Kukhona abantu abonakala bengenakuhlanya. Sibahawukela futhi sikholwe ukuthi bazalwa kanjalo, babenenhlanhla nje. Kodwa-ke, empeleni, ukuzinza kwengqondo akuyona neze into ezalwa yumuntu.
Kuyini ukuzinza kwengqondo?
Igama elithi ukuzinza kwengqondo komuntu ngokwengqondo ngokwayo lisho amandla okugcina ukusebenza kahle kwe-psyche ezimweni eziguqukayo, ngaphansi kokucindezeleka. Lesi sakhiwo sobuntu asidluliswanga ngezakhi zofuzo, kepha sikhula kanye nokubunjwa kobuntu.
Ukuzinza kwengqondo nezomzwelo kuncike ekutheni uhlobo lwesimiso sezinzwa (okuyinto engavamile), ekuhlangenwe nakho komuntu komuntu, ngamakhono, izinga lokuqeqeshwa kochwepheshe, ikhono lokuziphatha emphakathini, uhlobo lomsebenzi, njll. Lokhu kungukuthi, singafingqa ukuthi leyo nto (mhlawumbe, isinqumo esinqunyiwe) isifo sangasese. Lena uhlobo lomsebenzi wesaba. Kodwa konke okunye kuxhomeke kithi. Ngemuva kwalokho, umuntu oye wafunda futhi wanqoba izinkinga ezingaphezu kweyodwa uzoba ozinzile kakhulu kunalowo okhulele "ezimweni zokushisa". Okufanayo kuya enhlangothini ephikisanayo yemali: uma kunokucindezeleka okukhulu empilweni yomuntu, izinzwa zakhe ziyagxila nje, futhi uphendula ngokujulile kunoma iyiphi imininingwane.
Noma kunjalo, ukuzinza kwengqondo akuqinisekisi ukuzinza kuzo zonke izinto emhlabeni. Lokhu akukhona ukuzinza, ukuzinza kwesimiso sezinzwa, okungukuthi ukuguquguquka. Isici esiyinhloko sokumelana kwengqondo nokucindezeleka ukuhamba kwe-psyche ekushintsheni komunye umsebenzi kuya kwesinye.
Indlela yokwandisa ukuzinza kwengqondo?
Uma singeke sishintshe uhlobo lomsebenzi wesifo, khona-ke singathonya konke okunye. Asikwazi ukushintsha umhlaba, sishintsha isimo sengqondo kulokho okwenzekayo.
Ngakho-ke, sizoqala ukuthuthukiswa kokuzinza kwengqondo kusukela kuncane kakhulu. Isibonelo, wahlambalaza, uzizwa uhlazo, intukuthelo, ukuhlazeka, njll. Awukwazi ukushintsha iqiniso lokho okwenzekile, kodwa ungashintsha ukusabela kwakho, okuyinto, eqinisweni, okuphazamisa. Sicela uqaphele: awucasuli ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho inja ehlabayo igijima. Ungakwenza futhi ngokuhlambalaza. Vele uyilahle ngaphandle kwekhanda lakho.
Ukwandisa ukuzinza kwengqondo, kuyadingeka, okokuqala, ukudala izimo ezikhululekile zokuphila, ukuze ungathukutheli lutho futhi ulingane. Uma unciphisa imvelo (futhi lokhu kuyisimo sangasese somsebenzi wesenzo, akukho lutho okumelwe lwenziwe), umuntu kufanele akhe impilo yakhe ukuze kube khona
Okwesibili, ukuphumula kwesimiso sezinzwa. Kuhle kusiza ukuhlala ngaphandle kwedolobha, ngokwemvelo. Uma uhlelo lwakho lwezinzwa luphumula, luzoqina ngokwengeziwe ebusweni bokucindezeleka.
Futhi okwesithathu, uma ukucindezeleka kubangelwa ukuphikisana okuqhubekayo kwezifiso (isidingo) kanye nezimiso, umuntu udinga ukubukeza izimiso ukuze anelise izifiso zabo, noma isidingo abaphikisana nezimiso. Isibonelo, uma udinga ukwenza okuthile emsebenzini ophazamisa ukuziphatha kwakho, cabanga ngokushintsha uhlobo lomsebenzi.