Namuhla, ngokuvamile uvame ukuzwa emibhangqwaneni "sinobuhlobo ngaphandle kwezibopho." Le nkulumo iyathakazelisa, ngingaqonda okwamanje ukuthi kusho ukuthini: ukungabikho kwezibopho zokukhipha udoti noma ubuhlobo obomkhulu bethu obungabiza igama elifushane kodwa elingaqinisekisiwe?
Ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwezibopho - kusho ukuthini lokhu?
Indlela yokuqonda inkulumo ethi "ubuhlobo ngaphandle kwezibopho"? Impendulo emgqeni owodwa ayikwazi ukunikezwa lapha, kusho ukuhluleka kakhulu ukubeka abantu abahlukene emqondweni we "ubudlelwane bekhululekile".
- Isibonelo, amadoda avame ukwesaba umthwalo wemfanelo ebuhlotsheni, ngakho-ke bafuna inkululeko. Ngaphezu kwalokho, le nkululeko iyadingeka kubo ezindaweni ezahlukene zokuphila, lokhu kuhlanganisa kokubili impilo nokulala. Yebo, ubuhlobo bungenazo izibopho, ungaba nabalingani abaningi njengoba ufuna, futhi olunye uhlangothi ngeke lisho lutho, ngoba inkontileka.
- Kodwa inkinga yokungakhathaleli akuyona nje isigamu esiqinile sabantu. Ngokuvamile, amantombazane ayazi kahle imisebenzi yomfana ebuhlotsheni, ekhohlwa eyabo, futhi akumangazi ukuthi abesifazane abanjalo bazuza ngokunikezwa kwezihlobo zamahhala. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane abakhululiwe, abanqume ngokuqinile ukwenza umsebenzi omuhle, bakholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi abanaso isikhathi sokushintshaniswa nomndeni. Kulezi zimo, umsunguli wobudlelwane bekhululekile nguyena wesifazane, futhi akashada ngoba akekho owenzayo, kodwa ngoba akafuni.
- Isibonelo esilandelayo sobuhlobo ngaphandle kwezibopho ngunxantathu onothando. Kunomndeni, futhi ngokuzijabulisa kukhona umthandi (inkosikazi), yiziphi izibopho ezingase zibe khona?
- Ngokuvamile, ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwezibopho kukhethwe amadoda nabesifazane abahlukanisile. Imithwalo yemfanelo yomndeni esivele isondliwe, ifuna inkululeko encane nokuthanda. Isifiso sokuphumula empilweni enesithukuthezi sinokwemvelo, kodwa ngokuvamile ubudlelwane obunjalo abuhlali isikhathi eside - abahlukanisi bafuna ukufudumala nokuqonda, okubuhlobo obuzibophezele ngaphandle kwemikhawulo engenakube ngaphezu kwazo zonke ezinye amaqembu.
Kusukela kuzo zonke ezingenhla, kungaphetha ngokuthi amaqembu ahlukene abantu abathandana nobudlelwane ngaphandle kwezibopho, kodwa bonke baphishekela umgomo ofanayo - inkululeko. Nakuba, izazi zengqondo zithi kaningi ngaphansi kobudlelwane obunjalo, abantu bafihla ukungavikeleki kwabo nokwesaba umthwalo wemfanelo. Futhi umqondo oyinhloko wobuhlobo bomhlaba mahhala inkontileka engabhalwanga, ukugcinwa okuyimfuneko kubo bobabili amaqembu. Amaphuzu aphambili yalesi sivumelwane yisikhathi esivumelanisiwe semibuthano yokuzijabulisa okuthakazelisayo kanye nokungabikho kweminyango yokukhululeka komuntu siqu.
Imisebenzi yamadoda nabesifazane ebuhlotsheni
Lapha sithi: ubudlelwane obukhulu ukungabi khona kwemithwalo yemfanelo kanye nezibopho kumlingani. Futhi yiziphi izinkathazo zabantu abathintekayo ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwezibopho, yiziphi izikhathi ezithinta izakhamuzi ezinothando ngenkululeko? Lezi yimithwalo yemfanelo eyenziwa amadoda nabesifazane ebuhlotsheni bendabuko.
Imisebenzi yamadoda kufanele inikeze umndeni ngezinhlobo ezahlukene zokuvikelwa - ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, ngokwezezimali nangokomoya. Ngokuyisisekelo, azikho izambulo lapha, sifuna ukubona umvikeli kulowo muntu, futhi umphakathi wenzelwe ukuthi kuleso nendima kuye.
Imithwalo yemisebenzi yabesifazane iyabonakala kakhulu - ukusekela umyeni, hhayi ukufuna okuningi kuye, ukulalela, ukwazi ukupheka kahle