Uma othile ethi intombazane iyathakazelisa, ufaka incazelo yakhe ngombono wayo. Nokho, kunoma yikuphi, isikhulumi sisho uhlobo oluthile lokuhluka kwabanye.
Ungaba kanjani intombazane ehlakaniphile nesithakazelisayo kwabanye?
Ukwenza lokhu kwenzeke, udinga ukuba nezimfanelo eziningi:
- thola abanye ngokucophelela, kodwa hhayi ukukhathazeka;
- ekukhulumisaneni nabantu - abanobungane nabanobubele;
- uma kudingekile, ukwazi ukusekela izingxoxo ngezihloko ezihlukahlukene, ukubonisa ulwazi lwabo ezinkingeni ezahlukene;
- zigcine ngesithunzi, ngaphandle kokuhlazisa abanye.
Uma ungenalo izimfanelo eziqinile zomholi, futhi imizwa akuyona njalo imiphumela yezenzakalo ezijabulisayo, kodwa ukhathazekile ngombuzo wokuthi ungaba kanjani intombazane ethandekayo, kuzodingeka usebenze ngokwakho:
- funda ukulalela nokuzwa okungafani;
- ukulawula imizwelo yabo, hhayi nje okungalungile, kodwa futhi okuhle;
- Qaphela ukubukeka kwakho, ukuba ukhangele ngokwanele futhi kwangempela, kodwa hhayi okusobala.
Akudingeki uzihlukumeze ngombuzo wokuthi ungaba kanjani umxhwele kubantu, uma owesifazane engakalungi kuphela, kodwa futhi ohlakaniphile. Okusho ukuthi, ukuhlanganyela nabo ekuxoxweni nabo ngokulingana okulinganayo, ngaphandle kokukhohlwa ukuyeka ngesikhathi, futhi ukungabandakanyeki emibambiswaneni ende futhi ephakeme kulokhu noma leyo nkinga - amadoda ayithandi. Konke kufanele kube ukulinganisela: ukuqoqa, imizwelo , inkululeko yokuxhumana. Ukuqokwa kwesinye nangakolunye uhlangothi kuyingozi.
Indlela yokuthakazelisa umyeni?
Kodwa kuyinto eyodwa yokuvusa intshisekelo yabalingani emsebenzini, abangane, omakhelwane. Enye kufanele ibe mnandi kumyeni wakho. Lokhu kudinga okuningi, futhi kancane ngesikhathi esisodwa:
- khumbula ukuthi awuyena umlawuli, kodwa indoda ayikho ngaphansi kwakho;
- wazi mayelana nokuzilibazisa nokuzilibazisa komlingani futhi ungamphuli ithuba lokukwenza lokho akuthandayo;
- ukuba nesithakazelo ezinkingeni zomyeni wakhe futhi abonise isifiso sokumsiza noma, okungenani, ukulalela nokuzwelana;
- Yazi ukuthi umyeni unesithakazelo yini futhi okungenani ube nokuqonda okuncane kwalokhu, esekela ingxoxo.