Amanye amantombazane abaqondi kahle ukuthi umuntu angaphila kanjani ehostlini encane futhi aneliswe ngokuya eholidini ezindaweni zokuhlala ezifuywayo. Baphupha ngezinto ezithengisa kakhulu eYurophu, ukuphumula ezindaweni zokuhlala ezihamba phambili emhlabeni kanye nezinye izinjabulo zokuphila, hhayi ukucindezelwa izindlela zabesifazane. Kodwa kanjani ukufeza lokhu? Yiba owesifazane onzima webhizinisi futhi uneminyaka engama-30 ngokuvamile ukukhohlwa ukuthi ungowesilisa wesifazane? Cha, le ndlela ayifanele wonke umuntu, kuyamangalisa kakhulu ukufuna umuntu ocebile, umxhasi, futhi ngezindleko zakhe azenzele ipharadesi. Kodwa ingabe intombazane ingathola kuphi umxhasi ocebile, ngoba kucacile ukuthi indoda enjalo emgwaqweni ayiqambi.
Ungathola kanjani umxhasi nge-Inthanethi?
Indlela elula yokuthola indoda yomxhasi ukugcwalisa uhlu lwemibuzo kwenye (noma okungcono, eziningana) kumasayithi akhethekile. Futhi ungacabangi ukuthi lokhu akuyona inketho - amadoda amaningi angathanda ukuba nesithakazelo esincane futhi esikhangayo, asinaso isikhathi esanele sokuya kumaqembu kanye nezindawo zokudlela - yisikhathi esiningi sokudla ibhizinisi. Yini ongayinikeza umxhasi ongase abe khona nokuthi ungabutha kanjani uhlu lwemibuzo engahle athinte indoda?
- Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke ukudweba izithombe. Ungenza isithombe sobuchwepheshe noma ukhethe okungcono kakhulu osevele usutholakale. Umthetho oyinhloko - ayikho imingcele engavamile noma izizinda ezimbi (i-carpet, ifenisha endala, njll). Kungaba kuhle ukuthatha izithombe ngeholidi emvelo noma kusuka kwelinye iqembu.
- Uma isithombe sikhethiwe, kufanelekile ukucabanga ngalokho okumele ubhale ngakho. Asikho isidingo sokuzicubungula, kulula kakhulu ukuphuma nemibhangqwana elula, mhlawumbe ngisho nemisho emithathu.
- Ukuqaphela izithakazelo, kufanelekile ukukhomba labo onayo ngempela umbono. Kodwa ungahlanganyeli, awutholi umsebenzi.
- Ngezinye izikhathi izintandokazi zobulili namakhono kakhulu ikakhulukazi ekusakazeni akudingekile. Ngokuthumela i-questionnaire kusayithi, wena-ke, uyavuma ubuhlobo bombhede nomxhasi, kodwa kungcono ukukhuluma ngakho konke lokhu kumuntu noma ngokuxhumana.
- Ngendlela, mayelana nokuxhumana, kufanele kube njalo-ungagijimi emhlanganweni ngemuva kwesignali yokuqala evela eceleni kwakhe. Ekugcineni, ufuna umxhasi othandekayo, hhayi umsebenzi wesigaba sezinsizakalo eziseduze, ngakho-ke ekushayweni kokuqala akudingeki noma kuphi.
Ngingayithola kanjani enye ngithole umxhasi?
I-intanethi inguqulo yebhajethi kakhulu yokusesha. Ngokwemvelo, kufanele uchithe ekubukeni kwakho - omalume ocebile bafuna amantombazane "ngomhlobiso", ngokuvamile ukubonakala komfanekiso (fashion, yini ongayenza ngakho). Kodwa konke okuzodinga ukuphola online, kuyinzuzo ukuzifaka ngosuku lokuqala. Ezimweni zokuthandana empilweni yangempela, kuzodingeka uchithe imali eyengeziwe. Okokuqala ngenxa yezindawo ezizodinga ukuvakashelwa. Pho, abantu abacebile bangaphila kuphi? Ngokusobala akukhona emakethe noma ku-cafe eshibhile. Ngakho kufanele wenze indlela yakho yokudlela, ama-nightclub (futhi, amaqembu angasese we-VIPs),
Sesha umxhasi, kuyinto enhle, kodwa akufanele ukhohlwe ngokuqapha. Okokuqala, kukhona isigaba samadoda abangenayo izigidi ngemuva kwemiphefumulo yabo, kodwa ngubani ongenza sengathi uhlakaniphile kakhulu kusihlwa ngenxa yenye ukunqoba komthando. Okwesibili, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukufuna umxhasi, kufanele uphinde ucabange ngokuthi kusho ukuthini ekuphileni kwakho nokuthi kungani uyidinga. "Ukuphumelela" empilweni enhle, kuyoba nzima ukubuyela itiye esikhwameni, ngakho-ke kuzodingeka ufeze konke okwenzayo, noma uchithe imali hhayi kuphela ekuzijabuliseni kwakho, kodwa zama ukuqiniseka ngekusasa labo. Phela, ubuhle nobusha yizinto eziphazamisayo, futhi kuze kube usuku lokuphelelwa yisikhathi aluveli muntu kufanele enze okuningi.