Ezokwelapha, kunezinkinga eziningi ezingqondweni, ezibizwa ngokuthi i-phobias. Icala ngalinye lidinga indlela eyodwa kanye nokwelashwa okunempilo ngaphansi kokuqondiswa kochwepheshe onolwazi. Ukwesaba isizungu kubizwa ngokuthi ukuzithiba.
Iyini ukuzethemba?
Ukuzimela ngokwemvelo kuyinkinga yengqondo esekelwe ukwesaba ukuba yedwa ngokwakho. Ngezinye izikhathi kuthiwa yi-monophobia noma i-isolophobia. Ukuzimela ngokwemvelo, njengezinye izifo zengqondo, kubalulekile ngokushesha ukukhomba nokuqala ukwelashwa. Iziguli ezinjalo azigcini ukwesaba ukuthi zodwa, kodwa ngokuvamile zicabanga ngokuzibulala. Ngakho-ke, izinyathelo ezifike ngesikhathi azikwazi nje ukuqeda ukwesaba, kodwa zingasindisa impilo yomuntu. Ngokwezibalo, phakathi kweziguli ezinokuzimela ngokweqile, kutholakala ukuzibulala abaningi.
Ukugxila - izimpawu
Izimpawu zokuqala zingabonakalisa ebusheni. Ingane, eyedwa yedwa, ibhekana nesimo sokwesaba nokungavikeleki, futhi ibonakalisa ngezinyembezi nokuhlambalaza. Ukubonakaliswa kwe-somatic of pathology kuboniswa nge-neurodermatitis nezinye izifo zesikhumba. Uma ukwamukela esikoleni, ukwesaba isizungu kuyanda, ama-phobia aqina ngokwengeziwe. Abantwana besikole besaba ukuhlala bodwa nezinkinga nezinkinga zabo, futhi ngokuvamile bawela "ezinkampanini ezimbi".
Njengoba abadala bekhula, baqala ukwesaba ukuhlala bodwa lapho bekhulile, bengatholi umlingani wabo. Uma konke kuvela kahle, lo mbhalo washada, isifo sakhe sibonisa ubukhwele obunzima kumlingani wakhe. Ngaphezu kokuphila komuntu siqu, iziguli zithola ubunzima ekuphileni. Idijithali elincane nelinye eliphakathi kwe-pathology alibonakali kakhulu kwabanye.
Izici eziyinhloko zihlanganisa:
- ukuphazamiseka okuvamile kwangaphakathi kanye nenjabulo;
- ukunganaki kwengqondo nokukhathazeka;
- ukulangazelela ukuzigcwalisa kwezenzo ezithile (ezimweni ezinzima kakhulu, isiguli asikwazi ukungena endlini yokugezela yedwa, sidinga ukwesekwa yonke indawo);
- lapho yedwa, isiguli sesaba ukwesaba kwesizungu, umqondo ongcono wokujabula nokukhathazeka;
- ukungabi nethuba lokuhlanganyela emisebenzini edinga ukuzimela;
- ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, isiguli ngokuvamile sinombuso ocindezelayo ngokuthambekela okusobala okuzibulala.
Kungani abantu besaba isizungu?
Izakhamuzi eziningi zengqondo zikholelwa ukuthi ukwesaba isizungu kuvela ebuntwaneni ngenxa yokuntuleka kokunakekelwa kwabazali, ukuntuleka kokuxhumana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Intuthuko ibonakala uma ingane isesimweni lesi kuze kube seminyaka emithathu. Uma lesi sifo sibonakala ekukhuleni, lokhu kungenziwa lula ngu:
- ukuhamba okusheshayo kokuphila;
- umsebenzi ohlala njalo;
- ukungabi nesikhathi somuntu siqu;
- ukuhlukanisana nomlingani;
- ukufa komuntu othandekayo.
Ukwesaba isizungu - kwengqondo
Ochwepheshe bayaqiniseka ukuthi okungenani kanye ngesikhathi sokuphila umuntu ngamunye wayezwa ukwesaba isizungu. Abantu abaningi, beqaphela ukuthi lesi akusona isinqumo, bakwazi ukubhekana nakho ngokuphumelelayo futhi bathola abangane bangempela, badala imindeni futhi baphile ngokujabula njalo. Labo 'abanqotshwa' yiziqu zokuzizwa benesizungu, baba iziboshwa zesimo. Lezi zifo zithinta kakhulu futhi zivamile ezweni lanamuhla, ngemuva kwalokho kunezinkinga eziningi, isibonelo:
- ukuthembela kwengqondo;
- ukuhlaselwa kwesaba;
- izifo ze-psychosomatic.
Ukwesaba isizungu kwabesifazane
Isizathu esiyinhloko esenza abesifazane besabe isizungu kuyisizotha kakhulu, esakhiwa ebuntwaneni nasekukhuleni. Njengomthetho, lesi simo sengqondo sasizibangelwa ukuhlekwa usulu ngabanye, kuhlanganise nobulili obuhlukile, mayelana nokubukeka, isigaba sesisindo, ukusebenza esikoleni esikoleni. Ukukhula, akuwona wonke owesifazane ongakwazi ngempela ukuhlola isimo, ngakho uhlala emphefumulweni wengane engenakuqiniseka ngaye. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ukholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi akekho ozoyithatha ngokungathí sina, engavumeli muntu ukuba asondele kuye.
Ukwesaba isizungu emadodeni
Njengabesifazane, amadoda ayesaba isizungu, nakuba anezinye izizathu eziningana zalokhu. Bayiqaphele kakhulu ekunamathiselwe kwentombazane futhi abafuni ngempela ukushintsha imikhuba. Uma owesifazane ngokwemvelo kudingeka azinakekele izihlobo, ukwesaba umuntu ukuzungulelwa kuyesaba ukuthi akekho ozomnakekela. Amanye amagciwane aqinile kangangokuthi alungele ukumema owesifazane ukuba athuthele kuye izinsuku eziningana emva komhlangano wokuqala.
Ungakuyeka kanjani ukwesaba isizungu?
Ngezinye izikhathi kuyinkinga ukubona ukugula, ngisho nodokotela onolwazi. Ukunquma ukugula, ochwepheshe baye bahlakulela imibuzo eminingi, imibuzo kanye nemihlahlandlela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhulumisana komuntu siqu nesiguli kusiza ukuhlonza i-pathology ku-psychotherapists abaqeqeshiwe. Umuntu ozesaba isizungu kufanele afunde izifundo ze-psychotherapy. Izifundo zenziwa eqenjini futhi ngasese. Isiguli sidinga ukuqonda ukuthi ukwelashwa kwe-phobia kuyinde, ngezinye izikhathi kuthatha iminyaka engama-3 yeseshini ejwayelekile. Ezimweni ezimbi, isiguli simiswe ngemithi.
Ungakunqoba kanjani ukwesaba isizungu wena? Ngokusho kochwepheshe, ukuqwashisa inkinga kusencane sekuvele impumelelo. Bancoma ukuthi bangazivali, kepha babelane ngesaba kwabo nabantu abaseduze. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanelekile ukuvakashela izingxenye zezemidlalo, hamba nabangani ohambweni. Imizwelo emihle kanye nokubonakala okucacile kuyosiza ukubuyela empilweni evamile bese ususa ama-phobia.