Kunezimo lapho ukuzwa ukungabi nothando kumngane wakho womshado kufika, bese umbuzo uphakama, yini okufanele ngiyenze ngokulandelayo? Into eyodwa ngokuqinisekile ukuthi uma ufuna indlela yokuphuma kulokhu, khona-ke kukhona ithuba lokulungisa konke, into eyinhloko ukwazi ukuthi iyiphi indlela yokuhamba.
Angithandi umyeni wami ukuthi yini okufanele ngiyenze - iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo
Inkinga efanayo iyenzeka ngemuva kweminyaka eminingana yokuhlala ndawonye, lapho imizwa yokuqala eqotho iphela. Uma ungashiyanga umndeni, khona-ke kukhona ithuba lokubuyisela konke.
Kuthiwani uma ngingasithandi umyeni wami?
- Ungafanisani nomlingani nabanye. Izinkinga eziningi ziphakama ngenxa yokuthi omunye unendoda ecebile, enhle kakhulu, ehlakaniphile, njll. Kubalulekile ukushiya lo mkhuba, ngoba uke wathanda umuntu oseduze, okusho ukuthi kunezici eziningi ezinhle kulo.
- Zama ukuphinde uphinde uzame. Ngokuvamile abesifazane bahlushwa yiqiniso lokuthi abathandi umyeni wabo, kodwa kunezingane, ngakho abazi ukuthi benzeni esimweni esinjalo. Amantombazane anamuhla anika sonke isikhathi sabo nemizwa yabo ukusebenza nezingane, bekhohlwa ngomuntu oseduze. Lena iphutha elikhulu, okuholela ekuhlukaniseni. Zama ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomndeni wakho, isibonelo, iya emvelweni, uye epakini lokuzijabulisa, uhlele ukudla komndeni, njll.
- Abaningi basizwa ukwelashwa okwethusa, okusho ukuhlukaniswa okwesikhashana. Lokhu kungaba uhambo lwebhizinisi, iholidi noma iholidi nabazali. Into esemqoka ukuchitha okungenani amasonto ambalwa ngokwehlukana bese uzama ukuxhumana. Lesi sikhathi sanele ukuhlaziya isimo bese uqonde ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani.
Uma kukhona imicabango mayelana nokuthi yini okufanele yenze uma "ngingathandi umyeni omuhle", khona-ke, ngokombono wezengqondo, ingxoxo enengqondo izosiza. Endaweni enokuthula, tshela oshade naye ukuthi yini enganelisekile, okushiwo, ukutshela ngomzwelo nokuhlangenwe nakho. Ezimweni eziningi, ukunyakaza okunjalo kungashintsha kakhulu isimo bese kuvuselelwa imizwa .