Akumangalisi bathi amantombazane ahloniphekile ngosuku lokuqala angamanga. Yiqiniso, noma kunjalo, ukubheka ukuthi yimiphi imigomo ngenkathi bobabili bephishekela. Uma ungafuni lutho nobudlelwane obungahlanganisi, ukusondelana, ukumanga empilweni. Kodwa uma ucabanga ukwakha ubuhlobo obude nokudala inyunyana eqinile - thola ukuthi ungaqala kanjani ngokuqondile.
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Uma usalokhu ulila uthando lwakho lwakamuva, ujabulele izimemo zakho, cabanga ngomuntu owayengumthandi, futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, mhlawumbe ubheke umfana omusha onjengaye - akukho lutho oluzovela kulo. Akwanele nje ukuthi ufisa "ukuthola umuntu", kubalulekile ukuzilungiselela lo mhlangano.
Okokuqala, "ukukhulula" izinkumbulo zakho, uzikhulule ebuhlotsheni obuhlulekile. Lahla okungalungile, ukuze ungayidlulisele emisha, imizwa engakazalwa. Shiya inkumbulo kuphela okuhle, izikhathi ezimnandi. Ungagcini ububi nokufutheka komuntu ongazange aphile ngokulindelekile. Ngomqondo omuhle kumbonga ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe okubaluleke kakhulu.
Ukulungele umhlangano omusha nemizwa kuyimfihlo yobuhlobo obude.
Qala ukujabulela ukuphila futhi. Zisebenze ngokwakho, ukuzethemba. Shintsha kwangaphandle, thola ukuzilibazisa okuthakazelisayo, yenza endlini (ekamelweni lakho) ukulungisa noma ukuhlelwa kabusha kwefenisha.
Izindinganiso nama-templates abandon ukuthi kufanele umuntu wakho omusha abe kanjani. Uma kukhona umhlangano omude omlindile, ake uvule. Zama ukubona, okokuqala, izimfanelo zayo nezinhlangothi zalo, futhi kungakhanjiswa, akukho kuwo okubonakalayo.
Isibambiso sobudlelwane obude sithembela phakathi kwabalingani, isifiso sokunakekelwa komunye nomunye nomzamo wokulondoloza ukuvumelana. Yiba ngokwakho, ungadlali "izindima zabanye abantu" futhi ungakheli ukuphila komuntu ngesimo esithile, omunye futhi. Uzoba "nesithombe" sakho sothando lwakho.
Umphakathi wezithakazelo kanye nezinhlelo zekusasa yinye isimo esidingekayo sendlela yokwenza ubuhlobo bude futhi bujabule. Funa umuntu oseduze nawe emoyeni, futhi ngeke udumale.