Kubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yomndeni, naphezu kwesiguquko sesibili kumpheki emva komsebenzi kanye nezinkathazo eziningi mayelana nenhlalakahle yawo wonke amalungu omndeni, hhayi ukuletha ubudlelwane babo kuze kube yilapho noma yimuphi umuntu wangaphandle angabonakala ethakazelisayo futhi ekhangayo kunomyeni wakhe.
Ungayenza kanjani ukuhlukanisa ubudlelwane bomndeni ukuze umuzwa wothando olungaphakathi ungakushiyi, futhi imihlangano nokukhulumisana njalo kungaholela ekuthungeni nasekumangaliseni?
Isixazululo esilula kulokhu kungase kube ukutadisha inqwaba yezincwajana kanye nezincwadi zabesifazane ngesihloko esithi "Indlela yokuhlukanisa ubudlelwano bobulili bomndeni," futhi, ehlomile ngolwazi oluyingqayizivele futhi ehlola amakhono abo ngokwemigomo yokuhamba noma ibhuloho ene-twine kanyekanye, esindayo. Kodwa ngisho nokuhlolwa okunjalo ngesibindi, inhlabathi isadingeka ngesimo sobuhlobo obuseduze, obuseduze, obugcwele ukwethenjwa nobuqotho. Eqinisweni kulokhu kungaba okungenasidingo, lapho ingalo efanele noma umlenze wesokunxele noma unyawo. Kodwa silwela lokhu, akunjalo?
Ngakho-ke, kanjani empeleni, ungahlukanisa ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakho othandekayo emndenini? Othandekayo ukufaka okubaluleke kakhulu! Siphikisana "nokuvuselelwa" nokuthi "ukuvuselelwa kabusha" kobuhlobo - hhayi njalo futhi ubamba indebe ukuze isetshenziswe. Yini esingayisho ngomndeni?
Eqinisweni, kunezindlela eziningi eziphumelelayo, isimo esiyinhloko sokuphumelela ukuthi bobabili balungele ukusebenza kubudlelwano. Ukulindela ukuthi umuntu oyedwa ozoyithatha indima ye-mass-entertainer kuyinto ukwehluleka kuseduze! Lapha udinga ukwakha isimo esithile sangaphakathi, lapho ngisho nokuhamba okujwayelekile kungaba yinto yokuzijabulisa, okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangene!
Sonke siyaqonda ukuthi yini esengozini, kodwa njalo sifuna izizathu zokuthi kungani kubonakala sengathi akunakwenzeka empilweni yangempela. Ngaphambi kokuba ufunde izindlela zokuthi uqhubeke uhlukanisa ubuhlobo obuseduze kulolu chungechunge lokuphila okungapheli kwansuku zonke, kufanele uqonde into ebaluleke kakhulu:
1. Okuthakazelisayo nokucebile impilo yakho, okuthakazelisayo nokukhanyayo uzobheka umyeni wakho. Ukuzilibazisa, ukuxhumana nabanye abantu, ukuzifunda-noma yini, kodwa kufanele ube nesikhala sakho siqu. Futhi-ke, okungenani, kusihlwa ekhaya ukuze udle uzothola okuthile okumele ukhulume ngakho futhi uhlekise.
2. Kudingekile ukuba nesikhathi esanele sokuphumula, ukuvuselelwa kwamandla kanye nenkhulumomphendvulwano enhle emndenini. Njengomthetho, lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi kunabo bonke besifazane bethu: hhayi indlela yokuhlukanisa ubudlelwane nomyeni wakhe, kodwa lapho!
Uma nje ekhaya wenza lokho okugeza, ukuhlanza nokupheka, futhi kusihlwa ngaphandle kwemilenze yangemuva ulala embhedeni ucabange ukulala kuphela, khona-ke wenza konke okungalungile. Kukhona izinketho ezimbili. Noma usuchithe umndeni wakho futhi, ngaphandle kwakho, akekho osebenza endlini, futhi lapha okukhiphayo kusobala. Noma ungumuntu ophelele, futhi udinga ngokuphuthumayo ukucabangela isimo sakho sengqondo ezindabeni zasekhaya. Unayo i-vareniki ngemuva kosuku emsebenzini? Buza umyeni wakho lokho angathanda ukukukhetha: amadombolo noma nawe. Noma, mhlawumbe unquma ukuthi kuyoba kuhle ukubenza ndawonye.
Uma lezi zimo zifinyelelekile futhi ufunde ukukhipha izinkinga, ngeke ukwazi ukugcwalisa kuphela iseluleko "segunya lobunikazi" ochungechungeni, ukuthi ungayenza kanjani ukuhlukanisa ubuhlobo nomyeni wakho othandekayo. Ukudala izindlela zakho siqu okwamanje
Khumbula - akudingeki ukuba nzima konke! Ngisho nokuhamba okuvamile nokukhulumisana ngokomzwelo, ukuxhumana phakathi kwezwe lomunye nomunye, amahlaya angathuthumela kangcono kunokuhamba okubi kakhulu eziqhingini. Ngisho noma omunye engalawuli omunye.
Futhi amanothi afanayo okuthandana, ngokwesibonelo, ezindaweni ezingalindelekile, ahlelwe ngokuhlakanipha kusengaphambili? Ake ucabange ukuthi, ekuseni ekuseni, evula imvula, uvula isitsha soshukela ukuze uphuze ikhofi futhi ukhuphuke ngokushesha, futhi kulo myalezo ovela kubathandekayo bakho: "Sawubona, mnandi!" Noma uzovula i-thermo endaweni ethile ebusika ebusika, futhi lapho: "Woza, othandekayo, ngokushesha, ngizokufudumala ngokushesha! "Akudingekile ukuthi imiyalezo iqukethe incazelo ejulile noma ikhanya ngesitayela esihle. Kungamagama akho kuphela, amacebo kanye namagama okuzwakalisa othandekayo - amagama alula ngokungazelelwe aqhubekele empilweni yakho yansuku zonke, angene emphefumulweni futhi aqhume ngokushisa esifubeni sakho futhi amomotheka ebusweni bakho.