Yebo, namuhla ngokuvamile amantombazane nabesifazane kufanele bathathe indima yomzingeli. Kulokhu akukho lutho olwesabekayo - ngaphandle kokuthi isisulu esikhethiwe asiqondi ukuthi bayamzingela.
Ungayithanda kanjani umfana ngokubukeka?
Ngenhlanhla, ukuphendula lo mbuzo, ngeke sidinge amazwekazi angafundile noma sungulwe izimoto ezintsha. Ngendlela ongathanda ngayo ngaso leso sikhathi umuntu (noma umfana) ngokubukeka, ukuqapha kwabesifazane kuvele esikhathini esidlule. (Kucatshangwa ukuthi lokhu kungokwentshisekelo yendoda engaziwa noma indoda).
Ngakho-ke, kunezindlela ezimbili, ezilula kakhulu. Uma ubona ukuthi umfana uyakubheka, mphendule ngokubukeka okufushane emehlweni akho, smile - bese uvala. Uma engakuboni, ungamthathi amehlo aze angamboni. Ngokushesha nje lapho amehlo akho ahlangana, bheka phansi ehlazweni. Kucatshangwa ukuthi, ngalesi sikhathi ubonisa ukuthi udidekile wakho mayelana nokuthi ubambelele endaweni yesehlakalo. Kodwa-ke, akulona okuningi ukudonsa lokhu kubonakaliswa, ngoba hhayi wena kuphela, kodwa nalabo besifazane abavela kuye ebangeni elikude bangaba nesithakazelo kulo mfana. Ngakho-ke, sithatha amasekhondi angu 2-3 kuya esigabeni sombukiso obala. Emva kwalokho, futhi, bheka phezulu, ubuke emehlweni akhe, ukumomotheka - futhi futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe kakhulu, uphinde ubheke kude.
Sihlolisise ukuthi ungasithakazelisa kanjani nokuthi ungayithanda kanjani ngaso leso sikhathi umfana ongajwayelekile noma indoda. Uma engazange aphenduke nganoma iyiphi indlela, lokho kungasho enye yezinto ezimbili: noma intombi yakhe kufanele ivele eminithini futhi ayifuni ihlazo, noma uyamthanda kakhulu kangangokuthi engenandaba nenye intombazane noma owesifazane. (Ngikholelwa, kwenzeka futhi!)
Masibuye sisho nokuthi ungasenza kanjani ukuhlukanisa, futhi hhayi isithakazelo umfana oyithandayo noma umuntu. Ukuphoqa okungaqondakali noma ukumamatheka okunomusa kakhulu, cishe, kuzophoqelela into enentshisekelo yakho ukuvula uhlangothi oluphambene nawe.
Ukwazi kanjani ukuthi umfana onesithakazelo?
Okokuqala, thinta izindlebe zakho futhi ulalele lokho ukuhleka kwakho okukuzwakala khona. Uhlobo lubeka ekuzalweni kwazo zonke izintombi ezizalwa, futhi, kholwa mina, akukaze kube yiphutha. Omunye umbuzo wukuthi asifuni njalo ukuzwa nokuliqonda.
Ungabeka kanjani olunye ulwazi uma unesithakazelo kuye? Uma umfana ebuza imibuzo ejulile futhi ethize ngawe, futhi alalele ngokucophelela lokho okushoyo kuye, kungenzeka ukuthi ufuna ukukwazi kangcono.
Indlela yokuthakazelisa umfana ngengxoxo?
Okokuqala, bonisa ukuthembeka phakathi kwengxoxo yakho. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu, njengamantombazane amaningi, ukuze anentshisekelo yindoda abayithandayo, azishaye emgibeni wamanga - ezama ukuzithoba kubo ekukhanyeni okuwina, embonweni wabo. Ungenzi iphutha elifanayo. Asikho isidingo sokumela ukuthi awukho yini - ukuheha noma ubani. Ngikholelwa, akufanele kube ne-sheepdog eyodwa. Kufanele ube, okokuqala, ngokwakho - futhi owuthandayo, uyayithanda. Lalela ngentshisekelo kulokho akutshela khona. Uma ungathinti ukubaluleka kokuthi nokuthi uthini, awukwazi ukumthanda. Noma yimuphi umfana uzakwazisa umlaleli olalelisayo - obani ofuna ukuxhumana naye ngokuqhubekayo.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi yiluphi udaba ongakhathalela umfana - zama ukuqonda kulokho akusho ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, qaphela ukulalela kahle emazwini akhe, futhi, ngenxa yakho, mtshele umbono wakho ngalezi zihloko ezithinta.
Ungabe usuphinde uthinte kanjani umfana?
Ukwenza kube nzima, ngoba, njengoba kwaziwa, kuyinto entsha ngokuphelele engayithandayo umuntu jikelele (futhi umfana ngokukhethekile). Ngakho-ke, konke kuxhomeke ukuthi kungani elahlekelwa isithakazelo kuwe.
Uma isoka lakho lithande enye intombazane, isikhathi kuphela sizokusiza (noma kunalokho, yena) ukuqonda ukuthi ngabe wenze kahle yini, ukuyeka kuwe.
Uma ehamba, ngoba wayenesithukuthezi nawe, futhi, hhayi ukuthi unecala. Bheka izinga lamapulangwe akho okuphila. Uma emisa isinyathelo esiphakeme kunawe (okusho ulwazi, izithakazelo, amakhono) - zama ukufinyelela futhi ufika kule nqanaba.
Ngokuvamile umfana ushiya ngoba le ntombazane yayihlanjululwa kuye futhi empilweni yakhe, ilahlekelwa ngokuphelele. Njengomthetho, kulokhu, ukuba nesithakazelo futhi ubuyisele umfana akunzima kakhulu. Ngenxa yalokhu, kudingekile ukuthi ucabange ngokwakho, okuhle - iresiphi engasoze yahluleka.