Indlela yokufunda ukuthembela othandekayo?

Ngezinye izikhathi, kunezimo ezithile ekuphileni lapho umngane, othandekayo ekhubeka futhi elahlekelwa ithemba labantu abasondelene naye. Kunzima kakhulu ukuphinde ubuyekeze ubudlelwane bokuqala. Isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile engxenyeni yakho ukuthethelela , okwesibili ukufunda ukuthembela futhi. Yisiphi isinyathelo esinzima kakhulu ukusipha: ukuthethelela noma ukuthembela kuyinkinga enkulu yonke iminyaka. Ukuqonda ukuthethelela, nokuthethelela kusho ukuyeka ngokuphelele, ukubuyela ebuhlotsheni obudlule, futhi lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu ukuyenza emhlabeni! Indlela yokufunda ukuthembela indoda futhi kuyindaba engathí sina edinga incazelo esheshayo!

Indlela yokufunda ukwethemba umfana noma umyeni?

Ukuze ungatshelwa ngokungathembeki kwabakhethiweyo, ungalaleli muntu. Yini ebaluleke nakakhulu kuwe: injabulo nokuthembela kumthandi wakho othandekayo noma umcabango ongeyena onompilo?

Khetha okuhle, amafilimu amahle. Ungabheki uthando oluthembekile , olungathandeki nokukhashelwa. Esikhathini esingenakuqaphela, ngisho nochungechunge oluyisisekelo kungachaza imodeli yokuziphatha kwakho. Awufuni ukuphenduka abe ngumhawu onomhawu?

Isizathu esikhulu sokungathembi phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane kuyisici sokuqala sokuxhumana. Konke kuqala ngeqiniso lokuthi uma kukhona ukunganeliseki noma ukusola, lo mbuzo awukakhulumi, kodwa ungaphansi kokuzindla okuningiliziwe ngokwakho. Futhi iphela ngokuthi imicabango ethathwe ngokugqamile esithathwe kusukela ehlahleni ixhaswe ngokulinganayo okungenasikhathi futhi okungenzeka ukuthi, akukho ubufakazi obukhona. Lena yinkinga yazo zonke izibhangqwana. Uma ungafuni ukubhubhisa ubudlelwane, funda ukuthembela othandekayo bakho, khona-ke kufanele uqale nje ufunde ukukhuluma nomunye. Ukuqeda ukuphoqeka okungaqondakali, vumela konke kuvelele phakathi kwakho. Tshela othandekayo wakho ngisho nangokunqoba kwakho nokuncintisana okuncane, mtshele ukuthi ucabangani, yini ehlupha wena nalokho okukujabulisayo. Kuzokusondeza. Yabelana ngemicabango yakho nemizwa yakho nabathembekile bakho. Kodwa ungadingi kakhulu kuye. Ungalindeli ukuthi ngokushesha uqala ukukhombisa isifiso sokukutshela ngakho konke, njengoba nje uyenza. Ungakhohlwa, amadoda ahluke kakhulu kwabesifazane. Ngokucophelela futhi unobtrusively ube nesithakazelo ezinkingeni zakhe, ngemibuzo ephathelene naye. Mcele ukuthi abelane ngalokhu nawe. Ngakho, ebuhlotsheni bakho, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzethemba komunye nomunye; wena unciphisa ingozi yokuba nomhawu nemicabango mayelana nokuhlukumezeka.

Jabulela!