Ngokwezengqondo ze-psychologist, inkulumo yama-classic yokuthi umshado ubulala uthando, empeleni, ifihla enye yeqiniso. Kodwa-ke, baphinde bathi impilo yomndeni ingahlala ikhula futhi igcwele iminyaka eminingi. Mane ukhumbule ukuthi umshado wethu noma imizwa yomunye umuntu kithi kithi kukhona okuhlala njalo futhi okubonakalayo. Noma yimuphi ubuhlobo - nomndeni, mhlawumbe ngaphezu kwakho konke! - badinga njalo "umjovo wokuvuselela". Funda ukuthi bangaba yini, nokuthi bangabuyela kanjani ubuhlobo babo bomndeni ngosizo lwabo.
Shayela endaweni ethile ngempelasonto
Futhi lapha asisho ukuthi uhambo olujwayelekile oluya e-dacha (njengoba kungenakwenzeka ukusiza ukuvuselela ubuhlobo), kodwa ukuhamba okufutshane ezindaweni ezingavamile. Uma unabantwana abancane, futhi unquma ukuthatha nabo, nakanjani bayojabula. Ideal - futhi ukuhamba ndawonye kulowo muzi (izwe, idolobhana), lapho uqala khona, eminyakeni eminingi edlule, behlangene. Thola ihhotela elifanayo, bacele ukuthi bakubeke ekamelweni elifanayo. Okumangalisa ukuthi, ukuvuselela ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakhe kuzokusiza uhambo oludabukisayo olunjalo esidlule.
Yenza isimanga
Awukwazi ukucabanga ukuthi ungavuselela kanjani ubuhlobo bakho nezihluthulelo ezingalindelekile. Ungazitholi izinsuku zokuzalwa ezijwayelekile noma amaholide ukuze unike umlingani wakho isipho esithile. Lesi sipho sizoba nenani elikhethekile ngokuqondile ngoba kwakungalindelekile. Mfihle ngaphansi komsila ushokoledi omkhulu. Thenga ikhadi lokuposa, ubhale kuwo amazwi othando nobumusa, bese uyibeka encwadini ayifunayo.
Buza imibuzo
Ochwepheshe bagcizelela ukuthi ngenkathi esekhaya, abashadile bachitha ukukhuluma ngezinkinga zabo kanye nezindaba kuphela ngo-4% wesikhathi sabo. Thatha njengomkhuba wokuba nesithakazelo kumyeni wakhe, ukuthi usuku lwakhe luhamba kanjani. Ukuvuselela ubuhlobo kuzosiza ukuhlangana okulula okuncane ekhishini. Ngikholelwa, uzobonga isithakazelo sakho futhi uzokubonga ngisho nengxoxo engamaminithi amahlanu (amadoda, indlela eyodwa noma enye, gwema izingxoxo ezinde!)
Yithinte
Ukuxhumana nomyeni wakhe akuyona nje inkhulumomphendvulwano yokukhuluma. Ungesabi ukukuthinta kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuhlaziya ubuhlobo bakho buzosiza izenzo ezilula kakhulu: uhlale eduze, ummbambe, ubeke ikhanda lakhe ehlombe, udlulise kahle ngezinwele zakhe. Ekupheleni kosuku olunzima, uzokubonga ngalezi zibonakaliso ezingabonakali zokunakwa.
Khuluma ngawe
Mayelana nalokho okukukhathaza ngakho, ngalokho ozizwayo noma ocabanga ngakho-noma ngabe uyazi ukuthi akavumelani nemibono yakho yezinto. Ukudlala kwamagama nokuphikisana kwemibono ngokuvamile kuthatha isisusa esinempilo, njenge-lever, esiza ukuvuselela isimiso sobuhlobo obujwayelekile. Khumbuza umyeni wakho ukuthi ungumuntu!
Zinakekele
Njengoba njalo, ngakho-ke manje, ukuvuselela ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe kowesifazane kalula ngokubukeka kwakhe. Ungaziqedi! Lahla amakhilogremu engeziwe onayo ngezikhathi ezithile. Yiba nesitoreji eziningana zokukhethwa kwezinwele ezibhekene nobuso bakho, futhi zenze ezinye. Buka ubuso bakho futhi ungalondolozi imali yokuzikhandla nokuzikhandla uma ungakwazi ukuzenza wena. Indoda ingase ingajabuli uma uchitha ngezicathulo ezingaphezulu noma esinye isikhwama. Kodwa uzobe ethule ngokuthula, uma uthi uchithe inani elithile kwi-cosmetologist.
Shintsha indawo
Uma ukhathazekile ngokuthi ungavuselela kanjani ubuhlobo bakho bocansi, cabanga ukuthi igumbi akuyona indawo kuphela efulethini lapho ungenza khona uthando. Kule ndaba, ngokungazelelwe nokuthi yini ongayilindele ngokuvamile kuvame ukwedlula ukuthi kuhlelwe futhi kucatshangelwe.
Hlala ukulala ndawonye
Lesi seluleko sinikezwa isazi sezengqondo saseMelika, umxhumanisi emshadweni kanye nobudlelwane bomndeni uMark Goulston. Njengoba esho, ukuvuselela ubudlelwane bomndeni obushadile kuzosiza izinkumbulo zendlela abazange balinde ukuba balale ngayo eminyakeni yokuqala yomshado wabo. Isazi sezengqondo sithi, ngokusho kwakhe, yonke imibhangqwana ejabulayo igwema ukulala ndawonye - ngisho noma ekuseni kudingeka ivuke ngezikhathi ezihlukene.
Chaza othandweni
Ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyincithakalo noma kuyisilima? Ngeze! Ngabe ungabe uvuselela kanjani ubuhlobo nomyeni wakho, uma ungamtshelanga ukuthi eminyakeni eminingi kangaka uyathandeka kuwe - njengoba nje ngosuku lapho elindele khona ngosuku lwakho lokuqala. Ngaphansi kwewashi, nge-daffodils efriziwe ezandleni zabo ...