Leli gama lingatholakala kaningi emahlokweni ahlukahlukene emfundo yezingane. Uthando oluthandekayo luyisifiso esinamandla somntwana ukuba abe njalo nomama. Omama abaningi abasha bavame ukubhekana nesimo esinjalo, kodwa kukhona nalabo besifazane abangazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani ngokwabo.
Lisho ukuthini igama elithi affective attachment?
Incazelo yalo mqondo ingatholakala emisebenzini ehlukahlukene kwi-psychology yentuthuko yengane. Isifiso esinamandla somntwana ukuba sisondele njalo kumama - yilokho okusho ukuthinta ukuthatha isikhathi. Qinisekisa ukuthi umntwana ubhekene nalesi simo esithile silula. Njengomthetho, izingane ezinjalo azifuni ukushiya abazali bazo ngomzuzu owodwa. Abangeke banesithakazelo emidlalweni nezinye izingane, bonke abafuna ukuba nomama ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abazali ababhekana nokuziphatha okunjalo kaningi bathi ingane ihlela ukudabuka ngisho nalapho umama eshiya ekamelweni ekhishini ngaphandle kokuthatha naye.
Izizathu zokubonakala okunamathiselwe okunjalo ngokweqile zingaba izinto ezihluke ngokuphelele. Ngesikhathi esithile, umntwana unenkinga ye-Oedipus noma i-Electra complex . Kule nkathi lapho kungase kube khona izibonakaliso zokunamathisela ezithintekayo ezodlula isikhathi. Odokotela bezengqondo abangaphezu kakhudlwana bacabangela isimo lapho umama ngokwakhe edala ukuziphatha okunjalo emntwaneni.
Ukuziphatha kwabazali nomthelela wabo ezinganeni
Abanye omama, ngenxa yemvelo yabo, bona ngokwabo bakha ukuthinteka kwabathintekayo ezinganeni. Ngokujwayelekile lokhu kwenzeka uma owesifazane enikeza ingane isignali ezimbili, isibonelo, ngesikhathi esifanayo amthinta umntwana, okungukuthi, umkhombisa uthando lwakhe nesimo sakhe, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uyamgxeka.
Izazi zengqondo zeluleka abazali ukuba baqaphe ngokucophelela izimpawu abazithumela ezinganeni zabo. Ingane kufanele iqonde ngokucacile ukuthi imiphi imilayezo ayithola kumama wayo. Ebunsheni kunzima ukuqonda ukuvela kwemizwelo ethile. Ingane imane nje ayikwazi ukubona ukuthi unina uyamshaya futhi uyambamba ngesikhathi esifanayo ngoba wayethukile kakhulu. Kodwa uzizwa ukuthi kukhona into engavamile eyenzekayo, okusho ukuthi, esabisayo. Ukuzama ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwabazali kungabangela ingane ukuba ihlale isondelene nonina ngaso sonke isikhathi.