Ngisho owesifazane okhululekile kakhulu ufuna ukufunwa yilobulili obuhlukile, ngakho-ke umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu njengabesilisa kulabo besifazane, uvame ukuphakama.
Yini amadoda afana kakhulu kwabesifazane?
Amadoda athande abesifazane (ngezinye izinto ezingavamile), nalokhu kungeke kube khona umuntu ozophikisana naye, kodwa yiyiphi imbangela yokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi okubangela ukwesaba enhliziyweni yesilisa?
- Ubani othanda ukuxhumana nomuntu ongenakho futhi ongenakuhlukaniseka? Amadoda alaba besifazane awawuthandi, kodwa kuma geek angakhathazeki ngaso sonke isikhathi abonisa ukunakekelwa okukhulu.
- Abantu bathanda ukwenzani? Yiqiniso, bheka ifomu lesifazane elikhohlisa. Ngakho-ke, ukuzikhathalela nokugqoka ngokunambitheka akuyona ukuchitha isikhathi, kepha kuyadingeka kulabo abafuna ukwamukela ukubuka kwabantu.
- Ngendlela, mayelana nezingubo. Amantombazane amaningi abheka izingubo ezimnandi kakhulu, aqinisa wonke ama-bulges, ama-cuttingouts, ama-cut and short skirts, ashiye indawo yokucabanga. Futhi lapha futhi ngeze, amadoda amaningi adonsa phansi ngokubonakala. Kuyathakazelisa nakakhulu ukuthi bathathe izithako ezikhohlisayo ngeziqephu ezicashile kunokubona konke ubuhle, njengokungathi ku-ithreyi.
- Ngentombazane enomlomo neyengqondo, akulula ukuxhumana, kepha umuntu onqanda iqhwa unabantu abambalwa kakhulu okumnandi. Ngakho-ke, udinga ukuthola incazelo yegolide, funda ukulingisa imizwelo yakho, udlala ngothando, kodwa nje kancane.
- Abantu bathanda ukuzwa kunakho konke? Yebo, noma yikuphi, into esemqoka ukuthi insikazi yokugunda igqoke izindlebe zabantu. Futhi lokhu kwenzeka kuphela uma owesifazane enezwi elihle noma uyazi ukuthi angayenza kanjani. Kuye kwaphawula ukuthi amadoda ayithandi lapho owesifazane ekhuluma ngezwi elikhulu, elikhuni ngamanothi e-screechy. Kodwa kusukela ngezwi elithambile elithandekayo, labesifazane baqhakazile ngokoqobo. Uma ungenalo ingcebo enjalo ngemvelo, kufanelekile ukuqeqeshwa ukukhuluma ngokuhehayo.
- Amadoda afisa ukuzizwa evikelekile, ngakho-ke athanda ukuthi abesifazane baphendukela kubo ukuze basize. Yiqiniso, uma owesifazane ekwazi ukwenza lokhu futhi angangabazi ukumbonga umsindisi wakhe.
- Akubona bonke abesifazane abakwaziyo futhi bathanda ukudlala ngothando, futhi nakanjani, laba besifazane bathanda kakhulu amadoda. Ukudlala ngothando akukuthinteki kunoma yini, ungayenza ukuze ujabule.
- Ukuxhumana kwamehlo nendoda nakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Uma ungazi ukuthi ungabonisa kanjani imizwelo futhi ubheke amadoda ngokungafuni, khona-ke akukho izwi elikhohlisayo noma ukubukeka okumangalisayo kuzosiza.
Kunokuthokozisa othandekayo?
Konke okukhulunywe ngenhla kulungele ukuqala ukukhulumisana, futhi yini amadoda esesithandweni noma eshadile afana nawo?
- Uma ucabanga ngalokho okumele ujabulise indoda yakho ethandekayo, impela imicabango izophendukela embhedeni. Lapha izindlela zokujabulisa indoda ethandekayo yinto eningi, into esemqoka akufanele ukwesaba ukucabanga nokuletha izinto ezihlukahlukene embusweni obuseduze.
- Kodwa ebuhlotsheni, amadoda afunanga ubulili obuvamile kuphela. Badinga ukunakwa, ukunakekelwa nokuqaphela impumelelo yabo. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba amadoda ethu eze endlini lapho induduzo ibusa khona,
futhi etafuleni elinde isidlo sakusihlwa esimnandi. Yingakho amadoda ethanda kakhulu uma edunyiswa, kodwa ajabule kabili lapho owesifazane othandekayo enza lokho. - Amadoda ubulili obuqinile, ngubani ozophikisana naye, kodwa ngisho nendoda eyanele ngokwanele idinga ukwesekwa ngezikhathi ezithile zesidingo. Ngakho-ke ungenqabe othandekayo wakho ngalokhu, angakwazi ukuvuma ngokusobala ukuthi unenkinga ethile, kodwa wena, njengowesifazane ozwelayo, esipheqululini sakhe esinamahloni kanye nentshontsha ekhandayo kufanele nje ukuqagele ngesimo sengqondo esibi sakhe esikhethiwe.
- Inkululeko yabantu ibekezelela, futhi ukulahlekelwa kwayo ngokuphelele akuvumelekile. Ngisho nemizwa enothando kakhulu futhi ekhukhumezayo ingabulala ukulawula abesifazane njalo.