Unxantathu kaCarpman kuyisibonelo esithile sokuziphatha kwabantu, kuyindlela enhle yokubheka izingxabano ezenzeka kithi ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Izingxabano zingaba nomlingiswa ohlukile nesilinganiso, zingaba zicacile noma ezifihliwe. Isibonelo se-Carpman triangle siyasisiza ukuba siqonde konke.
Unxantathu odumile kaKarpman
Njengawo wonke ama-triangles, unxantathu kaCarpman unama-angles amathathu, okusho amamodeli amathathu ekukhulumisaneni. Abantu abaningi abaqapheli iqiniso lokuthi bahileleke emdlalweni wengqondo , lapho baqhubeka beshintsha khona izindima, lapho bamukela khona imizwelo eqinile kanye nelungelo elingenakukwazi ukubuyela emuva ekuxazululeni izinkinga zabo. Ababambiqhaza enxantathu emangalisayo kaCarpman ba:
- Umphishekeli (P). Indima engenacala futhi ejabulisayo. Lowo ophishekela, njengomthetho, akaqapheli nokuthi unjalo, akaqapheli ukuthi "ngephutha lakhe" impilo yomuntu ingabhujiswa.
- Umhlatshelo (F). Wonke umuntu ohlukumezekile uyaqiniseka ukuthi unecala, uhlale eshintsha omunye umuntu icala, ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuthi impande yazo zonke izinkinga zakhe umbono ongalungile wezwe langaphandle. Ezweni lethu akukho okuhle nokubi, kukhona kuphela isimo sengqondo kulokhu noma lowo mcimbi.
- Umkhululi (C). Umsindisi nguye ozobe eseduzane noma kamuva aqale ukuphatha, ngenkathi yena ngokwakhe ezophendukela kulokho. Ngokungaqondile, uma kungenjalo kumsindisi, mhlawumbe unxantathu uzophela, ngoba uma engazange afinyelele kumzuzwana "olungile", mhlawumbe wayeyokhohlwa ngosizi lwakhe futhi ngabe wayephila phambili, kodwa uhlale ephethe "ngesikhathi".
Okumangalisa ukuthi bonke laba bantu bahlala beshintsha izindima. Ukuze uqonde kahle ukuthi unxantathu kaCarpman usebenza kanjani nokuthi ungakugwema kanjani ukuzibandakanya kulo mdlalo wengqondo, ake sibheke unxantathu ophawulekayo wezibonelo zikaCarpman:
- I-Psychiatrist yakudala (P) - I-Client (F) - I-Psychiatrist entsha (C).
- Umfazi (P) - Umyeni (F) - Mfundisi (C).
- Umyeni (P) - Umfazi (F) - Umngane Wowesifazane (C).
Njengomthetho, kulabo bantu abathathu abathintekayo banamathela isikhathi eside, bebambe iqhaza njalo. Ngenxa yalokho, ngokuqinisekile abaxazulula le nkinga, kodwa bathola imizwelo enamandla eyenza ukukholelwa kokuphila okukhazimulayo, okuthakazelisayo.
Unxantathu kaCarpman kanjani ukuphuma?
Ukuze uthole indlela yokuphuma kule nxantathu, kufanele ulandele amathiphu alandelayo:
- Okokuqala, kudingeka uqaphele ukuthi uhileleke kulo, futhi ubone ukuthi ulahlekelwa kanjani indima ngayinye.
- Shintsha ukuziphatha kwabo, baqale ukuziphatha ngokuvumelana nesimo sabo nobudala babo (ingane isengqondo - njengomuntu omdala, omdala - ngokuhlakanipha nangokwethenjelwa - njengobaba nomama).
- Yeka ukuba "zombie", qala ukuziphatha njengomuntu ophilayo ovamile. Ebudlelwaneni ubeka ibanga elihle, nabantu abaseduze ukugcina ubudlelwane obuseduze, ukuhlonipha nokubathanda.
Ungafunda amasu akhethekile engikhuthaza wona ukuthi inxantathu yomkhiqizo kaCarpman:
- buka ngomusa isimo owake wadlala ngalo noma leyo ndima. Futhi ukumhleka ngobuqotho;
- zama ukufuna "izinzuzo" kunoma yisiphi isimo futhi uzithole ngokwabo indlela yokwenza okunengqondo futhi eyaneleyo efanayo
bazuze ukukhipha; - uzizwe umzimba wakho, uqondise amahlombe akho, uqondise, uthathe umoya ojulile uphakamise. Ngelinye igama, zizwe ubukhulu bakho bese uthola amandla okuphuma enxantwini engenalutho.
Eqinisweni, inxantathu yeCarpman iyithuluzi elihle kakhulu ongayilahla kalula kulokho okumele kwenzeke empilweni yakho. Le modeli ivumela umuntu onenhloko ukuba angene ezinhlokweni eziningi, futhi akhohlwe ukuthi unobungane obuqondile nakho konke okwenzeka kuye. Sombulula inkinga futhi uthole indlela yokuphuma "kumbuthano" ovaliwe, ungakwazi kuphela ukuqaphela nokuhlaziya isimo sonke.