Ngamunye wethu empilweni kunezimo lapho imizwelo emibi nemicabango edabukisayo yenqotshwa, okuyinto eqhubekayo yokwehlisa isimo sengqondo esivele sibi. Kungaphansi kwalesi simo ukuthi umbuzo uvela kanjani ukuphazamiseka emicabangweni emibi bese ubuyela ekuphileni okuvamile. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuba ziqale ukuqonda nokuhlaziya isimo, ukuqonda ukuthi yini eyabangela ngempela isimo samanje.
Indlela yokuphazamisa emicabangweni edabukisayo?
Inkinga yesimo esingokomzwelo esibi, njengomthetho, sinesizathu esicacile, esingaqhubeki sisuka kithi ngokweqile. Ngokuvamile zibangelwa ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka, ukungaqiniseki esikhathini esizayo, le mizwa yakha ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo. Indlela yokuphazamiseka kulezi zingqondo ezimbi kanye nezinkathazo, ngoba uma uvumela ukwesaba, ukukhipha kunzima kakhulu.
Lapho ebuzwa indlela yokuphunyuka emicabangweni evumayo, ochwepheshe bayeluleka:
- Uma umuntu ebhekene nesaba nokukhathazeka njalo, kubalulekile ukucabanga ngesimo lapho konke okwesaba kwakhe kwenze khona. Kumele sizibuze umbuzo: "Kuzokwenzekani uma ukwesaba kwami kugcwaliseka?" Ezimweni eziningi, kuyasiza ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuphila akupheli lapho. Isibonelo, umuntu wesaba ukuxoshwa, ecabanga ukuthi lokhu sekuvele kwenzeke, futhi imicabango yakhe yaphendukela ekuxazululeni inkinga, okungukuthi, ukufuna umsebenzi omusha noma enye imali engenayo.
- Ukuhlaziywa kwamanani kuyisigaba esibalulekile ekulwa nemicabango emibi. Kwanele nje ukuzola futhi ubhale ngokuhlehlisa zonke izindinganiso zokuphila nezinto ezibalulekile. Beka eceleni ihora noma amabili, bese uphinde ubheke lolu hlu. Futhi kuvela ukuthi impilo yabathandekayo ibaluleke ngaphezu kokulahlekelwa umsebenzi, injabulo yengane ibaluleke ngaphezu kokudumazeka kothando.
Indlela yokuphuma emicabangweni emibi - iseluleko sabangqondo bezengqondo
Iseluleko esiwusizo, indlela yokuphazamisa emicabangweni edabukisayo izazi zengqondo ezinikeza:
- Kufanele sifunde ukuphazamiseka. Kulezi zindaba zokuzilibazisa nokuzilibazisa kuhle.
- Yenza ukuzivocavoca. Ezinye izazi zengqondo zeluleka lapho ziqala ukunqoba
imicabango emibi, ngokukhululeka ikhula umzimba wakho - ukuhlala-ups, ukuqhuma, ukugijima. Lapho imisipha isebenza emkhawulweni, imizwelo iphela. - Isijeziso sokudabuka. Ukuzivocavoca okulula ukubeka ibhande le-raber esandleni sakho futhi nganoma imuphi umcabango omubi ukuyidonsela emuva bese uchofoza esandleni, hhayi ngokuncane, kodwa ngokumangalisa. Ubuchopho bubhekene nobuhlungu obukhulu, isikhathi ngasinye lapho sithola isignali yobuhlungu ngemicabango edabukisayo, kuyobagwema.
Isimo esibonakala ngathi siphelile, sinesisombululo. Udinga nje ukwenza umzamo bese uqala ukwenza.