Wonke owesifazane ufuna ukuba nomngane okhathalelayo oseduze. Kodwa ngeshwa, kwenzeka ukuthi umuntu olalelisayo uba yisizinda sangempela sasekhaya. Abesifazane abaningi abaziqondi ukuthi bahluleka kanjani ukucabangela le mfanelo eyingozi kulabo abakhethiwe. Kodwa ukucindezela okungaphezulu umbuzo othi "wawungobani amehlo ami", nokuthi yini okufanele yenze uma umuntu engumashiqela nomuntu onesihluku, ukuthi angahlala kanjani naye, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kufanelekile ukukwenza.
Kusho ukuthini "i-despot yomndeni"?
Uma kuziwa kubadeleli emndenini, umyeni ubonakala ephuzile oshaya njalo umkakhe. Kodwa incazelo yegama elithi "despot" inkulu kakhulu, umuntu ongasebenzisi ubudlova emzimbeni kubathandekayo bakhe angawela ngaphansi kwencazelo enjalo. I-Despotism ingabonakaliswa ekugcwalisekeni okuphoqelekile kwesifiso somunye umuntu, ukuthobeka, ukuvinjelwa njalo. Kuyinto engathandeki ngokukhethekile ukuthi indoda iphenduke ingcindezi kanye ne-despot hhayi kanyekanye, ngokuvamile into yonke iqala ngokungenacala, ehlanganiswa nokubonakaliswa kokunakekelwa okuqotho. Ngakho-ke, ukuqaphela umuntu onjalo akulula, izikhathi ezilandelayo zokuziphatha kufanele zixwayise.
- I-Despot-tyranny. Uhlala ekugxeka, uthi wenza konke okungalungile. Futhi uma uqala ukwenza nge-pointer yakhe, kunezikhathi zokukhethwa kwe-nit, futhi kaningi ukukuhlambalaza, uyaziphikisa.
- Ngokuvamile uziphikisa wedwa, echaza ukuthi konke akukwenzela, kusho ukuthi kuyoba ngcono kuwe. Kodwa ngesizathu esithile uyakhohlwa ukubuza umbono wakho noma, ngemva kokubuza, akayikuzwa.
- Ikuvimbela ukuba usebenze ngokujwayelekile noma kunoma iyiphi inhlangano ethize, futhi zonke izingxabano zalo zingancishiswa emibinini ethi "Angifuni".
- Ukuhawukela, ngokuvamile kuvunyelwe, okubizwa ngokuthi "kuyo yonke insika."
- Ukuvinjelwa ekusetshenzisweni kwezimonyo, ukuthengwa kwezinto ezintsha, okufanelekile ukuthi umyeni wakho usevele unayo futhi ngakho akudingeki ukuba ulandele noma ubani.
- Ungavumeli ukuxhumana nezihlobo, abangani nabangani noma ukhethe ukuthi ungabangani obani, futhi obani abangaba nabo.
- Ubeka umbono wakhe, izithakazelo, indlela ethile yokuziphatha, ngoba izenzo zakhe kanye nezifiso zakhe kuphela zingaba yiqiniso.
- Indoda iyisihluku esinonya nesihluku futhi ngeke senqabe ukuhlaselwa.
Izizathu umuntu azenzayo ukufeza intando yakhe, zingahluka kakhulu:
- isimo esiphansi somfazi;
- ukuxhomekeka kwenyama kumyeni;
- imfihlo jikelele.
Ngokuvamile, abantu abanesizotha kakhulu bazama ukuhlazisa abanye, bezama ukufakazela ukuthi bayabaluleka ngale ndlela. Ngendlela, owesifazane angase abe yilapho ephoqa, ephoqa intando yakhe, kaningi izingane zingaphezu komyeni wakhe. Kodwa kaningi i-despot emndenini akuyona umama, kodwa uyise. Ngenxa yokukhulisa okunjalo, ingane ikhula futhi ikhula, ithatha umugqa wokuziphatha komunye wabazali noma ikhula nenani elikhulu lezinkathazo nokuzihlonipha okuphansi, okuyinto ehlawulelwa ukuhlazeka kobuthakathaka.
Indlela yokuziphatha nomuntu uma engumashiqela kanye ne-despot?
Uma icala lingavaliwe, ukuziphatha komshicileli kungalungiswa, kumnike ukukhuza. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzobheka ezinye izinhlobo zokuziphatha. Ngakho-ke, ungabhekana kanjani ne-despot?
- Ngesibindi uphendule ukukhetha kwakhe, ungavumeli umuntu akuhlazise.
- Uma kukhona izingane, ungakhohlwa ngabo. Zama ukukhuluma nomyeni wakho ngabo.
- Uma ugxeka umyeni wakho njalo mayelana nokuthi upheka kanjani futhi wenze enye imisebenzi yasendlini, yeka ukumenza okuthile. Menze enze konke, njengoba ethanda.
- Ngokuvamile abesifazane abawela ngaphansi kokubusa komashiqela wasekhaya bacabanga ukuthi abafaneleki kahle. Ukugwema lokhu, ukwandisa ukuzethemba kwakho, ufeze imiphumela emihle,
ngisho noma ihlotshiswe isiphambano. Ngakho ukwandisa umbuthano wabantu abazokuhlonipha, futhi lokhu kuzokusiza uqonde ukuthi ufanelwe isimo sengqondo esihle kuwe. Khuluma kaningi kaningi nabangani abazisa umbono wakho. - Akuyona evamile endleleni yethu - isikhalazo kumqondo wezengqondo womndeni, mhlawumbe kuyokusiza ukuba ubhekane nezinkinga. Nakuba, ukuze umsebenzi ogcwele udinga ukuba khona komyeni wakho.
Kuphinde kwenzeke ukuthi akukho lutho olungasiza, ukucindezelwa komndeni wesiqhwaga kungavumi, umyeni uyahlukana ngezandla zakhe, ehleka izingane, ngalesi simo asikho enye indlela yokuphuma - kumele sishiye.