Ubudlelwane bunjengezikebhe ezinobuthakathaka ezilula kalula ekuzijabuliseni kwansuku zonke nokuphila kwansuku zonke. Njengoba isaga sasendulo sithi: "konke kugeleza, konke kuguquka", futhi ubuhlobo lapha akuyona into ehlukile, kumele futhi bashintshe.
Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi kukhona "izinsuku ezibucayi" eziwela ezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu, lapho ubuhlobo buba khona noma bukhula bunamandla. Futhi i-harbinger eyinhloko yalesi sikhathi "esiyingozi" ngokuqondile ukuvela kombuzo wendlela yokuhlukanisa ubudlelwane.
Indima eyinhloko yokwethulwa kokuhlukahluka ebuhlotsheni inikezwa owesifazane: ngemuva kwakho konke, une-arsenal enkulu ehlanganisa ubuciko, ubuqili nokuhlakanipha. Kodwa, noma kunjalo, indoda kufanele ihlanganyele ekuvuseleleni imizwa.
Izinhlobo zingasetshenziswa ngezindlela ezehlukene: ukwethembeka nokungathembeki, kepha umthetho omkhulu lapha kufanele ube yiqhawe futhi ube nesifiso esifanayo sokushintsha. Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kwesimiso: qala ukulayisha kabusha ubuhlobo!
Indlela yokuhlukanisa ubudlelwano bobulili?
Zonke izinguquko ezitholwa empilweni yobulili, kufanele zihlangabezane nezifiso zombili abalingani. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuqala "ukuguqulwa kocansi", thola ukucabangela komthandi. Kunconywa ukukwenza ngasese kuye, bese uhlela ukumangala. Khumbula ukuthi ubugovu bobulili akuyona indawo engcono kakhulu: ukuthola okuthile, kufanele uqale ukunikeza okuthile, ngakho-ke thatha isinyathelo phambili, futhi ukwanelise esinye sezifiso zakhe eziyimfihlakalo, bese ulinda "ukunyakaza okuqhubekayo."
Umdlalo ungumvelo wemvelo kunoma yimuphi umuntu. Usuku lonke, sizama izindima eziningi: umama, osebenzisana naye, umfazi, isitha, umngane, njll. Kungani ungafaki enye: khetha isithombe (umhlengikazi, intombazane enhlekazi, intombi enomdlandla, intombazane engenalwazi, njll), shintsha izingubo futhi ubonise ngokukhanya okukhulu. Dlala ngezikhathi zakhe, shintsha, ngoba amadoda isithembu.
Ukwengeza "pepper" ungakwazi ukubopha izandla zakho, uvale amehlo, ube nobulili endaweni engavamile.
Ithiphu: Ukuqagela ngesifiso sobulili somthandi wakho, bheka kwikhompyutha yakhe emlandweni wamasayithi avakashelwe (noma omagazini eshalofini): ngezinye izikhathi wonke umuntu uya emakhasini anokuqukethwe okungathandeki futhi ubheka ukuthi yini eyamjabulisa kakhulu. Uma unenhlanhla ukuthola, khona-ke le ndaba ingathathwa njengesisekelo futhi isetshenziswe empilweni.
Indlela yokuhlukanisa ubudlelwane bomndeni?
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukwethula ukuhlukahluka ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, unqume ukuthi yini abangenayo kakhulu: isifiso, ukusondelana ngokomoya, ukuhlangana, njll. Lokhu kufanele kube yisisekelo seqhinga lokuvuselela.
Uma ubuhlobo buhanjiswa empilweni yansuku zonke, vakashela izindawo ezithakazelisayo. Qala ngohambo oluyisisekelo ukuya e-cinema kusihlwa bese uhlela ukuhamba ngothando. Ngisho nasemadolobheni amancane kunamahhovisi okuvakasha: hamba ngezimpelasonto ngaphandle kwedolobha bese wenza ama-mini-trips. Ukuvuselelwa kwemizwa kuyisisekelo sokuvuselelwa kobuhlobo.
Uma uzizwa uhlukanisa ngokomoya, vumelana nokufunda le ncwadi ndawonye, bese uxoxa ngakho, gxila ebuqotho, nakwezinye izindinganiso eziphakeme zokuziphatha.
Emndenini wawuhlanganisa, faka isiko. Isibonelo, ngoMgqibelo ebusuku ndawonye ndawonye ukuhamba noma ukubukela amabhayisikobho, mema abangani ukuthi bavakashele. Kubalulekile ukuthi lokhu kwenziwe ndawonye futhi kuhlelekile.
Ungakuhlukanisa kanjani ubuhlobo bomshado nomuntu ophethe "isipiliyoni"?
Labo abasebekhulile bahlanganyela ophahleni olulodwa futhi bazi zonke izici zomunye nomunye, kungase kubonakale sengathi ukumangala umlingani umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akunjalo, kulula nakakhulu ukuba benze lokhu kunabashadile abasha, ngoba kulokhu abantu bayazana kahle. Isibonelo sokuqala: indoda ithanda ukudoba. Vuma kuye ngothando, uvale amehlo futhi uhlale emotweni. Ungasho ukuthi uyithathaphi, ngoba lapho kufanele alindele ukumangala: itende elisungulwe ebhange kanye nabangane. Uma ukumangala kuhlelwe kahle, ngakho konke kuyoba kuhle. Ngosizo lwezimangalo ezinjalo, sidinga ukuvuselela ubudlelwane obuhlala ngaphezu kweminyaka eyishumi.
Indlela yokwenza umehluko esimweni sengqondo sombhangqwana osemusha?
Okokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, inkinga yobuhlobo obusikhathi esifushane ukuthi abalingani abazi kahle kahle, ngakho-ke amathuba okuba isimangalo singase "siphumelele" siphakeme kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, isimo sidinga ukusindiswa, ngakho-ke, ingozi ibulungile, ngakho-ke siqhubeka ngesibindi ngenye yezindlela:
- ngokweqile: senza umlingani ukugibela i-rollerblades, iziketi, amabhayisikili, njll;
- Siyamema ku-cinema yeseshini yesonto yefilimu eyingozi kakhulu;
- okukhethwa kukho "okuthulile": sipheka dinner ndawonye.
Lapha umgomo oyinhloko ukusungula ukungalingani kwengqondo nomlingani wakho. Ngemuva kwakho konke, kwenzeke ukuthi ukuqala kokuqala kubangele, ukumbumbuluza okwesabekile sekuvele kungenye yezinyawo zakho, kodwa kukhona okulahlekile ebuhlotsheni, isithukuthezi esisodwa. Eminye imibhangqwana iqala ukukhokhela i- "idyll enokuthula" ngezinhlamba, ukuze ngandlela-thile ivuselelane. Noma kunjalo, ukhetho oluhle ukuzwa imizwelo enamandla kanye neyodwa yezindlela ezibalwe.
Njengoba umkhuba ubonisa, kunezindlela eziningi zokuvuselela ubudlelwane, kepha ukuze usebenze kahle kumele zisetshenziswe njalo.