Amantombazane amaningi afuna ukuhlangana "nenduna ehhashi elimhlophe" kusukela ebuntwaneni. Yiqiniso, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi isithombe siyashintsha, kodwa isifiso sokubona umlingani omuhle eduze kwakho uhlala. Yingakho ulwazi mayelana nokuthola nokuheha umuntu ohloniphekile lufanele futhi luwusizo. Ukuze ufeze umgomo othile, kufanele usebenze futhi usebenze ngokuyinhloko kuwe.
Indlela yokuheha umuntu ohloniphekile empilweni yakho?
Umncintiswano wamantombazane uphezulu futhi wonke umuntu uzama ukuheha umlingani ngenzuzo. Esimweni esinjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukubonakala kuphela, kodwa ukugcwaliswa kwangaphakathi kubalulekile.
Amathiphu okuheha umuntu ohloniphekile:
- Kubalulekile ukudala isithombe esicacile kunazo zonke somlingani oyifunayo, ukuze ungahoxiswa kumadoda angafanelekile. Indlela elula ukubhala ephepheni zonke izici ezifanele kufanele zibe nazo. Bhala futhi izimfanelo ezingamukeleki.
- Ukuthola ukuthi ungathola kanjani umuntu ofanelekayo, kubalulekile ukugxila kwisici esibaluleke kakhulu - uthando kuwe. Uma owesifazane ezwa engakufaneleki, engalungile, engathandeki, khona-ke abanye bayobala. Yingakho ufunde ukuzithanda wena ukuthi ungubani.
- Owesifazane kufanele abe nesithakazelo, ngakho-ke uzokuthuthuka. Indoda enhle ifuna futhi ukubona owesifazane ofanelekayo, ngakho-ke udinga ukufanisa. Lahla isisindo esiningi, thola imfundo, ngokujwayelekile, ungemi.
- Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ungathola kanjani owesifazane ofanelwe indoda enomntwana, njengoba abesifazane abaningi belahlekelwa ukholo ekwakheni ubudlelwane obusha. Ngaphandle kweluleko olungenhla, kubalulekile ukusho ukuthi udinga ukubeka wonke amaphuzu esikhathini esidlule bese usho okuhle kuzo zonke izinto ukuthi ngandlela-thile ziqhubeke zikhona. Khululwa imizwelo emisha futhi ecacile.
- Akudingekile ukuba ugijimele kuwo wonke umuntu,
ukuthi ukufuna umuntu ofanelekayo kufanele kwenzeke ngokusebenza. Hlaziya umuntu, uxoxe, udwebe iziphetho, ukuze uthole eyodwa. Khumbula ukuthi amadoda ayithandi amantombazane ahlukumezayo, ngakho gcina inhlanzi futhi uvumele ukuba banqobe.
Abaningi banesithakazelo ekutholeni indoda ehloniphekile yokwakha ubuhlobo obuqinile naye. Ukuqaphela kungenzeka ngokuphelele kunoma iyiphi indawo, gcina nje engqondweni ukuthi amadoda amahle awahambanga emisebenzini ehlukahlukene embi. Kholwa ukuthi umhlangano othakazelisayo uzokwenzeka maduzane bese konke kuzogcwaliseka ngokuqinisekile.