Ngaphandle kwesenzakalo esingavamile ukuthi ungayithola entombazaneni encane: "Lapho sengimdala, ngizoshada nobaba wami." Abafana abaneminyaka emithathu noma emihlanu bavame ukuthi batshade nomama wabo, futhi uzobabeletha abafowabo noma odadewabo.
I-Oedipus complex ngokusho kukaFreud isho ukuphikisana kwengqondo phakathi kwesimo somntwana sokubamba umzali wobulili obuhlukile ngokocansi nokuvinjelwa kwalesi senzo. UFreud waqala ukukhuluma ngesakhiwo esiyinkimbinkimbi yezingane eqala ekuqaleni kwekhulu leminyaka elidlule, kodwa emva kweminyaka engamashumi eminyaka yombono wakhe.
Ukwelashwa kwengxube ye-oedipal ebuntwaneni kuyadingeka. Ngaphambili wena, njengomzali, ubhekane nale nkinga, ubunzima obuncane obuzoba khona esikhathini esizayo. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukugula kwengqondo kubonakala ngentshiseko yengane, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale uthintana nomntwana, zama ukuthola kuye ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngomzali wobulili obuhlukile, ukuthi uzizwa kanjani manje, yiziphi imicabango ayenayo ngobaba noma umama wakhe. Yiba oqotho futhi ulalele ingane yakho, ungamphazamisi nhlobo - mnike ithuba lokuziveza kuwe futhi ukhulume. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba uhlaziye isimo bese ucabanga ngesisombululo sakho. Uma uziphatha ngokuqinile, ngokuqhubekayo ekuxazululeni ubunzima be-Oedipus, uzokwazi ukuxazulula le nkinga nengane yakho.
I-Oedipus complex in abesifazane
I-Oedipus complex in amantombazane iboniswa ekuqinisekiseni okukhethekile kukayise. Ukukhula, intombazane ingaqala ngisho nokuziphatha kabi nangokungahambi kahle ngokuphathelene nomama, ngenxa yomhawu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, esikhathini esizayo, amantombazane anesifo sokuxilongwa angase abe nezinkinga zokuxhumana nobulili obuhlukile, ekwakheni ubuhlobo bawo, ngoba "akulula ukuthola uPapa".
Uma abazali bengakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obuvumelanayo emndenini, futhi ubaba ngeke abonise ukunakekelwa ngokweqile intombazane, bese ekugcineni ingane ingasusa isakhiwo se-Oedipus, silingana nonina. Okubalulekile ukuthembela nobuhlobo obufudumele phakathi komama nendodakazi phakathi nalesi sikhathi sobuhlobo babo, futhi ubaba kufanele azame ukuthuthukisa ezinganeni zakhe ukuthi esikhathini esizayo uzomsiza abe ngowesifazane .
Kubalulekile ukuqeda inkinga ye-Oedipus ebuntwaneni, ngaphandle kwalokho intombazane, futhi esikhathini esizayo owesifazane angase abe nezinkinga ezinkulu ezingokwengqondo. Angakwazi ukuhlala phakade othandweni noyise, kule ndoda ekahle. Lokhu kungaholela ekwenzeni ukwakha impilo yabo siqu, noma owesifazane uzoxhumanisa isiphetho sakhe nomuntu omdala kakhulu kunalo - ngokusemandleni.
I-Oedipus complex in amadoda
UFreud wabonisa umbono wakhe ukuthi isakhiwo se-Oedipus siyisijeziso sobulili besilisa sonke. Uma isakhiwo se-oedipus siqala ukuzibonakalisa kubafana, kubalulekile ukuletha ingane yakho kulokhu kugula kwengqondo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Emadodaneni ase-Oedipus, le nkimbinkimbi ibonakala kanje: ingane inesifiso sokuba nomama ngokocansi, futhi bayibona uyise ngaleso sikhathi njengompikiswano. Konke lokhu kwenzeka, eqinisweni, ezingeni eliphansi. Kubalulekile ngesikhathi
Lapho eseyingane, isakhiwo se-oedipus singase sinyamalale uma kunikwa isikhathi sokunakwa futhi sithathe inkinga yengane ngokujulile. Okubaluleke kakhulu phakathi nalesi sikhathi kukhona ubudlelwane obuvumelana phakathi kwabazali.
Uma umfana wakho enesifiso esiqhubekayo sokuba umkakhe, ubonisa ukuthembela okuqinile ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo kuwe, ngakho kufanele uqaphele lokhu futhi uqale ukulwa nale nkinga. Okokuqala, kufanele kube nobuhlobo obuhambelana phakathi komyeni nomfazi. Kancane kancane, lo mfana uqala ukukopisha ukuziphatha kukababa ngesibindi bese inkinga iyophela ngokwayo.