Namuhla, inani lokuhlambalaza phakathi kwentsha likhula njalo. Mat akuyona into engejwayelekile, ithululela kithi evela yonke indawo, ngisho nasezikrinini ze-TV, futhi hhayi njalo emlonyeni wesilisa.
Kungani befungela ngomuthi?
Izizathu zokuthi kungani amantombazane asebenzisa amagama angcolile enkulumweni yabo ahlukile. I-vocabulary engafanele ingaba umphumela wokukhuliswa kabi noma okungakanele. Uma abazali basebenzisa umlingani, akumangalisi ukuthi intombazane ibheka njengendlela evamile yokuxhumana futhi isebenzise ngenkulumo yakhe.
Kusukela eminyakeni ethile, ngaphezu kokufundisa abazali enganeni kanye nentsha, abantu abazungezile banomthelela omkhulu. Ofunda nabo, ofunda nabo kanye nenkampani egcekeni banethonya elikhulu ekuziphatheni nasekuxoxweni kwentombazane yanamuhla. Uma esimweni sakhe baxoxa nomama, ngakho-ke akanalo umbuzo ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukufunga, kuzobonakala sengathi kuyindlela evamile yokuxhumana.
Ukucasula isifiso intombazane ukusebenzisa amagama angcolile kungaba isimo esicindezelayo. Kwezinye izimo kungcono ukusebenzisa inhlamba, ukukhipha imizwelo eqoqwe nayo, kunokuba ugcine konke uqobo.
Kungenzeka yini ukufunga ngomlingani?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi amantombazane afunge isici se-moot. Ukucabangela ubulili obuhle njengamadalwa amancane, yiqiniso, ulimi oluhlazo ngeke lube kubo. Akuyona into enhle futhi ayikho emthethweni, ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi labantu likhetha ukuxhumana namantombazane angasebenzisi amagama aqinile enkulumweni yabo. Kodwa-ke, wonke umuntu ungumuntu, futhi kusemqoka kuye ukuthi anqume ukuthi yini enhle kuye nokuthi yini embi kuye.
Ungakhohlwa kanjani ukufunga?
Uma kunjalo kunqunywe ukwenza umzamo wokondla intombazane
Mat yenza inkulumo ibe namandla. Mhlawumbe ngosizo lwamagama ahlambalaza intombazane izama ukuheha. Khuluma ngenhliziyo yakhe ngenhliziyo, futhi uthole isizathu sangempela sokusebenzisa ulimi lwakhe oluhlukumezayo.