I-psychology yobudlelwano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi yinkinga enkulu, yafundwa ngabachwepheshe bezengqondo bamazwe ahlukene emhlabeni. Kodwa, akekho kubo onganikezwa iresiphi yonke, indlela yokwakha ubudlelwano nomuntu. Into kuphela ongayisho ngokuqinisekile ukuthi kulula kakhulu ukulondoloza ubuhlobo obuhle nomyeni wakho kunokuzama ukubuyisela okulahlekile. Cabanga ngezimo ezivame kakhulu lapho owesifazane angabhekana nazo.
- Indlela yokubuyisela ubuhlobo obuseduze nomyeni wakhe emva kokubeletha. Ukuphila ngokocansi kwabaqashi kuyingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni yomndeni, edlala indima enkulu ebuhlotsheni. Ngenxa yezici zokuphila komuntu wesifazane, ngesikhathi socansi nokukhulelwa, ubuhlobo bobulili buya ngemuva. Kuncike ekutheni umfazi usinda kanjani ngokushesha ekuzalweni kwengane, inkathi ngaphandle kocansi ivela ezinyangeni ezimbili kuya kwezingu-8. Ungaqala ubuhlobo bobulili nomyeni wakho ngokushesha nje uma owesifazane ezwa ekulungele. Ukulibazisa le mzuzu akufanelekile, ngoba isikhathi eside sokuziqeda nokubonakala komuntu omusha emndenini kungathinta kabi ubuhlobo nomlingani wakho. Kuphela ngokuphila okugcwele ngokobulili, indoda ngeke ikwazi ukuzizwa inganaki, futhi ngeke ihlupheke ngenxa yokuntuleka komkakho.
- Indlela yokugcina ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe. Lo mbuzo ubuzwa abesifazane abasecaleni lapho bebuhlobo nomyeni wakhe kunobanda nokuhlukanisa. Izazi zengqondo zithi eminyakeni emi-5-7 emva komshado, isikhathi sabantu abashadile abajwayele ukuhlangana komunye nomunye, imizwa yangaphambili kanye nesifiso saphela, futhi ishintshwa isigaba esisha sobudlelwane. Uma kumyeni nomfazi iminyaka eminingi yokuphila okuhlangene kwakungenzeka ukubeka ithemba nokuhlonipha, isigaba esilandelayo sokuphila komndeni sikwazi ukuthuthukisa kuphela lokho. Uma kungenjalo, izingxabano, ama-scandals kanye nezikhalazo azivamile. Ukuze ugcine ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe, okokuqala, kudingeka ukhokhele kakhulu umlingani nomshado. Okulandelayo, kufanele uqale isiko - usuku olulodwa ngesonto lokuchitha kanye nomyeni wakhe ngendlela bobabili abayifunayo. Londoloza ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe basize izinhlelo ezihlangene, imibono kanye nezingxoxo zabo. Hlela ukuphumula okuhlanganyelwe kanye nebhizinisi, ukubonwa kwezenzo kanye nezenzo, njalo ulale ucansi, futhi ubuhlobo ngeke bugcinwe kuphela, kodwa buqiniswe kakhulu.
- Indlela yokwakha ubuhlobo nomyeni wangaphambili. Indoda yangaphambili, naphezu kokuba ehlala esikhathini esedlule, iyaqhubeka ingabonakali ekuphileni komuntu wesifazane, ikakhulukazi uma banezingane ezivamile. Ukunquma amaqhinga wokuziphatha kanye nobuhlobo nomyeni wangaphambili kungenzeka kuphela kowesifazane, kuye ngokuthi ubuhlobo bomshado bomuntu obesanda kuhlukaniswa nabo buhlukana kanjani. Kunoma yikuphi, kudingeka ukhethe isikhundla esinokuthula nesingenakubuhlungu kakhulu, okuzokuvumela ukuba uxhumane nomyeni wangaphambili njengoba kudingekile futhi ungakhulumi ngezikhalazo ezidlule. Njengoba ubudlelwane bomyeni nomfazi wangaphambili begcinwa nobungane kakhulu, umuntu kufanele alondoloze ibanga elithile njalo.
- Ubudlelwano nabantwana bomyeni wakhe. Izingane zomyeni zidlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakhe. Ngakho-ke, ubuhlobo obuhle nabantwana bomyeni buyisiqinisekiso sobuhlobo obuqinile phakathi kwabashade. Ngaphambi kokuba uvume isipho sokushada, owesifazane kufanele ahlole ubuningi nokuqapha futhi abone ukuthi usekulungele ukwamukela izingane zomyeni wakhe.
Ngoba kule nqubo yokuphila komndeni kuyoba sekwephuzile kakhulu ukunquma lo mbuzo. Ebudlelwaneni nezingane (ikakhulukazi uma izingane zomyeni wakhe zisencane), kubalulekile ukuthi ukwazi ukugcina ibanga futhi kungabi khona. Izingane kufanele zinikezwe ithuba lokuzitholela kancane kancane izinto ezintsha futhi zamukele umkakho omusha kababa.
Ubuhlobo obubi nomyeni wakhe akuyona isizathu sokuhlukanisa, kodwa yisizathu sokuzizwa. Njengoba ukuphila komkhaya okujabulisayo akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokusekelwa nokwethenjwa komlingani wakho. Njengoba ukubuyela ebuhlotsheni nomyeni wakhe kungaba nzima kakhulu, wonke owesifazane kufanele aqaphele ukuthi endlini yakhe kunesimo somusa nesobungane ngaso sonke isikhathi.