Mhlawumbe abesifazane abaningi baphupha ngomuntu ononya, becabangela lolu hlobo lomuntu ocansini. Kodwa namuhla, umphakathi wanamuhla umelela intsha entsha yezocansi eziqine kakhulu - ukungcola ngokobulili.
Ngubani lo?
Igama livela ku-Latin sapio, okungukuthi, ehlakaniphile futhi enengqondo. Incazelo yalokhu ukunyakaza - ukuqonda kungabuye kube ngokocansi. Kwakucatshangwa ukuthi kube amalungu omndeni wakwaSacher-Masoch. Kubantu abanjalo, injabulo enhle ibhekwa njengokuxhumana kwengqondo. Kodwa kuthiwani ngenkulumo ethandwayo: "Ngemuva kwakhe, njengodonga lwamatshe," lokhu akufanele yini namuhla?
Yini evamile phakathi kocansi nomqondo?
Kusukela esikhathini esidlule lapho abantu behlangana futhi bexhumana banakekele ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo komuntu, kodwa babengacatshangwa njenge-sapioexuals. Ngoba kukhona umehluko omkhulu phakathi kweqiniso lokuthi ufana nabantu abahlakaniphile futhi ujabule kubo. Ngakho-ke, uma uthanda ukuxhumana nabantu abahlakaniphile, kodwa ungaboni izibonakaliso zokuvusa ngocansi, akudingeki uzibeke njengowesilisa wesifazane. Kodwa uma igama elisha elisha elifana ne-"ukungabi" lidala ukuthuthumela ngemuva kwakho, siyakuhalalisela omunye wabo.
Zenzeka kanjani?
Kwenzeke nini futhi kwenzeke kanjani ukuthi abahlakaniphi beza ukuthatha abafana abathandekayo nabaphethe kahle? Kulesi senzakalo, kunamaphuzu amaningana wokubuka:
- Ukuziphendukela kwemvelo. Izikhathi lapho abantu bezingela futhi bekhipha ukudla emndenini wabo, badlulile, manje ngenxa yalokhu bafika ngezicupho ezihlukahlukene, ngaleyo ndlela bekhulula isikhathi esiningi samahhala. Esikhathini esidlule, abesifazane bakhetha amadoda ase-alpha, ngoba ayema phakathi kwabanye abafake izicelo ngenhliziyo yabo. Ezweni lanamuhla, amandla okuqinisekisa ukuthi ukuphila okujabulisayo akusoze kwaphela. Yebo, futhi abesifazane baye bashintsha, baye bahlakaniphile futhi bafuna ngokwengeziwe nabanye. Kungenzeka ukuthi ngenxa yalokhu izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu zashintsha kubantu abahlakaniphile.
- Umbono kaFreud. Ukubukeka kobulili obuhlukile kubangelwa ubuntwana obubi, okungukuthi, ubaba wentombazane wayengeyena ohlakaniphile futhi akazange anakekele indodakazi yakhe, manje, lapho ekhula, uzama ukuthola umuntu ozobe ehluke kulo mfanekiso. Kuye, ilungele ummeleli oqinile ozokwazi ukunqoba indawo yengxoxo yengqondo.
- Umbono wezici zengqondo. Le mbono ibambe isikhundla sokuthi konke okusemhlabeni kuyinkimbinkimbi, yingakho ingokomoya nokuqonda kwafika ekuthatheleni ukuguqulwa kobulili nokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili. Abantu abazicabangela bona bangama-sapioeksualalami, babumbene ngamaqembu futhi bayadelela ngokuthula bonke abangakwazi ukufunda nokungafundi. Ngenxa yalokhu, bazikhukhumeza, futhi cishe akunakwenzeka ukungena kwi-caste yabo.
Ubudlelwano phakathi kokubili
Ama-Sapioexuals bangabantu besizukulwane esisha abanganaki ubulili, ubudala, ukubukeka, njll, kubo, injabulo yobulili yeqiniso iyincwadi enhle nomlingani ohlakaniphile. Lapho amadoda nabesifazane beyizihlakaniphi zangempela, akufanelekile ukulinda ubudlelwane obuhle, ngoba abakwazi ukuxabana ngezitsha ezingahlanjululwa, kodwa imibono ehlukene mayelana nencwadi efundwa ingabangela ukuhlaselwa kwangempela. Futhi, imibhangqwana enjalo ingase ibe nezinkinga zocansi, njengoba zingase zihlukane
Isiphetho
Umuntu ngamunye uyedwa futhi yini ngempela emhehayo ensimini ehlukile - ubuchopho noma imisipha ukuxazulula. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi inhlakanipho yenza indoda i-sexy, yaqondakala isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokubunjwa kwalokhu kuhamba. Ngakho-ke, ungazicabangela nge-sapioeksualam, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ulahlekelwa indoda ehloniphekile, okusho ukuthi, nje, akuthandi ukufunda ama-classics aseRussia, ngakho-ke lalela kuqala enhliziyweni yakho, hhayi engqondweni yakho.