Uthandane nomfana, lapho amehlo akho aguqa khona, izwi lakhe liyaqhaqhazela ngokukhohlisa, futhi imicabango eyaziwayo isuswa endaweni ethile, evame ukumelela okuthile kochungechunge lwezinganekwane. Kodwa nokho ngamaphupho uhamba ndawonye, ubambe isandla sakho futhi athi amagama afisa. Ake sicabange ndawonye ukuthi singakwenza kanjani njengomfana oyithandayo.
Okokuqala, hlanganisa imicabango yakho, bese uzama ukuhlola ngokucophelela isimo. Kungakanani kubonakala kungenathemba kuwe?
Inketho 1. Awujwayele, futhi nakuba ubona kaningi (isibonelo, esikoleni noma eyunivesithi), abakhethiweyo abonakala bengakunaki. Mhlawumbe wafunda ukukhipha amehlo akhe ngokukhanya kwelanga, njengoba nje unakho. Futhi, mhlawumbe, azi nje ukuthi ukhona, ngoba uzenza sengathi unesithakazelo kunoma yini ehlukile. Ukuheha ukunakwa umgomo wakho wokuqala.
- ukubukeka kubaluleke kakhulu esiteji lapho umfana esekude. Indlela yokwenza umfana akuthande, uma ulahlekelwa ngobuningi babanye noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, uphume ngendlela engcono kakhulu. Ukutadisha ngokucophelela isitayela sakhe, futhi unciphise, uma ehluke kakhulu. Ungaguquli ngokuphelele isithombe uma kwenzeka isitayela sohluliweyo ongathandi. Yiba ngokwakho, kodwa isinyathelo esiseduze. Intombazane ethandwayo ngokwayo idlulela uketshezi olukhethekile oluheha abantu. Mhlawumbe, abanye abazi ukuthi unengubo entsha noma umthunzi wezintambo zomlomo, kodwa ngokuqinisekile bayozizwa belulame ngokomzwelo. Kungenzeka ukuthi naye;
- ukuze avele empilweni yomkhethiwe ngempumelelo. Ngakho - ubheka kakhulu. Manje cabanga ngokuthi ungazijwayela kanjani. Kuningi lokukhethwa kukho: amabhayisikobho nokukhangisa kugcwele izimo zothando. Kusukela ekushayweni ngengozi kanye nokushayela kwezincwadi ezifundiswa phansi kuze kube "izikhwama" ze-"Oscar" ngokuhlaselwa "kwama-hooligans";
- thola noma udale "amaphuzu othintana naye". Uma umfana ethatha ingxenye esebenzayo emiphakathini yomphakathi, kufanele ucabange ukuthi ungakhanyisa kanjani esiteji esiseduze naye. Ukubheka abanye kanye nokuhlambalaza kuzophakamisa ukuzethemba nokwethemba;
- zama "ukwenza abangane" nabakhethiwe kunoma yikuphi ukuxhumana nomphakathi. Uma ujabulela ukunikeza imisho ecacile lapho ukhuluma nomuntu othandayo, buyeke ithuba lokuhlola umhlaba wakho ocebile ngenye indlela. Into esemqoka: ungalali umfana onokucaphuna kwe-banal. Isithombe senhle sihle kuphela njengesisusa sokuqala ingxoxo evamile. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuhlola udonga lwakho ukufanisa isithombe ozoyiveza kulowo okhethiwe;
- uma owaziyo engakhishwa ngothando ngombono wokuqala, cabangela ezinye izindlela ongakwenza umfana akuthande.
Inketho 2. Ube uhlala isikhathi eside enkampanini. Ukhuluma, shayela up, uhlangabezane. Kodwa-ke akuhambanga ... Indlela yokuqinisekisa ukuthi uthandana nomfana oba "abangane kuphela":
- udinga ukushintsha amaqhinga ngokuphuthumayo. Indlela yokuziphatha nomfana ojwayele, ukuze athambekele othandweni - lo mbuzo odinga isinyathelo esinqumayo. Manje kubalulekile ukuthi akubone njengentombazane, hhayi njengomngane. Okokuqala, qiniseka ukuthi ukubonakala kwakho kufana (okungenani cishe) ekuthandeni kwakhe (kuhle, kufanele umazi). Ngezinye izikhathi ukuncintisana kusiza - uma uthanda oyedwa noma ngaphezulu abantu, amathuba akho okuphumelela akhula, ngoba umuntu uyinqobe ngemvelo;
- unekhalenda - uyazi mayelana nokuzilibazisa kwakhe. Uma ezithakazelisayo kuwe, zibonise. Buza umfana ukuthi akunike izifundo zokudlala isiginci uma ethanda ukucula izingoma ngomlilo. Noma faka ukugudla kuma-rollers, futhi uvumele umfana akusekele futhi akufundise. Ngakho-ke umenze abe nomuzwa wokuthi uyindoda, khona-ke amathuba okuthi ekugcineni ayobona intombazane kuwe inkulu ngokwanele;
- isikhathi esiningi kakhulu isikhathi esengeziwe esodwa. Uma unenkampani ehlukene, zama ukuhlala naye yedwa ukukhuluma ngenhliziyo ngenhliziyo.
Kusho ukumba kancane kancane kunalokho akukhiphayo. Yilalela, yilalele. Umfana kufanele athande ukuba nawe wedwa, ngakho unikeza usuku lokuqala.
Okungafanele ukwenze:
- xoza abangane;
- sikhononda ngokuphila;
- khuluma ngawe kuphela.
Yiqiniso, ayikho imithi ephelele ye "indlela yokwenza umfana akuthande". Kodwa nezimo ezibucayi - futhi!