Muva nje, omama bavame ukukhononda ngokuthi amadoda abuthakathaka kunabesifazane. Futhi akunakwenzeka ukunikeza impendulo ecacile ukuthi ukukhulisiswa kule mfundo, izinhlanhla zanamuhla noma kungumkhuba weminyaka edlule. Ekuqondeni ubulili obuningi obuhle, umuntu obuthakathaka ngumuntu ongenakukwazi ukubhekana nobunzima obhekene nazo futhi ubaguqule kwabanye. Futhi, akukho mgomo ekuphileni, umbono wakhe futhi udinga ukunakwa njalo nokunakekelwa njalo. Abafazi abathintekayo babheka kanjani umbono ochwepheshe?
Amadoda aziphatha njengobulili obuthakathaka angahlukaniswa zibe izinhlobo eziningana:
- "Indodana kaMama". Njengomthetho, bakhula emndenini ongaphelele ngaphansi kokunakekelwa kokubeletha okwedlulele noma emndenini ophelele nonina ongumama, lapho umndeni wonke ungaphansi kwawo. Lolu hlobo lomuntu obuthakathaka lufanele owesifazane ohluphayo osetshenziselwa ukuyala nokwenza izinqumo.
- Indoda ekhululekile. Uzenza sengathi ubuthakathaka ukungabi nesikhundla. Eqinisweni, angakwazi ukufeza okuningi. Ungakwenza, ngakho-ke lo muntu obuthakathaka uyoba namandla futhi anqume uma uyeka ukuthatha konke okukuwe. Kodwa kunengozi yokuthi umuntu uzothola omunye ozobamba izinkinga ezinjengawe.
- Izwela. Amandla alesi sigaba avame ukutholakala phakathi kwabantu bokudala. Bangabangane abanobubele, abanakekelayo, bebona ngokukhambayo okwenzekayo, kodwa abafisa ukuthanda.
- I-indecisive. Bayamahloni ekwenzeni izinqumo, ikakhulukazi mayelana nokuphila komuntu siqu, ngakho-ke akukhuthazwa ukwakha ubudlelwane nabo.
Izimpawu zomuntu obuthakathaka:
- ukuzihawukela njalo;
- izizathu eziningi zokungenzi lutho;
- udinga ukunakekelwa komuntu;
- hhayi ikhono lokuphatha imali;
- ukuthembela emidlalweni yekhompyutha;
- ngisho nasezindabeni ezimbi kunazo zonke ethatha ngokungathí sina, ngenkathi ethanda ukukhalaza, engelapheki;
- ngokungafaniyo uyingxenye nedoti endala.
Izindawo ezinamandla zikhona kuwo wonke amadoda. Ngamunye wabo unayo eyakhe, kodwa kunezibalo ezijwayelekile zesabayo ezihambelana kakhulu:
- abameli be-soccer okuthiwa unamandla kakhulu:
- Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yiloluhlangothi olubuthakathaka lwabantu abaningi;
- ukwesaba ukungenakunqotshwa;
- ukwesaba ukwehluleka kocansi;
- iphuzu elibuthakathaka lamadoda ukwesaba ukwenza amaphutha;
- ukwesaba ushintsho, kuvame ukwanda ngokukhula;
- ukwesaba ukwehluleka;
- kubonakala kungenangqondo noma hhayi ngokwanele.
Owesifazane oqinile uyisekela umuntu obuthakathaka futhi le nyunyana ingaba ngokuvumelana kakhulu. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna ukuhudula njalo lesi sithwathwa phezu kwakhe ngumbuzo ovulekile.