Amadoda avame ukukhuluma ngokusabalalisa kwezenzo ezenzweni zabo, kodwa baqhubeka benza okungajwayelekile, ngokombono wethu, izenzo. Ngokwesibonelo, amantombazane amaningi ngokuvamile kufanele azibuze ukuthi kungani indoda ivele yayeka ukukhulumisana ngokuzumayo? Into ethakazelisayo kunazo zonke ukuthi ukuthi ukuziphatha okunjalo lapho kubonakala kungenasizathu, kukhulunywa cishe nsuku zonke, bese nje umise ukuphendula izingcingo nemilayezo. Ake sibone ukuthi kuyini inkinga.
Kungani le ndoda yayeka ukukhuluma ngokuzumayo?
Izizathu lapho umuntu anqume ukuyeka ukuxhumana naye kungaba kakhulu, ngakho sizocubungula amacala ajwayelekile kakhulu.
- Uyeke ukuthakazelisa kuye . Le nketho ngokwayo iyabamba, kepha amantombazana kaningi ayicabangi , ngoba akholelwa ukuthi umuntu angasho ngqo ngokulahlekelwa kwesithakazelo. Kodwa abameleli abaningi bezocansi abanamandla kakhulu besaba ukucasula intombazane, ngakho-ke bakhetha ukuhamba ngaphandle kokusho. Kubonakala kubo ukuthi le ndlela yokuhlukanisa ibonakala ingabuhlungu kakhulu.
- Asikho isikhathi . Sivame ukucabanga ukuthi kungani umuntu engazelelwe ngokuzumayo ukuxhumana noma waqala ukuphuma nemishwana ye-monosyllabic, sibheka ize ngenxa yalokho. Khumbula isikhathi somsebenzi womsebenzi wakho (kahle, noma isikhathi ngaphambi kweholidi, lapho kwakudingeka ukuba nesikhathi ngesikhathi esifushane kakhulu), ngabe ngabe ufuna ukuqhuba izingxoxo ezinde ngisho nabantu abaseduze?
- Wayenenkinga yokuphikisana . Mhlawumbe, ngezinye izindlela ukuthanda kwakho kuyafana kakhulu, kodwa lapho kukhulunywa khona, kunesizathu sokungavumelani. Lo mzuzu ungaba yisikhubekiso, uma omunye wenu (noma bobabili) engazi ukuthi aziphathe kanjani esimweni sokuphikisana. Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe, le ndoda yayeka ukukhulumisana ngoba yayikhathele ukuphikisana njalo. Awukwazi ukubona ukucasula kwe-interlocutor ngenxa yokukwazi ukuzilawula, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi konke kwakuvame ukukhathala.
- Awazi ukukhuluma . Ekuqaleni, ngenkathi umuntu ehlaba umxhwele, angakathethelela umxhumanisi wokuhlushwa, ukuhlukumezeka nokungcola okungalungile, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lokhu kuphazamisa. Ekugcineni, kufika isikhathi lapho izintelezi zingakwazi ukwedlula ukungajabuli kokuxhumana.
- Wathola lokho ayekufunayo . Kungenzeka ukuthi le ndoda yeka ukukhulumisana ngoba awuzange ube nesithakazelo esikhulu kuye.
Izingxoxo zaziwukuzilibazisa okulula, okwakushiya ukujabulisa lapho isimo sengqondo esiphelile siphelile. - Unenkinga . Wonke umuntu unezikhathi lapho ungafuni ukubona noma ukuzwa noma ubani. Mhlawumbe, lapho lesi sikhathi sesiphelile, u-interlocutor wakho uzobuya, noma mhlawumbe anqume ukushiya zonke izenzakalo esikhathini esidlule.
- Akafuni ukushisa amabhuloho . Uma umuntu ethi akafuni ukuxhumana , khona-ke ukuziqhenya ngeke kumvumele ukuthi akubize. Kodwa, uma ushiya ukungahambisani nalokhu, iminyango izohlale ivulekile, kusukela ekubukeni kwesilisa, yebo.