"Ngifuna ukuhlazisa umuntu!" Izinhloko ezinjalo zigcwele izingosi nezinkundla eziningi zenethiwekhi yomhlaba wonke. Wonke owesifazane unezizathu zakhe zokubheka imishwana eyinhloko nezinketho ezehlukene zokukwenza, kodwa ake sibhekane nalo mbuzo kusuka ekubukeni kwesayensi futhi sicabange ukuthi singamthobisa kanjani umuntu kahle futhi ngobuqili.
Indlela yokukhuluma ukuhlazisa umuntu?
Uma owesifazane ebuza umbuzo onjalo, kusho ukuthi ufike emkhawulweni. Ingxenye enhle yesintu inesibindi esikhulu sokubekezela. Kodwa uma ekugcineni kuqhuma, ungalindela noma yini. Akuyona imfihlo kunoma ubani okuyingxenye enkulu, amadoda angabuthakathaka ngokokuziphatha. Yebo, amandla abo angasiza emndenini futhi, ezimweni ezihlukile, njengesekelo nokusekela. Kodwa-ke, labo kithi abazama ukuhlambalaza lokhu "ubulili obuqinile", kodwa kudingeka sibeke ingcindezi ebuthakathakeni. Futhi amadoda abo amaningi - noma yikuphi ukugxekwa kungadonsa ngisho nomuntu othembekile ngaphandle. Ngakho ake sibone, ungamhlazisa kanjani umuntu?
- Ukuzihlola. Ngaphambi kokuba ufike ngenkulumo engakusiza endabeni yokuthi ungamhlazisa kanjani umfana, zama ukuqonda kangcono umbono wakhe wezwe kanye nesimo sengqondo ekuphileni. Amadoda ayakwazisa kakhulu ukuzethemba kwawo, futhi kulula kakhulu ukuyigubha. Dlala kulesici esibaluleke kakhulu - umqondo wokuziqhenya ngokuba yingxenye yesonto lamadoda. Ngamanye amazwi, zama ukutshela umuntu ukuthi akakuthandi njengendoda. Abanye babo bangase bacasuke futhi bacasuke, kodwa abanye bayodelela abanye kakhulu. Konke kuncike ezimweni.
- Ikakhulukazi indlela emangalisayo yokuhlazisa umfana kuyinto ihlaya elibi ngemuva kokusondelana. Zama ukutshela le ndoda ukuthi wayengeke ayifinyelele. Lokhu kuyoba yinkinga enkulu. Ngendlela, "amahlaya" anjalo angenza umlingani wakho abe namandla okungenani ngesonto.
- Ukubukeka kubandakanya indima ebalulekile emadodeni. Kuyakwazi ukukusho ukuthi uthanda kanjani umuthi "ovela kulowo mfana omuhle" futhi u-interlocutor wakho uzoqala ukugaya amazinyo.
- Ithenda. Amadoda njalo afuna ukuba abe kakhulu kakhulu, futhi uma umphikisi wakho engabonakali idatha ekhethekile, mnike njengesibonelo nanoma yikuphi udumo oseminyakeni yakhe osevele ekwazi ukuthandwa nokunye okufanele.
- Ungaphinde ugibele isihloko esithi "indodana yendodana", umgogodla njalonjalo. Izinkulumo ezinjalo azidluli kahle izindlebe ze-interlocutor yakho.
Ngamaphi amazwi ongamhlazisa umfana?
Kulokhu, ulwazi jikelele, mhlawumbe, ngokwanele. Ake sihambe ngqo kumagama ongamthobisa umuntu ngokuya ngezinhloso zakho nezimo zakho.
Ake siqhubeke nokuthi umuntu ofuna ukumthinta akanamagama afanayo emazwini, futhi ngeke akhuphuke ephaketheni lakhe ngamagama. Ikakhulukazi lokhu kusebenza kumantombazane acabanga ukuthi angamthobisa kanjani umuntu owayengumfana. Ngakho-ke, ake ucabange ngezimo ezimbalwa, okufanayo noma okufanayo nalezo owazenzayo kanye nezinketho zezimpendulo zakho kumfana onenhloso yokukucasula.
- Uyisiwula!
- Yebo, ngingumuntu oyisiwula. Bonisa usizo? Lokhu kubonakala, ngoba sihlale sikhuluma neziwula.
- Yebo wenza lohushka!
- Futhi uma bekungekho ama-suckers, ungaba kuphi manje?
- Ngandlela-thile awudli kahle.
"Ngivele ngifihle imilenze yami ukuze ungayihlezi phansi."
- Wenzani i-vyaknula (enye inketho yanyuka)?
- Enye inkulumo yami ivame ukuqondwa. Cishe unenkinga yokuzwa, noma ngomqondo omuhle.
- Ungumuntu omuhle noma into?
- Wena ngokwakho, kungani ukhuluma kanje? Isikhathi sokubhaliselwa ekamelweni eliphuthumayo sekuphela?
Izinketho ezifanayo ezimpendulo ongahluka kuzo kuye ngezinhloso zakho. Ukubakhumbula, ngeke usabhekana nenkinga yokuziphatha kabi komuntu. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi uzokwazi ukulimaza isithunzi somuntu kuphela uma enesibindi sokuzethemba. Indoda yokuzethemba ukuthinta kunzima kakhulu. Hlola amandla akho ngaphambi kokuba unqume ngesinyathelo esinjalo. Kodwa-ke, uma uqinisekile ukuthi uzobhekana nokuphupha mayelana nezindlela zokupheka ezenziwe ngokulungele ukuhlazisa umfana ngamazwi, sikunikeza ukukhethwa kwemisho egcwele ukucasula okuphawulekayo.
- Ngingahle ngilale phansi ukuze ngikhulume nawe ngezinyawo ezilinganayo;
- akagulanga, uhlale ebukeka kanjalo;
- Angikwazi ngisho nokungabaza ukuthi ukhulelwe ukuxabana;
- ngobuhle ngokusobala awukwazi ukulondoloza umhlaba;
- Ngingakuthuma, kodwa ngokusobala uvele nje lapho;
- kuwe kusuka ezimfanelo ezinhle kubonakala kuphela i-Rh factor;
- usakaze okungenani umnkantsha wamathambo;
- ungakhathazeki, futhi angikhumbuli igama lakho;
- ilungelo lakho lombono wakho awukwazi ukungenza ngilalele ukungazi lutho kwakho.