuna ukukhombisa amandla nokuzimela. Uma umuntu evumela, bayakhononda ngobuthakathaka bakhe. Kubonakala sengathi indoda eqinile nebuthakathaka ayifanelanga owesifazane ngokugcwele. Omunye akamvumeli ukuba aziveze yena, kanti enye ayikuvumeli ukuba uphumule futhi uzizwe njengowesifazane. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu abahle abakhona futhi ekugcineni konke kuxhomeke kithi.